Eating disorder

[nickychildminder]

Help my 13 yr old daughter has been diagnosed with an eating disorder been to the doctors and been referred for councilling she's eating very little anyone been in the same situation and can offer advice??

[nickychildminder]

Hi thanks will google it she had a good day today 1roast spud 4slices of carrot an a slice of beef!!! But then cried for ages after. They don't mention any of this when you bring home your beautifull baby from hospital

[IceAddict]

I have a client whose daughter is suffering from anorexia they have had help from cheds referred by GP And found b-eat.co.uk quite useful. GPs seem to be very supportive about eating disorders these days as it is a serious issue. Best of luck

[assumpta]

Nicky - I can't offer any advice, but with other issues going on in our house, my heart goes out to you all and your dd. I am sure the advice you will get on here will help you.

[nickychildminder]

Bmi 21 at moment so hopefully will be able to stop it getting worse

[nickychildminder]

Hi thank you for support have googld an registered on support site it's going to be a very long journey found out today she had been bullied on Facebook so it all ads up just have to focus 1 day at a time can't look at big picture it's a lot to get your head around

[nickychildminder]

Today is not a good day she's only eaten a frosties ceral bar and now her dad is telling her off over the phone booked blood test at docs suggestion and referral has gone off so fingers crossed trying to stay positve

[nickychildminder]

Thanks spoke to doc an she suggested protein shakes might help just need to hide packaging

[Apollinare]

Hi Nicky.. we are the other side now of my DDs Ed - but it will always be her vulnerability and I watch like a hawk! Thanks to a recommendation on here I joined the www.aroundthedinnertable.org
and the confidence and encouragement I got enabled us to get her eating again using the Maudsley method - until you do that, as has previously been said, you are fighting a losing battle - the ED voices in her head are stimulated by starvation. DD had CBT therapy which helped a lot but we had to take her out of school for the rest of the year because she was too weak to attend. We managed to avoid hospitalisation but had some very rough nights when I sat up with her all night and when the ED takes over, it is very frightening.

The treatment from the GP was pretty iffy as they didnt really know what to do - but all they need to do is refer to the right people and they need to take this very seriously. Facebook - what a crock of shit it is at times!

[nickychildminder]

Thanks facebook an all those sites should been shut down she had blood test today an there testing for celiac disease aswell she's managed to eat a brioche an very tiny potion of home made cottage pie this was a good day

[TOMAGCRO]

Hi, my daughter has an ED. she blogs about positive steps in her recovery. Juniperbaby.wordpress I blog about how being a Dad of a daughter with ED feels,

Top tips....read about the Maudsley method. There is a good book available via amazon. You need to become a dolphin (its in the book) .... Your husband is a Rhino...like me...it doesn't work....parents have to change. You are now dealing with ED who is different to your daughter...and ED doesn't give a toss about you or your husband....that is really hard to deal with.

You and your husband have to agree ground rules and tactics as to how you deal with it....shouting doesn't work.

Get professional help soon including a nutritionist. Work to a meal plan. Get a good therapist who understands ED. You need to try and find the cause.

Make sure you nag your GP. Make sure your GP is sympathetic. Get referred ASAP there are long waiting lists on NHS ( we had BUPA who eventually helped..).

Read lots but be prepared to disregard some info apply what you need for your child.

Avoid films on You Tube....really depressing.

Keep an eye on exercise limits....Juniper started rowing and marathon inning training. I was delighted until I learned she had anorexia. All exercise has been stopped on medical advice.

There are parent support groups at some hospitals.

You will find many others in the same boat as you.
Be prepared for the long haul. It's really really hard....you must build a team.

God bless.

Tomagcro

[nickychildminder]

Hi thanks there's no talking to dd dad ex husband complete idiot!! Councilling booked but bloods came back raised now may be facing type1 diabetes the more I try to help her the more argumentative she gets this is going to be a very long journey

[nickychildminder]

Hi thanks there's no talking to dd dad ex husband complete idiot!! Councilling booked but bloods came back raised now may be facing type1 diabetes the more I try to help her the more argumentative she gets this is going to be a very long journey