Yes Fressia I know exactly what you mean. It's awful not to be able to relax. Also I feel like I don't want to paint ds1 in a bad light to the younger ones (9 and 4) incase that opinion sticks and damages their relationship.
It's a tough line to walk on letting ds1 know how angry and disappointed I was and then trying not to let it poison the whole house.
I have had experience of this on couple of occasions now I have to hide any money and my purse it's horrible to have to do this but we have no choice , I'm gutted that my child would do this I don't understand it you are not alone .
I had £15 in my purse last night ,, a £10 note and a £5 note .
Today I looked in my purse to find the fiver missing .. I do not want to outright accuse my 13 year old DS but he does have "form" ,, He once took £20 from my purse and for a long time I would have my bag (with purse inside) with me at all times . . Seems I may have to start doing this again I need every penny I get so this has upset me . . You do not steal and you do not steal from your own is how I was brought up and I attempted to bring him up the same . . I have four DCs and he is the problem one . . There are other issues but this post is about the missing money,