Go to school

(8 Posts)
Becky334 Thu 18-Jul-13 13:14:31

My 14 year old daughter refuses to go to school she has had so many days off this term ive tried everything like talking to the school dean etc im really worried any advice would be great as raising a teen isnt easy

specialsubject Sat 29-Jun-13 18:03:53

no-one learns if there are no consequences. Kids this old need to have consequences.

tell them what they need to do and what will happen if they don't do it. Then let it happen. That's how we all learn.

Sparklingbrook Sat 29-Jun-13 16:23:28

DS1 is 14. We have to leave the house at 7.50am to get to the school bus before it leaves at 8.10am.

He gets up at 7.25 at the earliest. Has a shower, gets dressed and out the door.

He doesn't leave any time for anything unexpected to happen and it really winds me up. If he misses the bus it will be me that has to drive 12 miles to school. So no option to be 'late'.

Mumneedswine Sat 29-Jun-13 16:19:34

Think you all told me what I already knew!(but was trying to kid myself) Gotta let her get on with it & deal with the fall out....she got excluded 4 one day for lots of lil things over time so just don't want any more things 2 go wrong! Even gave up work to try & get her sorted!! V diff as she really isn't 'bad' just doesn't know when to shut up!

Chottie Fri 28-Jun-13 22:11:38

I would also stop pandering to her. Tell her the night before that you check she is awake, but after that it is her responsibility to get up and ready for school. Warn her that you will not be making any excuses for her when the school phone to find out where she is.

cory Fri 28-Jun-13 15:53:26

Do you have a good reliable school that can be trusted to punish her rather than give you a hard time?

I was always very reluctant to let dd take the consequences of her actions in junior school as I knew the school would twist it round to be about my bad parenting- probably less risk of that in secondary.

specialsubject Fri 28-Jun-13 15:07:49

let her take responsibility for her own actions, or lack of them. Give warning of what will happen if she is late, give her an alarm clock. If she is late, tough.

Mumneedswine Fri 28-Jun-13 08:31:40

Takes me ages to get daughter up & then when finally up it takes her an hr to leave the house! Any one got any tips on getting teens moving.......feel like I've done a days work & it's 8:30hmm

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