Title says it all really, not sure what advice there is think I just want some reassurance that we're not alone!
DD is 12yr 8months. Lives with me, my DH and our baby DD. I split up from her father when she was 9, she sees him twice a week during the week and stays with him alternate weekends. She is in year 8.
Ever since the end of year 6 her behaviour has begun to change, most of which I accept is normal, just finding it increasingly difficult to deal with lately. Every single thing, and i mean every thing, is a fight. She simply will not do homework, has regular detentions for this. She has to be forced into showering. Her phone is never out of her hand. Her bedroom has always been messy but lately she has reached new lows - used sanitary products left on the floor/bed for example. I have always tried not to sweat too much about her room as it's low down on the list of things to fight about but I can't let that one slide, yet she just shrugs like oh it's just mum nagging etc. She swears, is rude, does nothing around the house and is actually just bloody horrible to be around.
The one person she is pleasant with is her baby sister, I had been anxious about jealousy but she is very good with her and they have a great bond. She is happy at school, although it's very much a social club, her work is not up to scratch according to teachers.
To us though she swings between ignoring us, swearing at us or just grunting. She used to have a key for home so she didn't have to come with us shopping etc but she let friends in and trashed the place while we were out so is no longer trusted to be here alone, ditto at her dads house. Her behaviour with her father sounds pretty much the same as it is here. I've been on mat leave since march and thought me being a sahm for a while might help but has made no difference.
Sorry for such a long and rambling post, just wanted to get it out and really hope we're not alone!
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ilovechips · 28/09/2012 14:34
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