13 year old and ear stretchers....help!

(55 Posts)
Fragglewump Sat 12-Oct-13 12:11:23

Dss is 13 and getting ear stretchers. This is being allowed by his mum. Dh and I are sad and concerned that this will damage not only his ears but future prospects. Are we old farts who need to get a grip? Or is there anything we can and should do? Help!

FloozeyLoozey Sun 13-Oct-13 21:17:42

It's not about age, people have been stretching for years. I know of people in their 50s and beyond with them, it's just that in the last decade or so they have increased with popularity.

mrsjay Sun 13-Oct-13 19:41:53

I didn't say she did. I wondered if she did. Difference

you are still not making sense because a parent had agreed to let a teenager to have a piercing then she might have some MH issues . what confused

finallydelurking Sun 13-Oct-13 19:32:47

I don't think anybody actually wants their 13 year old to have piercings, but it's one of those choose your battles things. The best option is probably to accept you can't stop them, but you can compromise and you can ensure they do it as safely and hygienically as possible.

WiddleAndPuke Sun 13-Oct-13 19:04:13

I didn't say she did. I wondered if she did. Difference.

DownstairsMixUp Sun 13-Oct-13 19:01:21

I don't agree with letting a 13 year old do that either but I'd hardly say she had mental health problems. Bit over the top like.

nocarsgo Sun 13-Oct-13 18:58:42

You have to be VERY VERY slow with lobe stretching, or you risk getting a blowout.

Make sure your DS really does his homework when it comes to stretching slowly and responsibly. Get him to research blowouts, what they look like and how to prevent them.

Sadly I suspect a 13 year old won't be mature enough to do this responsibly but... his ears, his mistakes.

WiddleAndPuke Sun 13-Oct-13 18:52:54

Because I can't believe that a mentally sound adult would go along with a THIRTEEN YEAR OLD CHILD having potentially irreversible, great flappy holes in themselves.

It was just a question. I'm not suggesting that everyone with MH problems would do such a thing, or that everyone with flappy holes has MH problems, or that there's anything wrong with having MH problems etc etc etc.

The general rule of thumb tends to be don't stretch your ears bigger than your baby finger if you want them to shrink back.

Well it doesn't seem like saying 'Over my dead body' will help at all so I think you're best off respecting his choice - even when it's a bit daft. Help him keep it clean and safe and when/if he gives up and it out say nothing at all. Really it's best not to 'see' it all. If you praise it that's encouragement and if you oppose it then that's even more encouragement. Just let it become invisible.

Fragglewump Sun 13-Oct-13 18:34:08

I'm getting the feeling lobe stretchers are like marmite.

DownstairsMixUp Sun 13-Oct-13 18:22:02

Some really nice replies to this thread hmm

pinkyredrose Sun 13-Oct-13 18:11:22

widdle Mental health problems? What the fuck are you on about? !

mrsjay Sun 13-Oct-13 17:57:31

dd wore the plugs ( i couldnt remember what they were called before thanks fairy) she got some with designs on them they looked nice it was just the taking in and out that would make me queasy

Fragglewump Sun 13-Oct-13 17:53:36

I suspect primadonnagirl that is exactly why a grumpy teenage boy is attracted to it!

Primadonnagirl Sun 13-Oct-13 17:46:35

Why????????? Each to their own I know..but I'm genuinely perplexed why anybody wants to do this? I'm sorry and know someone is going to say its just like a piercing or a tattoo, but IMO its much more severe than that and not remotely attractive.Im not being judgey.. As I say I am genuinely baffled that anybody looks at them and says ...."Oooh! I want that!" They make me <boak>

DropYourSword Sun 13-Oct-13 17:36:33

He'll have to learn patience if he wants to stretch his lobes!

Fairylea Sun 13-Oct-13 17:31:46

My dh has them. Quite large ones too, in both ears.

He is a university graduate and works in a senior management position in retail for a global company.
He wears a suit and tie every day.

He has never had anyone say anything negative about them except at one interview where they asked if he could wear flesh coloured plugs so they weren't noticeable.

He generally wears wood black plugs and they look quite smart.

However, he now says he wishes he had not done it and is looking into minor surgery (done at piercing studios) to have them sewn up. When done well you can hardly see they were ever stretched.

mrsjay Sun 13-Oct-13 17:23:46

yeah i suppose I was quite glad when she decided to take them out for good though

YY like that mrsjay-you get used to it presumably?

mrsjay Sun 13-Oct-13 17:21:48

the studs she wore after streching were covered so you couldnt see through they iyswim

mrsjay Sun 13-Oct-13 17:20:54

they used to give me the creeps tbh dd would take it out to put another stud thingy it and my insides would churn

I didn't realise they were reversible, I thought you were stuck with them. I feel a bit better about them now, but I think they are best left until they are older.

They do make me feel a bit funny though.

mrsjay Sun 13-Oct-13 17:11:41

if he is going to do it really quickly tell him his ear lobes might split <shudder> I know you don't like them and it is ok to disapprove he wants you to disapprove and tut or there would be no reason for him to try and rebel wink

Fragglewump Sun 13-Oct-13 17:05:57

Hmm sadly dss has inherited his non-existent patience from his dad!!

mrsjay Sun 13-Oct-13 17:01:04

I doubt there's much you can do really OP, particularly if his mother is supporting him. Does she have MH problems?

oh stop it do you think a parent who allows ear piercin g has MH problems

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