Hi. I?ve two daughters aged 16 and 14, divorced from their dad 5 years ago. My ex has a terrible relationship with the girls, mainly due to his emotional outbursts and rages that they?ve experienced over the last 5 years. He only just started paying child support this year.
He began seeing someone this year and since than, he hasn?t bothered much with the girls, seeing them now and again, taking them for a couple of hours to the local KFC or to see his Mum.
They basically hate seeing him as all he does is talk about himself and his girlfriend. He never treats them to anything, gives them ten pounds each and drops them back. You know what teenage girls are like, they?d like to be treated nicely by their dads. They really don?t know what to say to him so they sit in silence most of the time. On Sunday, in the car back he started one of his rages because they didn?t shower him with love and affection. He then sent my eldest an angry text and she sent him a really long one completely explaining exactly why she can?t get on with him. She mentioned they way he only talks about himself, hardly asking about them, they way he blames me for everything, and the way he spoils his girlfriend and spends money on her but not them. He then retaliated saying why should he spoil her as she hardly speaks to him, also that he didn?t complain when I bought a prom her dress! What was that all about??
He?s so immature and such a hopeless Dad and I?m sad for the girls as he?s so unsupportive. I?m worried that all this has damaged the girls with their view towards men. I just wish he could step it up with them, spend a full, fun day with them rather than fly off the handle all the time when he?s not getting his own way. My eldest asked yesterday why I don?t step in and stop him seeing them but I want them all to get on normally. I don?t know what to do. Has anyone got any advice how to make things better?
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Lindie67 · 27/06/2012 12:42
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