Have any of you experienced this in your teen? I don't know if I should use the term "depressed" but my ds is definitely showing signs of his spirits being extremely low. School is the main protaganist in the scenario and he and I and the school are talking about all of that. But it is his behaviour, the heavy, depressed lack of motivation, the sadness and his frustration because he doesn't want to feel like this, that has me at my wits end. How am I supposed to encourage him out of bed of a morning? How am I supposed to convince him that he should get up and needs to get up, that he has to go to school and that actually, in the end it will be worth it. He hears my words but they don't mean anything to him and they certainly don't motivate him.
A bit more detail re the school: he is not being bullied, he finds the work ok, he is doing well, he has good friends. What he doesn't like is the "spare time", lunch breaks and such, the hanging around. So the school is offering suggestions to address that. He finds the lessons uninspiring but they are GCSE focused, so sad, but perhaps not surprising. Ds just seems unable to see any point to it all and he is not looking forward to 6th form college as he thinks it will just be the same.
It is really the right here, right now I desperately need some help with; how to motivate him just enough so that he can start to help himself. If I threaten him with taking ipad/phone etc away if he doesn't get up and go to school, this just backfires badly and has a very negative affect. But the dangling a carrot doesn't seem to bother him either. I just can't find a way in.
He had a chat with the Dr 2 weeks ago which didn't go well, the Dr didn't seem to "get it" and he told us that ds wasn't depressed enough to get CAMHS involved, but we are seeing him again tomorrow and hopefully he will have some positive in put. The school counseller has seen ds too but ds seems to resist any support there. Any other suggestions greatly received.
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ds15, No joy, no motivation, can't see the point. Don't know how to help him.
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gardeningmama · 25/02/2013 08:18
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