Had any issues with controlling b/friends?

[LeftHandedMouse]

Daughter is 16, but not very mature. Much as she claims to be devoted to her b/f we're a bit concerned he is totally controlling her life.

What are the tell tale things we should look out for?

Thanks

[taxi4ballet]

Oh dear, how worrying for you - what is it that you have noticed that is concerning you? In what way do you think he is controlling?

[LeftHandedMouse]

He whistles, she comes.

He doesn't change any of his arrangements but expects her to fit in with his.

She spends hours getting ready just to go to his house. They never go out from there.

He constantly asks her to stay over at his.

When we tell her to be home she's constantly late and often preceded with a text skiing if she can stay.

She sometimes breaks down in tears because he is possessive. He has no friends, doesn't want her to see her friends instead if him.

She has unexplained bruising.

Yeah I know... Just wanted an alternstive perspective.

[Coffeeinapapercup]

Start talking about boundaries and appropriate boundaries and inappropriate boundaries. The right to say no without having to justify it. Persuade her to read woman in your own right

[Heyho111]

It does sound a little abusive - psychological and maybe physical. It might be worth looking up abuse between bf and gf. Being controlling is domestic abuse. You may need to try to chat to her about what's happening or even approach the school councellor for support. It needs to be stopped before it becomes the norm in relationships.