He was given it by his friend apparently. I have told him i will be taking him to school for a while.
I am very disappointed.
I was a smoker until 6 months ago and he was the one always begging me to give up and he has seen how hard i have found it. he actually had a go when he thought i was smoking in the garden last week, it was my mate.
I want to discourage him, i am really hoping its not a habit yet
Thinking about it I really don't know what you can do. How long to ground for? DS1's punishment usually mean taking away the gadgets for a set period of time. No idea if that would be effective re smoking.
When I drop Ds2 off I often see High school children standing around in their uniform smoking. I remember these children from Reception.
Hi diet like you I have just found out that my DS 13 is smoking and like you I gave up smoking in Feb, he used nag me about it too. I am bloody furious with him but don't know how to stop it. He is going through a rough time atm so don't want to go over the top but I am so disappointed in him Very keen to hear any tips how I can get through to him
Good idea to take him to school and collect him for a while, if you can.
Also, instead of punishing him, maybe try being understanding. You know how hard it is to stop and how addictive it is, so a bit of sympathy would probably go down well.
Maybe get hold of Alan Carr's book on stopping smoking and insist he reads it with you every night until you've both read it right through.
Look together online at pics of tarred up lungs and youtube vids of people with lung cancer and discuss them. Discuss ways to say no. It's very hard when there's peer pressure to smoke.
Or get out a calculator and tot up how much money he'll have in 5 years, then 10 etc if he doesn't smoke. Maybe you could offer to save what you used to spend on fags and promise to take him abroad in two years if you're both still not smoking by then?
It should have been for health reasons, but I gave up for financial reasons and couldn't believe how much money I had in my purse each week. It was a real incentive.