I can't work it out. DD1 16 is either very lazy or has low self esteem but I feel too close to see which. She is lazy in the house and has to be asked/pushed to help with general house stuff but to be fair is a lot better than she was a few years ago.
Growing up she was a quiet child but quite independent which we encouraged (or so I thought)
This year she has committed to a venture traveling to Africa in 2015 which involves her raising quite a lot of money. We are behind her all the way but did talk her through how much of her time it would take up but hopefully the reward would be great, and that we would help and support her throughout, however we did say we weren't prepared to do the fund raising for her.
Three months in and I'm pulling my hair out with her. She doesn't mention any fund raising ideas and if I bring any ideas up she looks at me in horror that she couldn't possible do that! So she won't contact any local businesses or try and organise any events and I do think she expects me to do it all and she cashes in with the prize money so to speak.
It all came to ahead tonight with the silliest of things, but she wanted take away while we were cooking food, so I said yes that was fine if she called it in herself. She had a meltdown at me pleading with me to phone, and in the end she said she wouldn't eat if she had to ring.
I wonder whether I haven't noticed her anxiety with anyone who isn't in our bubble all these years as she has managed so far to avoid any situation where she may have had to step up, or is she just being a lazy normal teenager and trying to play me?
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Is this low self esteem? How can I help
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strawberriesandplumbs · 16/11/2013 19:41
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