oh God my daughter is the most boring person I know

[NotSuchASmugMarriedNow]

Seriously, her only topics of conversation for the past three years have been

1. herself

and

1. how awful a mother I am and how unlucky she is to have me for a mother.

First I was bemused, then I was hurt, now I am bored. She's been like this since 14.

it's BORING!!!!!

She never asks me a question about myself, never discusses anything, comments on anything in the news or places she's been or books she's read - nothing - it's just all about her (or awful me)

Sympathy anyone?

[gertiegusset]

No, not really.

[SpottedTent]

Perhaps the apple didn't fall too far from the tree?

[Perplexedaschips]

Sending sympathy OP, it can be hard going when they have no empathy at all.

[ElephantsNeverForgive]

First law of teens, is to ensure you have been taking the piss out of teen behaviour since they were six.

It's very difficult to have teen attitude if mum and big sister just fall about laughing and rag you for it.

[Heyho111]

It amazes me how egotistical teens can be when around family. It's really awful. There seems to also to be a two question unspoken rule. Ask any more and your in trouble.
It does get a bit better when they are 18 and more independant.

[todayisnottheday]

They get through it, eventually

It's odd but I remember being this age vividly. The only way I can describe it is like listening to white noise in my head all the time. The only subjects that were clear through the white noise were ones that affected me or that I found interesting. Everything else was there but kind of fogged out. I lost the ability to respond to social cues too, I didn't even see the glazed eyes or the disappointment when I totally failed to notice anyone or anything important to someone else. It's toe curling to recall.

My dd2 is just coming out the other side now and I'm so relieved. Even though I understand it to some degree it's not easy to live with! You definitely have my sympathy!

[ChillySundays]

Hate to say this but my daughter was vile at that age. I used to hide in bed in the morning until she left for school! She is 19 now and although we have our moments sometimes in general we get on well now and we have sensible conversations.
At the time my friend told me it would get better and it has.

[LynetteScavo]

The feeling's probably mutual.

[VeryStressedMum]

My teenage dd only ever seems to talk to me about what she wants me to buy her.

[RabbitSaysWoof]

This happened to my friend when her dd was 13, her mum told her that you lose them for a while as teens then they come back to you.
Hers did they get along great now. I hope your's does soon.

[Perplexedaschips]

All above true buT also depends on personality too..some people are less empathetic and kind hearted than others at any age unfortunately.

[lucydaniels4658]

I am with very stressed mum.My DD talks to me non stop if shes having friendship issues but when things are rosie its just about the trainers she wants or needs . Just comes with territory i'm afraid i remember being the same. You won't have many shared interests when they are teens you just have to show an interest in them and theirs. When they need to be they are lovely DD was very sweet last week when i was ill so not all bad :-) . Your DD can probably sense you find her boring which will make her more wary to chat.

[Cristalle]

My dd is the same. :-(

It is very hard. I sympathise.
My dd is obsessed with lip balms. She can talk about them for hours. If i am not fascinated she screams at me tells me i dont love her etccc

[awsomer]

It's probably the last thing you feel like doing but why don't you arrange a nice day out together doing something you'll both like doing? Or, if you really have absolutely no shared interests, something that neither of you has ever done before (like a sporting activity maybe?). Just for a bit of a routine break.

But, before you have that nice day together make sure you spend some time apart - ship her off to her friends' for a while. Otherwise you probably won't want to take her out anywhere!

[UptheAnty]

My dd will talk about books.

She is a real thespian.

Completely only interested in her own opinion.

Will discuss world respected authors and compliment them on their sytntax and technical ability but question there storytelling ability she regards as being "shit"

She knows everything. Her teachers are shit. I'm shit, her sister is shit her father's ok as he's frightfully important in her eyes and deserving of her occasional approval.

She just got an E in her English Alevel and an E in creative writing.
Apparently the markers just couldn't reach her level of intelligence to understand her .... Oh and her teachers are shit.

Was it Oscar Wilde who said " I used to think my parents were shit but now that I'm older I can see they have matured"!

[HotPinkWeaselWearingLederhosen]

On the plus side, most grow out of being horrible, and those that don't tend to post snide comments on Mumsnet rather than phone their mothers and do it

[EvansOvalPiesYumYum]

At that age, there are only three people they think of: Me, Myself and I.

She will come out of it - hang in there!!

[DiaDuit]

Maybe you are also very boring and she has no interest in talking to you or asking you about your boring opinion or boring day. Maybe she just doesnt like you and talks to her friends about books and stuff.

[flipflopsandcottonsocks]

Don't worry, I was like that from about 13-16, but since then my mum and I have got on really well and have a brilliant relationship.

Ignore people who are being mean to you, it's really not very constructive!

[EvansOvalPiesYumYum]

Maybe you are also very boring and she has no interest in talking to you or asking you about your boring opinion or boring day. Maybe she just doesnt like you and talks to her friends about books and stuff.

[Hmm] helpful? Not!
School holidays, still, quite obviously!

[SirChenjin]

Oh dear OP - I know I shouldn't laugh, but I am. Sympathies...

Fortunately, as I am a perfect parent, Teen 2 is really easy and great company when she doesn't have raging PMT, but Teen 1 (almost 17) has been a challenge over the years. He's calmed down a bit now, and we're beginning to see a really nice bloke there, but his conversation does tend to feature the latest 'facts' and fads on Youtube quite heavily. I can put up with it for so long, but after eleventy million stories of what a bloke in America said about X then my eyes glaze over and I have to fight the urge to gnaw my own arm off.

[DiaDuit]

. I'm a reg poster- been here 6 years and waaay too old for school holidays to affect me. You'll have to try another way to invalidate my opinion.

[HotPinkWeaselWearingLederhosen]

but his conversation does tend to feature the latest 'facts' and fads on Youtube quite heavily. I can put up with it for so long, but after eleventy million stories of what a bloke in America said about X then my eyes glaze over and I have to fight the urge to gnaw my own arm off.

Ds is like this NOW, and he's only eleven. You mean it's going to keep going on and get WORSE?!