Please can someone offer some advice. Our relationship with our youngest daughter is in tatters and has ended this morning with H , who has a VERY slow fuse, just losing his temper and shouting at her so much he was shaking. I might add this is VERY rare. She is insolent and selfish, and I am told by DH and her sisters (who have in the main left home now, although the middle one is due back from local uni at beginning of July)that I let her get away with stuff and spoil her. She either goes out straight from 6th form college and comes in about 9pm (as in doesn't come home at all from when she leaves at 8am in the morning) or on the rare occassion she comes in, just goes straight to her room and is on her i pad all evening. I have always taken pride in the good relationship I have with her sisters, and it upsets me more than I can say that I seem to have no relationship with her. I have tried to talk to her about it and she is eiother arsey or just yawns in my fact. She says I nag her (I asked her to pick a towel up off the floor on Sunday, then an hour later asked her again as it was still there. She knows to do this but doesn't bother...hubby says she is all about control)
I am sitting here in tears as once again we have had a massive blow up...seems to happen on a regular basis, she says not PMT but I do wonder but she refuses to take anything, herbal or otherwise to help.
Are we being unreasonable, eg: this morning, after already having had words cos she got up out of wrong side of bed, when we ask her not to play piano for a few minutes(a rare occasion in itself but being used as a time filler before the bus to college went) cos DH was trying to listen to something she just ignored us totally. After asking three times DH lost his temper and went in shouting at her as he couldn't hear what he was trying to listen to. She screams back and storms out of the house in tears and I feel awful...again. She is going for CBT, as am I as I feel suicidal at times (I wouldn't actually do it as have seen the mess it leaves behind as both family member and close friend committed suicide) and so depressed a lot of the time and upset because of the angst and upset with her. I feel like nothing at times becasue she can be so very nasty to me....but still expect me to pay for Alton Towers for her birthday, to get her there and back, to ferry her around, to pay for clothes etc
Have I just been very lucky with my elder two girls, who are 22 and 24? Although to be honest, part of the problem I feel with her is the internet..and all the entertainment it provides and influences it can exert both though social networking and other sites.
Please advise someone..be gentle though as I am feeling very fragile now. I don't know how to move forward...again..and this happens frequently...we were lucky to get CBT for her as at nearly 17 she is in a black hole re care and advice
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febel · 18/06/2014 08:04
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