I completely agree with Sparkling that the teenage years are a huge learning curve, and at times very stressful. We're just getting towards the end of it in this house, I think - youngest DS is 16 & gradually turning back into a human being again...
Yes lots. She's on report and has been for about two months now (and doesn't care). I'm going back in again next week for a review (which I've requested as they seem a bit too content to just let it roll on and on).
I do feel sorry for teens, with hormones and all, - they want to fit in with their peers so desperately. The confusing bit for me is that my daugher's peers seem perfectly lovely (according to my knowledge and the school's feedback), so I don't know where it's coming from.
Of course they are lovely to you, they are teenagers and reserve the horror for their own parents
Take a step back and look at it from outside the box, and make a list. What exactly (and it has to be exact) is/are the problems? In fact make two lists, one to do with school one to do with home.
Try to be specific - don't say "her attitude" or "her behaviour" - try to narrow down in your own mind what is bothering you. Then having made your list, look at it dispassionately, taking out the emotion, and work out what really matters. Number those things and work on them one at a time, starting with the most important.
While working on the most important things, try very hard to ignore the rest because otherwise you end up having a row about toothpaste lids when you really want to talk about curfews and failing school iyswim.
If she doesn't care about the school report, do they not have worse consequences? ds2 got a Saturday detention once and he has taken great care to avoid another.
Thank you for that Maryz. The change was so sudden with DD1. She seems to be a totally different person. I think the rudeness is the worst part. I honestly cannot remember the last time we had a pleasant conversation..