Should a 13 year old be allowed to wear a G string

(91 Posts)
Skatergirl45 Thu 25-Apr-13 20:39:37

My daughter who is 13 very soon, who looks 16, asked me if she could wear a G string. I was quite shocked and said categorically NO WAY. She then went on to tell me that other girls wear them and they take the mickey out of you if you can see panty lines in the school trousers the wear. This all took place in the middle of a shop when we were purchasing underwear. Her older 19 year old sister was not impressed and told her so and her reasons being, that she feels that its an article of clothing that sexualises young girls and feels that it could lead onto to bigger things. My 13 year old ended in up in tears and now feels that we think she's with the boys. Can someone tell me if this is a fashion thing and it is something that girls wear or should I be suspicious.

ClaraOswald Thu 25-Apr-13 22:47:40

The poo may be gone, but that's not to say all the bacteria has.

Added to which the rubbing can cause infections and chafing and irritated skin.

Just on health grounds I would refuse them.

ifancyashandy Thu 25-Apr-13 22:54:04

I clean properly, same as those who wear full knickers.

Never had chaffing or any infection. Not even thrush.

Fallenangle Thu 25-Apr-13 23:01:36

I cant see how strings are any different from other knickers with regard to bacteria transmission from back to fron,t unless your experience is that they move back and forth more.

ripsishere Fri 26-Apr-13 02:48:24

If my DD asked I'd probably get her a pair. It's unlikely to arise, she only wears up to the waist pants with legs on.
They look bloody uncomfortable to me, but I am old.

nooka Fri 26-Apr-13 03:03:46

My dd is the same sort of age and I'd just say no. I associate thongs with sex personally, mainly because they are so incredibly uncomfortable I'd not wear them for longer than I had to! Luckily dd likes very sensible sorts of knickers from the childrens range still (in fact underwear are the only clothes she wears from the children's range now). Apparently there are girls who were g-strings in her class, but dd thinks they are gross and those girls aren't people she admires.

It's a pity that your elder dd came on so strong.

AmandaCooper Fri 26-Apr-13 11:18:14

I wear them but only under work wear or under posh frocks to give me a clean line to look tidy - the exact same reason your dd has given. I always change into something more comfortable as soon as I get home. Absent clothes I think pretty much anything is more flattering than a g string and if it really is just about VPL plain cotton ones should do the job.

Shagmundfreud Fri 26-Apr-13 11:38:51

I would allow my dd to wear what the heck she wants underneath her clothes, as long as she's willing to put up with the discomfort of having a cheese wire between her buttocks, and doesn't actually want to show the bloody thing off to boys.

grin

Startail Fri 26-Apr-13 13:00:00

No, I wouldn't like my DD to wear a G-string or shave to the extent necessary to be seen in one by her peers changing for PE.

However, as long as schools insist on uniform on one hand, but don't deal with the teasing it causes I'd butt out.

If our school let the girls wear short skirts, they wouldn't have all swaped to stupidly tight trousers instead. If they just let them all wear jeans and hoddies, Non of the rubbish over VPL, being teachers pet for not rolling up your skirt etc would exist.

specialsubject Fri 26-Apr-13 15:04:36

no. They are an uncomfortable health hazard. Fashion shouldn't hurt. She can get boy short type ones or high legs which don't show under shorts, although if the school shorts are so tight that what they had for lunch is visible I would question the uniform policy.

teach your daughter to stand up for herself, that being a sheep-like follower is stupid, and if there is bullying over what knickers people wear that a) the other kids are thick as hell and b) the school needs to do something.

FreckledLeopard Fri 26-Apr-13 15:08:52

I always wear thongs - no VPL, look nice - have never had a problem with them.

If DD (12) wanted to wear them, it wouldn't be something that would bother me. I don't believe that underwear choices have an inextricable link with sexual behaviour (though perhaps crotchless panties might be taking things a little too far)...

Ooopsadaisy Fri 26-Apr-13 15:18:49

I wear thongs most days and dd (14) tells me they are really Mumsy (therefore not at all trendy).

They are extremely comfortable. I have never noticed that anyone has got the idea I want sex because I'm wearing it (how the hell would they know, anyway?) I wash and use loo roll just like someone wearing full-bum knickers.

