Hi. My son is 16, usually quiet and does well in college. Last November he met a girl his age and they started dating. Bear in mind this was his first ever girlfriend. After only a couple of weeks she told him her parents were physically abusive (not sexually) and that her life was hell. She was contacting him day and night and he was very stressed. Eventually she said her step dad had thrown her out and hit her. He brought her home and we contacted social services but she wouldn't press charges. However her grandparents agreed to take her in and for a while she seemed happy. Then in January she said they had thrown her out over money and her mum and step-dad didn't want her. We tried social services but their attitude seemed to be that as we were helping her she didn't need them. My son begged us to let her stay as he was terrified something would happen to her. Reluctantly we agreed. We have made her welcome but over the past six months she has dropped out of college and made very little effort to find another course or job. During this time we had given our son condoms but also only let her stay as long as she agreed to use contraception, which we were under the impression she did as my son went with her to our GP to get the injection.
We have now just found out that she lied to us all and had not gone for further injections, and now is pregnant. However, although our son has taken full responsibility and says he will stand by her (and we have offered to support them too) she has left and gone to stay with relatives, says she is keeping the baby but does not want our son to have anything to do with it and has broken up with him. He fully accepts that he should have continued to use condoms for his own peace of mind but is absolutely devastated that she is trying to shut him out. To make things worse she is now in touch with her mum who is apparently well known to social services. We are terrified she will choose to have the baby with them and it will be at risk. I am at my wits end. Can anyone offer some advice?
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ladymoonlight72 · 23/06/2014 01:38
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