Ds1 is 17. Dropped out of college, not working. Is apparently applying, but being very fussy!
Sacked from last part time job.
Spent all earnings on nothing and did not repay money we leant him for uniform. Plus we paid for first weeks travel.
Obviously we get no child benefit for him as not in education.
There is a huge back story to this but just need opinions please. He has today demanded a new coat. He doesn't have one as last years was lost, just like those from previous years. I have said he will have to wait until pay day. I physically do not have the money til then. He says he needs new clothes etc, which is true.
But what do i do? He refuses be in education yet doesn't have a job. How do we make him realise that he must pay his way. He seems to think that as we are his parents, we must provide, yet he does nothing.
His attitude is appalling but he just thinks i am unreasonable. It kills me to see my child without decent things, but need him to learn that he cannot live for free forever.
I did offer him new coat and jeans a couple of months ago but he declined. I have today been told that i should have used my common sense and got the coat anyway as he wouldmfed one when it got cold. That money has obviously been spent and he would have to wait til next week.
Opinions on how to handle this please?
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alwaysseemslikehalfterm · 14/10/2014 16:46
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