DD got her monthly pocket money today and went into town with a friend to buy new leggings.
She's just rang to ask me to ring the bus company as she left the leggings on the bus in a carrier bag. Ive rang but they are closed until tomorrow now.
The receipt was also in the bag so Im not holding out much hope that they'll be handed in, but I could be wrong.
The leggings were half of her monthly allowance and she's upset because if she doesn't get them back and has to buy more she will have nothing left for the rest of the month.
So, WWYD if they haven't been handed in? Replace them for her or let her face the consequences of having left them on the bus?
She's been shopping in town on her own for about 2 years now and this is the first time she's lost something.
I'm tempted to just replace them but does that give the wrong message?
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DD left shopping on the bus. WWYD?
TequilaMockinBird · 31/07/2012 17:23
I'll ring them first thing but depending on the outcome, I'll then need to make a decision. I'll also be at work hence asking now, in preparation 
DMIL did a similar thing last week, I think it's easily done.
If you can afford to, replace the leggings, and hopefully this will be a lesson learned about being more careful on the bus 
How is she going to learn if you shield her from the consequences of her cock ups? You are being nice, but are you helping her?
What will she learn? Well, she'll either learn how painful it is to not take care and to lose something. Or she'll learn that if you lose something, it's no big deal because mum will bail you out.
Which would you rather she learned?
Then, as others suggested, extra chores. But an actual £30 worth of chores, not a token 'once round the living room with a hoover' chore
Minimum wage hourly rate
That's a good idea. Primark leggings as replacements or earn money to buy back the ones you lost. I like it.
Hopefully they'll be handed in though and I won't need these, I'll have a very stroppy DD for a few days otherwise
No, I don't think it's a mean amount. My almost 13 year old gets £25 a month and my 16 year old £30 (she has to do a few more chores). They can generally earn a bit more through extra chores, dogsitting, that kind of thing. They have to buy clothes out of that as well as all entertainments.
DD2 is big on the entertainments aspect so rarely has money for clothes. She relies on hand me downs and very cheap shops. I don't interfere, I figure it's up to her if she has nothing to wear.
I think I would replace but they would have to work the money off - first 
But if I left my shopping on the bus, I'd replace it. Including any luxury items, I wouldn't think 'Oh you bad, careless woman, you deserve to go without'
One mistake like that I'd let go with either of mine. A second time, not so fluffy.
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That would be nice, wouldn't it? In life, you get let off with no consequences for any one off mistake. Sign me up! I've made loads of mistakes that I have never repeated because the consequences of them were so bloody painful!
Was the best teacher though. I wonder if they would have been one off mistakes had someone sorted it all out for me and I hadn't 'suffered' in any way?
Life is harsh and you learn fast!
How would you pay for it, caryatid? Would someone else give you the money?
you lot are so lovely! Not sarky lovely - genuine lovely! You big bunch of softies.
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