My DD is 13 and we are having a very tough time ! She struggles a huge amount at school and is quite far below average she has always struggled but tried but recently she is not trying ,disruptive and doesnt concentrate at all she is very good at creative subjects and sports! She is always on report or in trouble as the school get very frustarted with her lack of attention but rather than encouraging they are very hot on constant tellings off detentions reports ect I am sick of hearing about all the drama of "all the teachers hate me " she is really stuck in a negative spiral at the moment and bombards me with messages ,calls and conversations ALL DAY every day about how rubbish everything is ! Now she is having friendship dramas she is lovely to her friends but they always end up taking advantage of her and bullying her she doesnt stick up for herself and just finds it all confusing and very upsetting! The school have been rubbish and arent taking it very seriously "girls will be girls" and acting as though im over reacting constantly ! I am really at my wits end as everything is so negative for her at the moment i have tried to encourage her to be positive and assertive but she has a processing disorder so it is very hard for her to process conversations and think of something to say back !I shouldnt have to encourage my child to be nasty but it seems there are so many b""""" girls around and being upset just seems to encourage them more ! has anyone else had a similar situation ?!
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AS is Aspergers so yes autism. It's so, so hard to see them anxious it is heart breaking. In year 8, my dd's first year at high school, her little friendship group all decided they didn't want to be her friend anymore and she had to change form and go to Curriculum Support every day for break and lunch 
I think it sounds like your dd needs to get away from these 2 girls, are they in her form?
Oh rubbish advice from school.
I had to complain just before the end of term about a particular girl that keeps bugging dd. She does stupid things like asking dd does she do her own make up (dd sometimes wears a bit too much blusher bless her) she 'twerks' in her face, invades her personal space and all kinds of shit.
If dd reacts she does that 
'what have I done?' It sounds petty but luckily her form tutor understands. Unfortunately their answer is to remove dd from form time when actually the nasty little bully should be removed.
As soon as I collect dd from school we have to have the whole 'she said, I said, she said' it is draining.
I'm sorry I'm not being helpful at all 
The school should be dealing with this bullying.
You need to compose an assertive email detailing exactly what is going on with these girls and the effect it is having on your DD. Ask for a face-to-face meeting and get them to tell you exactly what they are going to do about the situation. You might also want to talk about the issues surrounding your DD's autistic traits and how the school could better support her - is she on the SEN register and have they got a plan for her?
Good luck
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