I am at my wit's end. My DD is in her second year of sixth form and doesn't really know what to do next year. She has applied for four unis and had acceptances from three of them, two in London plus Plymouth. She isn't expected great A Levels, probably 3 Cs so knows her choices are limited. However the London unis are right at the bottom of the league tables. She thinks she may take a gap year and work full-time and go to uni in 2015.
I fully accept it's her life and she must do as she sees fit but don't think that making the odd suggestion is out of order. I feel she'd do better in a non-London uni, not just because of the league tables but also because I'm a single mum, so won't be able to help financially and everything will be on a student loan. She works part-time at the moment, earns nearly £400 a month and can't manage financially. Have told her that she will end up with far less disposable income in London and not sure how she'll cope.
Tried to discuss all this logically and calmly last night, ended up in a blazing row and she hit me across the face while telling me to fuck off (I am so ashamed to say this) I lost it and told her to go, knowing she would go straight to her best friend's house. She later texted me a very abrupt apology and turned up here this morning, still raging and I (calmly) said I wasn't able to discuss it as I was working (I work from home) plus she had her friend with her, and said I would discuss it later.
I am not trying to run her life as she thinks, but just trying to be a concerned parent, knowing this is a big life decision and wanting to point out pros and cons etc. I am devastated that she hit me (and told me to fuck off as well) I am really not sure how to mend this - at the moment I am so disappointed in her attitude towards me that I am probably being a bit cold towards her, but she really needs to realise that I'm only looking out for her best interests.
I am very guilty of always giving her everything, she has a car which she is learning to drive on, she has lifts everywhere in the meantime, she goes out as and when she wants and everyone I know says I'm too soft on her, so this is where it has got me! I just want my lovely little girl back, not this bitter, angry girl who seems to hate me :(
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allo2101 · 21/01/2014 14:12
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