caught my teenage son on this "4chan" website..

(19 Posts)
Adreayend1980 Mon 13-Jan-14 21:14:46

I accidentally found out my son has been browsing this sort of an image board, full of porn, gore and offensive content. I am disgusted and scared. What could have this site done to my child? I spoke to him today and he's telling me he has no idea what I'm talking about!! What do I do? I want hm to STOP going on this website!

HowardTJMoon Mon 13-Jan-14 21:24:43

Have you got any Internet filtering system on his computer? If not, why not?

iheartdusty Mon 13-Jan-14 21:26:32

why did you post the link?

WallyBantersJunkBox Mon 13-Jan-14 21:27:29

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AndIFeedEmGunpowder Mon 13-Jan-14 21:27:29

YY dusty.

tracypenisbeaker Mon 13-Jan-14 21:35:05

Your post is a bit thin. How old is he? Do you allow his unsupervised access? Have you discussed internet safety?

He may have been on 4chan because he has heard a lot about it. Its one of those sites where a lot of 'memes' originate from, and has a huge following. Thats why i went on it, but then i stopped as soo as i realised it was oretty much no hold barred/ unmoderated. I just didnt realise. Maybe that is what happened here?

Please tighten up your parenting controls if you havent already done so. Its amazing how many parents are clueless about what their kids are up to/ able to access. My own parents are like this with my brothet- he has so many ways of accessing the internet in the privacy of his room, and he is 14. It makes me so mad because they are apathetic about it.

CatherineMumsnet (MNHQ) Mon 13-Jan-14 21:36:34

Hi there, we've taken the link to the site out our the OP as we didn't think it was appropriate.

As you were...

homework Tue 14-Jan-14 07:42:19

Even with parental controls on most boys of 14/16 know how to get round these sites . Especially the ones who are high flyers at computer sciences .

It's more important that you speak with your child about what is normal behaviour in regards to sexual experiences , and stuff that is way not there. Also about relationships and respect of there partner .

At this age there curious about everything , and due to the existence of the web , this type of stuff is going to be readily available . Blocking sites works for younger kids , communication is going to be key to dealing with older teens . As technology advances , so does there ability to do what we rather they didn't.

MrsBright Tue 14-Jan-14 08:00:04

Serious talk time ..

First reassurance - 'its okay to want to look at pictures of women's bodies, that's normal for a boy of your age. but not THIS', then why not.

Two themes - 'whats on the Net, and why we don't go looking for it', 'sexual violence/normal sexual experience'.

And get some filters on your pooters. If you won't protect him from this stuff, who will?

mistyolen Thu 16-Jan-14 01:21:59

I agree with most others on here about installing filtering software. As far as your question of What could this site have done to my child? Probably nothing serious. Just think about it, when we were kids we had older siblings or kids telling us about sex stuff. It didn't do anything to us other than teach us about the world. Don't forget to stay calm and understand that of course teenagers are going to be curious. It is unlikely there is any lasting damage.

Get that filtering software and talk to him. Just let him know he isn't wrong, but you don't think it's appropriate for him to be doing that at home so you are taking these steps to stop it in the future.

credence Thu 16-Jan-14 01:27:55

More to the point given it is 4chan; discuss seriously the dangers of hacking and make sure he knows how to stay out of jail because he can learn all sorts and may not realise what is legal and what is not. 4chan is famous for online vigilante shenanigans and your ds needs to understand the concept of innocent until proven guilty etc!

mrscumberbatch Thu 16-Jan-14 01:46:48

Calm down first of all.

You do realise that 4chan is not all gore and porn?

It can actually be a very funny, informative, political and silly community.

It is huge. There are so many boards. The one that causes the most issues tends to be /b.

Find out exactly why he wanted access to 4chan. If its to make memes of cats then fine. Millions of people use it every day without looking at grim stuff.

It's lack of Internet savvy that can cause ructions between older generations and this current 'brought up on the Internet' generation.

Have a conversation about it.

mrscumberbatch Thu 16-Jan-14 01:49:25

Also 4chan is not 'famous for hacking'. Anonymous is.

And anonymous doesn't just dwell on 4chan. There's probably mumsnetters that are part of anonymous. It's not a malevolent thing, but there are some that like to cause ructions.... So same as on Mumsnet really!

KissesBreakingWave Thu 16-Jan-14 02:14:52

4Chan isn't just /b/, who are the actual arsehole of the internet, and on bad nights a good way up it. /tg/ is tabletop games - your miniatures wargaming and roleplaying and so forth, and is a perfectly reasonable 'net destination for a teenage boy. /mlp/ is for My Little Pony, for crying out loud. There's nearly fifty boards on there, about half a dozen of which are porn. What you have here is a teachable moment about whether he wants to be in the arsehole of the internet with the other turds or, say, on /lit/ learning something about books.

Jayam Fri 17-Jan-14 21:24:46

4chan isn't really all that bad for the most part, some boards on the site while not as serious and thoughtful as could be, are loaded with good information and discussions, like /fit/ for example, although they all have their quirks, not really sure which board your son browses and his age, but that's probably the random one, there's a lot more to it than porn and gore, frankly most people just filter out those. The site can be dangerous and it can't it just depends on the user I guess. My suggestion would be to not confront him about it, like don't expect an answer out of him, I know if I was in his position I would outright deny it also, but if he's still somewhat young and not a borderline adult, I would definitely do all I can to keep him off the site(if he's 16/17 he'll just find ways around it :/)

WolverineWolfy Sun 19-Jan-14 17:40:47

He may have been on a website which uses pop-up ads, and that one may have popped up? Check whether he has been on it more than once, and if he goes to more than one page.

HowardTJMoon Mon 20-Jan-14 13:38:37

4Chan doesn't advertise.

itsMoonMan Sat 02-Jan-16 16:22:21

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FourStarDragonBall Fri 05-Feb-16 18:40:53

You have a teenage son and don't expect him to watch porn... ok

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