DD is 14 she is hormonal and everyones walking on eggshells all the time. She has had a few issues with girls being vile to her but things are fine now she is sociable and has many friends. Anyhow very long story short she has no regards for anything/anyone unless its her friends.She is going from bad to worse at school.She doesn't try ,does very little work and school have told me she is unlikely to get any GCSEs she is rude when they try to help her and is now so far behind its going to take alot of effort on her part to catch up. She is VERY oppositional . At home she is fine till you ask something of her (anything even putting dirty dishes away) then it takes so much asking it ends in an argument. Everything is met with defiance and sanctions/rewards seem to have no impact . Apart from taking her phone.Last week i asked for her phone following a very difficult evening and day at school she refused i gave her plenty of opportunities she refused so i took it. She slapped me not hard but not the point. Maybe i shouldn't have taken her phone from her but she had many opportunities to hand it over . I cried (shock more than hurt) she cried (but for her phone back!). I feel really low about this escalating behaviour she can be the most lovely girl but recently its like a red mist constantly.
I should add she has ADHD but this is new behaviour so for anyone that thinks she can't help it she can. She doesnt seem to care about anything anymore apart from friends and social media .Any advice?! I have tried grounding ,incentive rewards etc This behaviour has escalated quickly and seems to be when shes happy socially she is awful to us and when things go wrong socially she is cuddly and chatty . I don't get it. She has also stopped swimming (she was very good county competitions) as she can't be bothered !
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constantlyconfused · 09/09/2014 09:47
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