flow just needs a quick moment of pride! :)

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flow4 Mon 17-Jun-13 16:50:45

My DS1 has just had his end of first year BTEC diploma results, and has bagged himself a clutch of passes, one merit and one distinction. smile

Anyone who has read my posts over the last few years will know we've been through a lot, and nine months ago (when he was taking drugs, getting arrested, stealing, being violent towards me and generally being a total arse) I could never have imagined this was possible. And more importantly, I know he couldn't either.

I am so proud of him for getting himself together and working so hard this year. It's really hard to believe it'll last, but I think he might have turned a corner. smile smile smile

flow4 Wed 10-Jul-13 16:22:07

Thanks nick. And yes, I found 15-17 the hardest bit with DS1 by a long, long way...

nickstmoritz Wed 10-Jul-13 11:42:08

Very good news. Well done DS and well done you. I am finding the teen years the hardest bit so far so it is great to read your happy news. Congrats x

flow4 Mon 08-Jul-13 22:44:21

Thanks hollo. smile

hollolew2 Mon 08-Jul-13 21:41:10

This post really made me smile well done to him and you! It's so nice to read someone's positive journey .

flow4 Fri 05-Jul-13 04:57:17

Thanks willo! Hope you have a great time at the Stones gig... No dancing is a BIG ask - do you think you can stick to your promise?! grin

willotess Thu 04-Jul-13 02:06:05

I have just found this thread Flow4, and I am so pleased for you and your Ds. So there is light at the end of the tunnel? Hopefully that pinprick of light I saw from my son today could be the start of something good too.

We are spending Saturday together - going to the Stones gig at Hyde park and though he has said it's weird for an 18yr old to do things like that with his mum, he has also said he's looking forward to it too. I have promised no mum dancing!!

All the best for the two of you x

flow4 Sat 22-Jun-13 00:33:27

Hah, thank you Mini and Fig! I'm still feeling pretty chuffed! grin

Minifingers Fri 21-Jun-13 19:24:38

Sorry to come to this so late Flow.

I am feeling your joy. I really am. smile

I wish your son every success. flowers

FlyingFig Thu 20-Jun-13 22:58:44

<bursts in singing the theme tune to The Golden Girls> grin

Just wanted to give you a high-five flow4, considering all you've been through, you always manage to find the time to help other parents, with such sound and practical advice.

I posted back in about February about my DD1; things are still tough, but at the beginning of our journey, you (and others, but you especially) really helped me stay calm. From reading this board, I've developed coping strategies, learned that I'm not 'The Only One' and above all else, learned to detach from the bad and make the most of the good, thanks to you.

I don't really post on MN that much but when things are bad with DD, a quick search usually brings up a thread with a similar issue to ours, and more often than not, you'll be on that thread with fantastic advice, which is so helpfulflowers

So thank you; I'm over the moon for you and your DS, you've every reason to feel proud smile

Also, while I'm gushing, a huge shout-out to MaryZ. I'd always luffed her from reading her posts on other boards (especially her ability to sniff trolls out from 20 paces grin), but finding her over here, being so helpful and yet honest about her own struggles, well it's fair to say she gained so many Fonzi points I thought my laptop might blow up grin

Thank you for helping me keep on keeping on xxx

LineRunner Thu 20-Jun-13 21:58:18

Laura thanks so much. Hope you are doing ok.

Well done to your daughter, Linerunner . Fantastic news!

LineRunner Thu 20-Jun-13 19:56:25

My DD's 'team' came 3rd in the Rock Challenge finals. So chuffed. smile

I agree totally about having 'fellow travellers' on here. Even if I was just lurking on threads, my god it made a difference. Thank you.

lmgeorge92 Thu 20-Jun-13 13:07:37

Congratulations to you + you son
and also to Maryz + her daughter
I WAS that child a few years ago, maybe not so extreme but the day I got my A levels results my dad cried because he'd never thought id get that far.
I'm now two years into university and glad I stuck it out.

Keep the faith.

flow4 Wed 19-Jun-13 20:30:45

I mean, lard?! KNITTED EYEBALLS?!?! confused grin

flow4 Wed 19-Jun-13 20:28:07

I just Googled 'schmaltzy' to see if I could post a suitable pic to go with BIWI's cheesy music... And you would not believe some of the weird images that came up! LOOK! grin

<sings 'Now I've had the time of my li-i-ife and I've never felt this way before'>

BIWI Wed 19-Jun-13 20:19:47

<plays cheesey music>

grin

I know I said it earlier, but in case you missed it Flow - you and Mary have been a real life line for me through these last few months. You both understand what it is like to be involved in this madness and despite all your own troubles, you both take the time to help fellow travellers. I might not post much (it's hard to express sometimes, just how bad I feel) but your calm voices keep me plodding on.

I am genuinely thrilled for you both that corners have been turned. And to everyone else

<hands round hugs and medals>

Parp

grin

flow4 Wed 19-Jun-13 19:31:24

(Come on, quick, someone fart or something! It's all getting terribly earnest!) wink grin

flow4 Wed 19-Jun-13 19:29:43

Wow. Blimey. I'm shock

Maryz, I think all I did was match your openness and honesty.

In 'real' life, we get so used to filtering and censoring what we tell people about our DCs, because we learn we and they will be judged, or rejected, or despised, or condescended to. 'Real life' becomes quite unreal, IME. Here in this 'virtual' world where no-one knows us (or if they do, they can't decently mention it), we don't need to pretend. We don't need to worry what people think about us. It makes for conversations that are often much more real than real life; much more open and honest. And we all learn more as a result.

We may have teens who are pains in the arses challenging us, but I think we're lucky to have found each other here. smile

TheRealFellatio Wed 19-Jun-13 19:24:11

Well done Flow and FlowsBoy - fantastic to have come through such a tough time in one piece. I hope this is the beginning of an ever-upward trajectory. Sometimes things have to get really awful before they can start to get better. He could not have done it without your unswerving support - even if it half killed you. grin

AnyFucker Wed 19-Jun-13 19:20:52

Mary ain't so bad either smile

Maryz Wed 19-Jun-13 19:05:16

Flow, you were the first person I ever "met" online or in real life, who actually understood me.

After four years of feeling I was going nuts, I started talking to you and realised it wasn't me who was mad, it was the situation I was in.

Sadly there seem to be a lot of people here atm going through similar sad. At the time I felt so alone.

It's made such a difference, talking to someone who genuinely understands, not just people who are making sympathetic noises while simultaneously just feeling slightly smug that they aren't having to cope with it.

So thankssmileflowers

flow4 Wed 19-Jun-13 18:49:36

Now I really AM blush blush, AF!
Thank you. smile

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