please explain why my teens do this and add your own drive you crazy moments...(121 Posts)
My DS 15 drives my crazy because he walks about in just his boxers and moans he's cold...
I put their tea in front of them and DD 17 says... is it hot???
They both ask whats for tea... (its actually written on a white board in the kitchen) I tell them... then they ask me again at least twice before I start to cook it....
And I buy food on a Saturday and if I don't hide some of it they eat it all by Sunday night... does anyone else have to hide food from their teen
Please tell me what your teen does that drives you crazy and we'll see if we can analyse their behaviour between us...
I bring you:
an 'invisible' carpet
an attitude the size of Olympus Mons
an eye roll that surely would win a world record
dirty laundry mountains also the size of Olympus Mons
but also a lovely daughter who sadly doesn't realise just how lovely she is. I'm on a mission to make her realise,somehow. Easy.....
Yes to wet towels everywhere, socks dropped in the middle of the sitting room floor, dirty underwear across DD15s floor, school papers and files on every surface in the downstairs of the house, a 3m radius of bags and hoodies around the front door plus there are no glasses left in the kitchen.
Major attitude from DD15 who takes about 30mins and a great deal of cajoling to do anything helpful. Yet my beautiful baby thinks she doesn't look pretty and comes for big hugs and reassurance. My heart breaks. Being clever, slim and pretty isn't enough, apparently you also have to weigh nothing and have a thigh gap to be a beautiful teen, the pressure she puts herself under is awful.
I was a bit upset yesterday, and got a bit tearful. DS1 told me to go and sit in the living room, and he made me a cheese toastie and a coffee, and fave me a huge hug.
I think I saw a glimmer of years to come.....
The kitchen did look a bit of a tip after
He has a shedload of revision to do today-I may have to nag.
*gave. Although he was my fave because it was DS2 that made me upset.
I'm living this horror too, my three are all close in age and still at the younger end of teen but we are certainly experiencing most of this. All the clothes/washing crimes and I'm steeling the concept of 50p fine for clean clothes found in the washing it gives me the rage. Dd's so slapdash with sanitary towels left for all to see and associated wrappers/sticky strips on the floor. DS not really a teen at 11 eats like a horse, but fussy. Luckily I don't get much attitude (yet) but the bickering amongst themselves is horrific.
Just as I was about to kill them I heard dd1 rowing with her friend on the phone because the friend made a bitchy comment about dd2 "you don't get to say bad stuff about my sister". Ahh.
Oh yes you are responsible for all the ills of the world.
With two teenage boys I would buy enough 'treats' for the week. If it was gone by day one. Nothing bought for a week. If one ate it and the other thought it unfair..let them sort it out by themselves.
Clothes =wash your own. If left in the washing machine or drier too long (days!) then dumped on end of bed.
School of hard knocks.
I've just been subjected to a load if huffing and eye rolling for my crime of ..
Not passing the charger, for MY laptop, which was slightly closer to me than him. I am apparently lazy and don't do anything for him
I'm about to throw all his clean washing over his bedroom floor
that's where it will end up anyway
I removed 12 damp towels from my sons bathroom. I would not mind but he has used these all in the last 3 days! What about the rest of us!!
I hide food (normally goodies) in the car and bring them in periodically over the week otherwise they would be gone within the evening.
Also my makeup and nail vanish keeps disappearing, I only have boys!!
Thought I must pop back to the thread to say that since Friday when they were doing my head in, they've been really lovely!
Must post on MN more often....
Also DS can't make food, tidy up or do homework with music blaring!!
Love him so much though!!! Even if he is irritating!!
This morning I have been blamed for missing shoes and planner
I hid with ds2 in my room til he'd gone for the bus
Oh and I'm a terrible parent and it will be my fault if he gets a detention!
Over the weekend DS1 (16) has decided that he's going to grow a beard. When we all fell about laughing he got quite huffy - which has made him all the more determined. He will look something like this, so I suspect he will be getting dumped soon too.
He has also spent his last remaining pound on a Hollister polo shirt which is identical to his Superdry polo shirt. I pointed out to him that he still has to get through the rest of the month AND buy his girlfriend a Christmas present. He's now looking very worried - I suspect he will suddenly offer to wash the car/rake the leaves/clean all the bathrooms. He hates doing all of these, but we know when he offers he's desperate for cash
My ds has managed to lose his school shoes. How is that even possible? He had a rugby tournament last week at a different school, so they might be there <sigh>
I can tick every single one of the above. When I point it out to them they round on me like I am the one in the wrong. Please let this end, please let them leave soon. They are only 14 and 17 and don't seem to be leaving any time soon. Why did I not read the small print?Seriously why are there not government warnings about the dangers of having teenagers. Why don't other people tell you not to have children because they will turn into teenagers. I am wake at 4.50am to make sure DS14 doesn't choke on his own vomit because he came in so drunk. Seriously why didn't someone tell me ...
I am smiling from ear to ear Its not just me with the towels, hairbrushes missing socks ........... I think it makes it easier to laugh about it when other people are going through the same. Thank you for cheering me up!!
Just found this thread, as I was beating myself up for nagging my lovely 14 year old DS all the time! It's so good to hear that other parents are going through the same thing... the floordrobe is the bain of my life! I try to tell myself to pick my battles but I just don't get it - why don't they make their life easier by just doing it!!! grrrr
Every so often, I collect a big armful of clothes off the floor , go outside and dramatically throw the whole lot in the dustbin. That does the trick for a couple of weeks.
I once threw an armful out of Ds bedroom window at night. He had to get up , go outside and pick it up. Very satisfying. He did however leave all the doors unlocked and the lights on. Next day, when showing someone around our house ( for sale) we all had to walk past a pair of his boxers draped over a hanging basket, pretending not to notice. He was mortified when I told him. Lovely.
that's great Kazmatt! I've found a way to get my son to tidy his room - I take his I-phone when he's in the shower and hide it... he doesn't get it back until the cups are in the dishwasher and the clothes in the drawers and not the floordrobe! it's working so far
DD aged 13 asked for £1 this morning to take to school for 'wearing mufti' for the last day of term.
On the way home she let slip that best friend was the only one in the class not wearing the now obligatory silly Christmas Jumper and had to pay a whole £1 instead of the normal 50p .......
Her embarrassment was glorious to watch.
Being 17, my floordrobe stopped a few years back when my cats started pissing on my stuff! Prayers answered, Mum's. Get two female house cats. And with the food upstairs; we got mice... Which the cats started to kill and eat leaving the heads, bones and tails on my bedroom floor... So I stopped doing that too. But if I made a mess of anywhere in the house other than my room, my Dad would go ballistic and my mum would be so disappointed. Hate seeing my mum sad... Now I'm the most perfect little thing!
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