I'm 23 and am currently still living at home with my mum. I assume that most mums wouldn't be too chuffed to have their DS or DD still at home with them at 23, especially if they aren't contributing anything to the household finances. My mum is different though. She would be quite happy for me to stay at home with her indefinitely. She doesn't really have any friends or family except me, while I also have no one (as in friends, family or acquaintances) except my mum. We are practically tethered to each other. I'm very close to my mum, but it's starting to feel a bit weird to still be living at home. I feel nowhere near ready to move out though. I'm a Neet. I've never had a job (I also never went to college or uni), and I have no idea how the procedure for moving into a new place actually works. I just have a few questions I would like to ask you.
When your DS or DD got their first paid job, how did they manage it, assuming they had no previous experience? I also have no idea about interviews. I'm clueless about things such as how to present myself, what to wear and what to say, etc. I'm also not sure what someone is supposed to put on a cv if they've never previously been employed.
When DS or DD moved out, how was the transition for you and them? I get the impression that most people can't wait to move out. I don't feel that way. I think I'd end up missing my mum if I was living on my own.
A few people I've talked to online have said my mum might be doing me a disservice by not helping me learn important life skills. I don't want to be too harsh on her, but she isn't very bright. She isn't computer literate and struggles with writing and maths. I'm not sure she's equipped to offer worthwhile advice on a number of issues. I have no one else I can ask though. Does she sound like a bad mother?
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Are there any mums here with adult sons or daughters? I'd like to ask for your thoughts on this situation
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SerGregorClegane · 22/09/2014 10:40
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