My DD is 16. She's been going out with her first serious BF now for about 7 months. I've tried so hard to like him despite some warnings from my friends about signs they've seen because I don't want to be the sort of dad who hates her BF's. I've tried so hard to include him in family activities and make him feel welcome.
But it's starting to become obvious that he's showing many signs of a classic abuser. He's constantly around. Spends every moment with my DD to the point where I lost my temper with them yesterday cos he's literally here 7 days a week. DD has already lost one close friend as a result of never spending any time with them.
On top of that he is constantly jealous and quite controlling. He's always going on about how my DD will cheat on him needing constant reassurance from her that she won't. How she can cheat on him whilst he's always next to her is beyond me.
He had a go at her a little while back because she was wearing 'revealing clothes'. Erm...i'm her father and I didn't have a problem with it. And I don't think a wooly jumper counts as revealing! It was snowing for christs sake, she wasn't walking around in a bikini!
DD has been upset over the last few days because of the way he speaks to her and the jealousy issues. Yesterday I thought she'd finally seen the light and was going to dump him but he's apologised (again), gave some stupid reason as to why he's in a bad mood and mistreating her and like a naive fool she's forgiven him.
Right now I just want to confront him and warn him to sort his shit out. Well actually I want to take his head off but I will need to resist that.
But am I better off biting my tongue? Thing is I'm not sure i can when he's constantly here until I kick him out at 10pm. He always tries to be friendly with us but it's got to the point where I just can't stand the sight of him. Yet if I refuse to let him in, she'll just go elsewhere and I can't keep an eye on things.
Aarrghhhhhh any wise words of wisdom?
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Confront or bite my tongue?
niceguy2 · 18/04/2013 09:58
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