My 17 year old is not a nice person. It pains me to say it but she appears to be one of life's 'takers'. She lies to an incredible level. She talks to me like something she trod in. She's at college studying Art but has no ambition. She has NEVER so much as washed up a cup - despite me telling her she has to. She just ignores me. I have taken her mobile off her today and not only am I worried sick in case she gets into an emergency - I know she will do something to punish me - such as not come home tonight. I gave her some money yesterday and asked her if she could get a mothers day gift for my son to give me. She agreed but then didn't bother. He was upset this morning when he had nothing to give me.
I've given her curfews and house rules - she ignores them all. What can I do? I can't lock her in the house?? I've begged her dad for help - he now doesn't even reply to my emails. He left after 20 years of marriage when she was 9 and my DS was 1. He was seeing someone else who has made no secret that she dislikes my children. Her dad says it's not 'suitable' for her to stay with him. He has now had 2 other children and said it's not fair on them.
I suffered from depression after her dad left and was hospitalised for 14 weeks. She knows I'm not emotionally strong, I breakdown easily, and she is taking advantage of this. I got upset and she told me I was pathetic. I lost my head and told her I am ashamed of her selfishness and lack of respect for me. She told me she likes herself and has no respect for someone so pathetic.
She has told some wopping lies at college. Her tutors think she has a terrible home life with a terrible mother. She also told people that her dad lives in Italy!
It's all such a mess I don't know where to turn. It's making me ill again and I have my 9 year old to think about - who is a fantastic loving boy but also very emotionally damaged by the lack of a father figure. If it wasn't for him, I wouldn't want to wake up tomorrow - I'm that desperate.
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lost45 · 30/03/2014 18:56
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