Bedtime for 14 yr old

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PJ67 Tue 27-Aug-13 22:49:20

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AnythingNotEverything Tue 27-Aug-13 22:54:24

My DS is 13.5 and when we go back to school bedtime will be 10 for 10.30 with wake up at 7.15.

I think you're right.

Viking1 Tue 27-Aug-13 23:08:41

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livinginwonderland Wed 28-Aug-13 07:48:57

I'm 24. When I was 14, the rule was in bed by 10, lights out by half past. During the holidays, I didn't have a bedtime, though I had to be in my room and quiet when my parents went to bed (around 11pm). I could stay up and read/go online for however long I wanted so long as I didn't disturb anyone, though.

HSMMaCM Wed 28-Aug-13 12:12:23

DD is 14 and gets up at 7am. Bed time and phone away is 9 with lights out and TV/music off at 10. She is often awake later, but I just try to give her the chance to sleep.

Not too early. I'd have liked 9.30 but it was usually ten!

louby44 Wed 28-Aug-13 12:58:03

My 13 DS (he's 14 in Dec) goes to bed at 9pm and lights off at 10pm. Tbh he's sometimes is in his room at 8ish if he wants to watch something on TV. He's pretty good and actually often says 'i'm tired, off to bed, night'. He's up at 7- 7.15am for school

It's my 10yr DS that's the pain - turning his TV back on at 2am because he can't sleep!!

DwellsUndertheSink Wed 28-Aug-13 13:07:35

my DS (14 in Dec) is in bed for 9:40 - but he does have to be up at 5:30 four times a week for swimming. On days where there is no swimming, it slips back to 9:45/10ish.

bigTillyMint Wed 28-Aug-13 15:28:31

I think the rule was that DD (14) had to be in bed and lights out at 10 last term. But as she has a BB....

DH has a cunning plan to turn the internet off at 9.30 on school nights next term, so I envisage a lot of tantrumming and phone data being used!

DSs (13 and 15) go to their rooms at 9, lights off 10.30ish on school nights, up at 7am. The 'ish' part is because if I can't hear them, I won't check up, on the basis that quiet reading isn't an issue as long as they're getting up in the morning (we've got a fairly small flat - there's not a great deal they can do I can't hear!)

BackforGood Wed 28-Aug-13 16:05:27

I think that sounds about right. My 14 yr old dd is often up later, but seems good at 'stockpiling' sleep - she would sleep until teatime in the holidays and any Saturdays she doesn't need to be up for anything, but, to be fair to her, she gets up every morning without needing to be told at 7am, in term time, so I'm prepared to be relaxed over the lights out time, as long as she gets up in the mornings.

PJ67 Wed 28-Aug-13 22:33:40

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chocolate140 Sun 15-Sep-13 00:25:42

my 14 yr old dd goes to bed whenever she wants although she is sensible enough to be in bed by around 11 (most nights anyway)

flow4 Sun 15-Sep-13 07:21:00

My 13.9yo goes to bed about 10:30 and faffs for half an hour. Until recently I was sending him at 10 and he was faffing for an hour! grin He's up without any difficulty at 7:15. My rule of thumb is that if he stays pleasant in the evening and can get up in the morning, then he's getting enough sleep; but if he were grumpy at night and laggardly in the morning, then I'd need to send him to bed earlier.

Travelledtheworld Sun 15-Sep-13 12:24:47

My two aged 13 and 15 usually go to bed between 10 and 10.30 and are up again at 7 am.

Keep all electronics downstairs, then if they want them they have to get up to get them !

NoComet Sun 15-Sep-13 12:40:51

Lights out at midnight. Always been the rule since Y7
Please go up stairs around 10.30. I don't care what you do.

DD1(now 15) will go to bed if she's tired, read, FaceTime her best-friend, watch telly, draw or do HW if she isn't. BF gets in from a different school very late and then has tea and HW, late is, I think, the only time they get to chat.

DD1 is a natural owl, she won't sleep if you send her to bed, she gets wound up and grumpy and over tired just like she did as a toddler if you sent her to bed before 8pm.

DD2(12) I send up at 10-10.30 and she sometimes reads sometimes goes straight to sleep, occasional messes on her lap top for 30 minutes. She is just beginning to become a teen in the mornings, after years of bouncing up before 7am.

KatyPutTheCuttleOn Mon 16-Sep-13 13:07:20

DD is 14, she is always asleep/in bed with the light off when I go to bed which is anywhere from 9.30pm-11pm. She chooses for herself on the whole.

Gilbertus Mon 16-Sep-13 16:16:57

Dd1 will be 14 next month. Bed by 9 on a school night and I take her phone (which she is happy with as she knows she will text on it for hours and then be tired next day). She goes to sleep at about 9.45

usualsuspect Mon 16-Sep-13 16:20:41

At 14 mine decided their own bedtime, it was usually between 10 and 11 though.

Gilbertus Mon 16-Sep-13 16:31:26

I am amazed some 14 year olds regularly go to sleep at 11 shock or even 10.30 shock mine gets up at 6.15 am though.

ssd Mon 16-Sep-13 16:35:58

if I let my 2 decide their own bedtime they'd be up all night, they see bedtime as a personnel challenge

Weegiemum Mon 16-Sep-13 16:37:00

My dd1 is 13.6, gets up at 6.45 to get ready to leave ay 7.40 - no, I don't know what takes her so long,I get up at 7.45 to leave at 8,!

Goes to bed for 9.30, lights out (and phone confiscated) by 10.

heronsfly Mon 16-Sep-13 16:40:19

My dds 14 and 16 normally go up at ten, as long as they are quiet I don't really know what time they go to sleep, I suspect around midnight.
They both get up about 6.15 and are on the bus at 7.

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