Sex on school residential trip. Yr10.

(88 Posts)
Branch Sat 08-Mar-14 17:19:38

After lights out, two boys went to a room where 3 girls were sharing and had sex with two of the girls. The third girl left the room beforehand and went into another girls' room.

School have found out & suspended all 4 students.

flow4 Sun 16-Mar-14 20:01:26

My DS2 (14) is going on a mixed residential trip out at sea with 40+ other 14-17 year olds. They, and we parents, have all been told there would be 'serious consequences' if there was any physical contact, with the YP concerned bring put ashore at the nearest port and their parents needing to fetch them.

I'd be furious if a child of mine broke such a well-defined rule.

'Duty of care', incidentally, means that the adult(s) looking after your child have to take care of them as a reasonable parent would. None of us would be able to stop our own teenagers from shagging either, if they were determined enough.

FabBakerGirl Sun 16-Mar-14 19:39:12

How do you know such intimate details about it all?

I personally think it is sad that some teenagers feel pressured into having sex at such a young age. And it is illegal. Kids are in such a hurry to grow up.

WooAGhostCat Sun 16-Mar-14 19:29:50

What a bloody weird thread!

Teenagers on a residential behave badly shock shock shock
Cats bum face Mum is sure her little darling is nothing but a perfect angel and passes judgement on others children.

Tale of every residential every time ever

TeenAndTween Sun 16-Mar-14 18:56:27

I feel really sorry for the teachers. They probably feel guilty even though it really is not their fault if 5 teenagers conspire to deliberately break one of the strongest rules there could possibly be on a school trip.

LittleBearPad Sat 15-Mar-14 09:00:19

Sugar mouse, only four kids have been suspended - two boys two girls.

cory Sat 15-Mar-14 08:51:13

coming back to this thread, I have thought of a difference to the residential trips of a generation ago:

when my peers got drunk at the back of the bus or shagged each other in hotel rooms, nobody thought to blame the teachers or suggest that they should be holding the hands of their charges 24/7 to ensure that they didn't do...errrr...what teenagers do.

Maryz Fri 14-Mar-14 21:54:05

And what Tullahulla said grin

The number of times I have nodded and hmm'ed as parents give out yards about "other people's teenagers", blissfully unaware what their own are up to [sigh]

I too feel sorry for the teachers. And I would be fucking furious with any of the kids if they were mine - surely they could find a better time and place to have sex than on a school trip.

Maryz Fri 14-Mar-14 21:52:34

Something similar happened in a school near me.

It will be interesting to see what the outcome is - in the case I know about the boys were expelled, the girls offered counselling. Which I was a bit hmm about.

Ludways Fri 14-Mar-14 21:37:23

I used to go away with groups of 14/15 year olds several times a year when I was that age, 30 years ago. There was plenty of sex amongst a small few and there's absolutely nothing the chaperones could've done about it. Even when there were chaperones sitting at the end of the corridors we'd find ways of distracting them and getting out of our rooms. I wasn't one of those having sex but I was def one getting into plenty of mischief, lol

sami1985 Fri 14-Mar-14 21:31:11

I was active at 14 with strong sexual feelings at 13. I had sex because I wanted too and felt ready, there was no pressure. Looking back I wasn't emotionally ready, but physically I was. I also wasn't ready to be a mum, but I haven't done too bad 13 years later lol.

Tullahulla Fri 14-Mar-14 19:48:07

Never slag off other teens, you don't know how your own are going to turn out, or indeed what they may be upto themselves.

Slapperati Fri 14-Mar-14 19:41:58

Sugar - serious fire risk that!

SugarMouse1 Fri 14-Mar-14 18:46:49

Why was the third girl suspended? That's ridiculous.

Incidentally, when I went on a school trip at 14, the staff locked everyone in their rooms with a key from the outside, so there was no chance for any shenanigans. Alternatively, the girls and boys could stay at separate hotels/hostels.

cory Sun 09-Mar-14 12:55:32

Given that teenage pregnancy rates were verifiably higher in our young days than they are now, I don't know what this story is actually supposed to prove about today's youth. That they are no different from their parents despite the evidence of statistics?

And for the record, I don't remember social medias or selfies being around in my young days. Teenage sex certainly was, as can be easibly verified by looking up the records.

TheZeeTeam, the OP made it quite clear that there was outrage and that the students have been suspended. So exactly what you'd expect, really.

So what we learn from the OP seems to sum up as:

(a probably small number of) teenagers today get up to pretty much the same as (a small number of teenagers) got up to on school trips 30 years ago

they are punished in pretty much the same way as they would have been 30 years ago

Plus ca change.

Lottiedoubtie Sun 09-Mar-14 09:23:48

Yes, there is something in that. In previous generations there was a sense of shame amongst the teens themselves. That doesn't appear to be present now, although I'm not sure it has been present for 15-20 years or so, so not nec. New.

TheZeeTeam Sun 09-Mar-14 00:16:11

The school should discipline the kids accordingly. In our schools, it would be a suspension. Jeeze, we have to sign a 3 page contract for our kids to go to Junior Prom. If this happened here (I'm in the States), there would be a bloody uproar!!!

Innogen Sun 09-Mar-14 00:11:31

Probably true Lottie. Do think teens in my grandmas generation has a stronger concept of shame though. They wouldn't have had sex on a school trip for fear of the gossip.

Social media and selfies and the recording of data have made prominent sexuality more permanent and public though!

ouryve Sun 09-Mar-14 00:10:24

And teens, when I was a teen, a geological age ago, were all talking about and often doing sex, too.

ouryve Sun 09-Mar-14 00:08:34

's'nothing new.

Nice to have a gossip about teenagers and what they're up to, though. (Surely that's the point of your very own personal own personal thread?)

Branch Sun 09-Mar-14 00:05:56

And it's also a place for people to muse.

Lottiedoubtie Sun 09-Mar-14 00:05:48

I'm not telling you what to do! I'm giving you friendly advice because posting on a discussion board and then doing your best to close down any actual discussion is the road to discontent. Feel free to ignore my advice, just as I'll ignore your requests not to discuss on YOUR thread (your capitalisation) hmm

innogen I'm not sure I agree. I think teenagers have been ruled by their rampant hormones for century's- just look at Romeo and Juliet wink

And teenage sex rates have gone up and down as societies tolerance/acceptance of it have swung back and forth.

What concerns me with this generation is the way technology makes their past hang around forever though.

Innogen Sun 09-Mar-14 00:04:39

You do know that mn is a discussion board? You write an OP, and open the topic up to discussion.

Branch Sat 08-Mar-14 23:56:14

No discussion needed thanks Innogen. Was merely an observation.

Innogen Sat 08-Mar-14 23:49:31

Ah, well at least we've got a discussion topic now Branch, thank you.

I agree. Though I think teenagers have always been influenced by their sexual desires, there are way greater pressures and casual sex seems to be more normal younger these days.

And I speak as someone with grown up children, who lost her virginity at 15 - to a very long term boyfriend though, in very loving conditions without any pressure whatsoever.

Branch Sat 08-Mar-14 23:44:08

Lottiedoubtie, please don't tell me what to do. I can post when and where I like.

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