17 year old near adult?

[barbarap450]

Any advice? I have a17 year old boy who has developed a temper and threatens to leave home/kill himself. He wants desperately to be an adult, is taking his frustrations out on me. He is finding A2s hard and he is angry. He's sporty and I'm pretty sure no drugs are involved. He drinks beer at parties but never comes home more than merrily drunk. How do I remain in contact with him or is it my role to be the metaphorical punch bag?
He refuses to see a doctor but has sourced himself a councillor at school. I feel I am failing him

[JiltedJohnsJulie]

Sorry,I don't have any answers, just didn't want you to go unanswered. Hopefully someone will be along soon.

[LeftHandedMouse]

I was a horror at that age, just wanted to do my own thing.

Couldn't even stand to be in the same room as my parents some times.

How about saying to him you're going to give him a bit more space, make yourself a bit more scarce, leave him to feed himself?

I'm not saying deliberately avoid him, just give him enough to feel he's got a bit more control over his life.

And maybe try treating him more like an adult, again you don't have to make him do stuf for himself, just give him the option. I'm sure he'll be happy for you to do his laundry, just maybe not for you to pick up HIS stuff from HIS room.

See what I'm getting at?