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Sex on school residential trip. Yr10.

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Branch · 08/03/2014 17:19

After lights out, two boys went to a room where 3 girls were sharing and had sex with two of the girls. The third girl left the room beforehand and went into another girls' room.

School have found out & suspended all 4 students.

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Slapperati · 08/03/2014 17:28

What's your question? Hmm

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Branch · 08/03/2014 18:23

Wasn't actually asking one Slapperati. Thanks for asking tho!

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Whitershadeofpale · 08/03/2014 18:28

What's the point of the thread then?

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Nocomet · 08/03/2014 18:30

Doesn't surprise me.

Almost 30 years ago a group of 14y were sent home from our youth club trip for climbing in and out of bed together. I don't think they quite got the privacy to have sex, but one if the boys was quite happy waving his 'tiny' penis round the room.

I was both [shocked] and trying not to giggle at the same time.

The leader who appeared to take them home was furious (he would never have told them there was a trip available, despite coming from a small rural town it wasn't the first time they'd caused trouble).

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Branch · 08/03/2014 18:32

Does there have to be a point to the thread?

Okay then, to appease you I'll ask a q.

Should the staff leading the trip be reprimanded?

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steppemum · 08/03/2014 18:34

How old were the kids?

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Branch · 08/03/2014 18:36

Yr 10. So 14/15.

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BOFtastic · 08/03/2014 18:36

The staff weren't having the sex though, were they? So no. But unacceptable behaviour on a school trip from the pupils, so a suspension sounds fair enough. I hope at least that it was consensual- that would worry me.

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bbkl · 08/03/2014 18:37

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BitsinTatters · 08/03/2014 18:37

Oh dear. If it was my child I would be very pissed off. The duty of care for those minors falls to the teachers doesn't it?

Bet they aren't having a good weekend. Poor people.

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Slapperati · 08/03/2014 18:38

Shock horror. 14 year olds have sex.

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BOFtastic · 08/03/2014 18:41

I doubt the teachers will be reprimanded, but I can see the school cancelling future mixed-sex residential trips Sad. What teacher would want to volunteer to supervise trips when parents are baying for blood over their kids' irresponsible behaviour?

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JonSnowKnowsNothing · 08/03/2014 18:42

What exactly have the staff done to warrant a reprimand?
They've presumably outlined expectations.... Four pupils have decided to break rules and should be punished. What could the teachers have done? Sleep outside the dorms? At age 14/15 there has to be some trust and if pupils can't even abide by basic, respectful expectations then they'd certainly never be coming on a trip of mine again.
Incidentally, is this just a hypothetical, OP?

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SecretWitch · 08/03/2014 18:48

I would not be angry with the teachers if my child were involved in such shenanigans. I certainly would be giving my little darling hell for behaving badly on this trip.

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Branch · 08/03/2014 18:49

JonSnowKnowsNothing, most definitely not hypothetical.

I don't think the staff should be reprimanded, but the wayward teens ought to be, yes.

I can't believe the kids have been so thick though!

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Innogen · 08/03/2014 21:29

Nothing strange about teenagers having sex. I don't see the point of the thread.

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BOFtastic · 08/03/2014 21:34

Nothing strange about them getting bladdered either, but it's not allowed on a school trip.

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Branch · 08/03/2014 21:46

I'm not naive, I know plenty of U16s have sex. I'm surprised that they thought it acceptable to flout the rules.

Of the 4, 3 had had sex several times previously and for 1 of the girls it was her first time. No contraception was used.

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Sirzy · 08/03/2014 21:51

Unless the staff sleep in the rooms with the children (which would be a massive child protection no no!), or if you only have single sex residential trips (which wouldn't solve the problem if homosexual relations anyway) then there is a limit as to what staff can actually do to stop these things.

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JonSnowKnowsNothing · 08/03/2014 21:54

Of the 4, 3 had had sex several times previously and for 1 of the girls it was her first time. No contraception was used.
Where's this info from? Your DC?

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Innogen · 08/03/2014 21:55

You think it's strange that teenagers break rules?

How do you know so much Branch? How do you know there was no contraception? Was a child of yours involved?

If not, it's not appropriate that you know. And be aware that if this isn't your kid, your facts may be based on rumours.

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BOFtastic · 08/03/2014 21:56

There is a limit, yes, but there should be a member of staff on call at all times, and they generally take turns to regularly patrol the corridors. They can hardly open doors at random all night long though, so it's hard to see how they can guarantee this won't happen. I'd expect a proper investigation of what actually happened, and serious consequences for the boys in particular, as they were the ones who made the decision to enter the girls' room. Phenomenonally stupid thing to do.

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Lottiedoubtie · 08/03/2014 21:58

They'd have been expelled from the school I work in.

No obviously the teachers shouldn't be reprimanded.

But OP, why did you start this thread? What did you hope to hear?

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Sirzy · 08/03/2014 21:59

and serious consequences for the boys in particular, as they were the ones who made the decision to enter the girls' room.

chances are it was planned in advance, either way it takes 2 to tango so I would hope they would all receive the same punishment.

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EdithWeston · 08/03/2014 21:59

Well, if the information was from a teen on the trip then yes it may well have been exaggerated. But unlikely to be completely baseless.

And yes, every step should be taken to prevent shagging on school trips, which does include a certain amount of nocturnal corridor prowling by staff. Yes, it's demanding to go with restricted sleep. But yes, staff really do that.

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