DD can have them if she wants but she'd rather die than dress like her Mum.

She wears boy shorts.

ParmaViolette Fri 26-Apr-13 15:23:23

Slightly amused that a lot of people see g-strings as just underwear. I suppose they are, but the connotations just scream sex and 'look at my ass cheeks and vulva!'

I wanted to wear them at that age, because I thought it was sexy. And now g-strings and thongs look really sexy and are also practical with tight fitting clothes- but when I think of myself clambouring for a pair and admiring myself in my mum's- I feel a bit ill. All seems a bit wrong to me.

If she wants pretty knickers as opposed to multipacks and ones with cats on- you can get pretty lacy seam free ones in M&S.

sweetiepie1979 Fri 26-Apr-13 15:23:46

I think g strings are horrible I've only wore them for seamless purposes. Sounds like the 18 year old ws a bit harsh with her and you might need to take her aside and have a gentle chat with tea and cake. Sure the 13 year old is mortified and yes I can imagine she would get a hard time for seeing pant line files can be so difficult. Tell her what they are associated with and she might have a better understanding. Sloggi pants are taking it a bit too far though no need to buy a granny pant instead just because it's seamless! You can get some nice seamless one in h and m I think, and john Lewis.

luxemburgerli Fri 26-Apr-13 19:04:40

If she's generally a good teenager then I would let her tbh. What does it really matter what's under her clothes? Assuming she has a long enough school skirt! Save the battle for something that really matters.

englishrosie Fri 26-Apr-13 21:22:29

How on earth do thongs equal sex? That's the dumbest thing I have actually ever heard. I wear nothing but G strings, not for sexual purposes, not because I think people want to see my ass, but because I DESPISE VPL! I hate seeing women with VPL, there is just no excuse for it haha. And if I'm honest even "no VPL panties" still give you vpl.

you can't decide what your daughter decides to cover her private parts with

and as for people saying poo up your fanny, how about wipe your bot!

rainbowslollipops Sat 27-Apr-13 07:47:54

what's wrong with those nice shorts or French ones? I hate thongs and g strings. it's just that. a string. She will get over it once she realises how uncomfortable they are.

CouthySaysEatChoccyEggs Sat 27-Apr-13 07:53:48

A 13yo? Um, nope. I wouldn't buy them for my 15yo. Who the hell cares about a vpl in their school uniform?!

My DD prefers apple catchers the 'shortie' knickers, as she says they are more comfortable and don't give her a 'wedgie'.

She over shares quite frequently...grin

CouthySaysEatChoccyEggs Sat 27-Apr-13 08:00:08

DD's views on thongs : "they look uncomfortable. Like the world's worst wedgie. Were they designed by someone who has no idea of ladies' bits?!"

Fairylea Sat 27-Apr-13 08:04:34

Hmm it's difficult because kids can be cruel and if all her friends are wearing them and teasing those who don't that's pretty miserable if she's the odd one out. I know it's not good to be a sheep but fitting in at 13 is very important. I was bullied so badly aged 13 for all kinds of things and ended up changing schools because of it. Kids can really be horrid.

Saying that I'd show her some of the newer no vpl styles and explain the hygiene issue and see what she says... in hope!

JenaiMorris Mon 29-Apr-13 10:55:49

I'll cut her some slack for being 19, but "feels that it could lead onto to bigger things"? Really?

I'm not surprised the OP's daughter was upset - what a horrible insinuation!

I thought G-strings were out of fashion these days, anyway.

<shrugs>

PearlyWhites Mon 29-Apr-13 11:01:00

I would let my 14 year old dd yes under those circumstances because girls can be cruel and bitchy and vpl could be social suicide to teenage girls.

dementedma Sun 05-May-13 19:55:26

Boy shorts much sexier imo

Branleuse Sun 05-May-13 20:02:46

yes id let her. Plain cotton ones maybe

It was all about the tanga briefs when i was at school

Pantone363 Sun 05-May-13 20:08:40

Yes I'd let her.

Plain black/white. It doesn't have to be Ann summers.

Bunbaker Sun 05-May-13 20:09:42

The 13 year olds at DD's school don't wear them

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