I don't think it was OTT at all and I have a 16 year old. The telling me that she was waiting for the bus when all the time she was sat at her best friend's house would be enough to make me cross without the not answering the phone on top.
No, you weren't OTT. if she's old enough to have a boyfriend, she's old enough to keep you informed of her whereabouts. Her tantrum is purely showing she's too immature to be trusted. I would have done the same (um, what you did, not the tantrum).
Ignore her. When she calms down, tell her the same thing will happen if she ever ignores your calls/texts again. Personally, I'd ground her for a couple of days as well.
Thanks, didn't know if the recent events had made me OTT. She is grounded tomorrow also, as well as having to tidy and clean her shittip bedroom. Something else she doesn't manage well. Memory and organisation are not her best skills. She's now a bit calmer and I have told her it will happen again if she forgets to keep in touch, there is no excuse for safety and whereabouts.
But she was where she said she was going to be though not somewhere else so maybe a little bit over the top to drag her home. It's not like she was somewhere else entirely?!? I'd say the shame of being dragged home would be enough to remind her in future tho
You are right, that's the condition that my two were let out into the world. Let me know where you are, if plans change, update me, and if I ring or text respond. I didn't hassle them, and the response was often but enough to let me know all was well. She may have forgotten to text you, DS would as well. But not responding? Consequences!
You weren't ott imo and I would be exactly the same. She may have memory issues and forget to text you back but that doesn't explain why she didn't answer her ringing phone. We provided DD with a mobile phone at that age for our peace of mind and her security, not as a sole means of socialising with her mates. We have had the 'I forgot' 'I didn't hear it' lines and we told her if she didn't keep in touch with us, her phone would be confiscated and if she had no phone to keep in touch with us, she wouldn't be allowed out!