Been out for a few hours... Come home to cigarette butts and ash trodden into the carpet, drink split, the recycling bin emptied across the sitting room, at least 7 bits of crockery surrounding the sofa, rubbish including empty bacon packet and pizza wrappings on the kitchen floor, the dog left without water, shreds of tobacco and bacon fat all over the stove, grated cheese scattered around the knocked over kettle, a beer taken without asking and the milk all finished... 
AND MY TEEN WONDERS WHY I DON'T WANT TO LEAVE HIM ALONE FOR THE WEEKEND!!! AaaaaaaaaaAAaaaAAAAaargh!!!
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flow4 · 12/05/2012 22:39
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flow4 ·
12/05/2012 22:45
Oh and I forgot to mention the yard brush I found in the street and the clothes pulled off the line and left on the ground in the garden!
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alistron1 ·
12/05/2012 22:45
It won't be his fault and you are mean and unfair for being annoyed about it 
God, no wonder you are venting. How old is he?
flow4 ·
12/05/2012 23:16
How-so-ever, he is now home and clearing up after himself... 
Bacon fat, baccy and cheese gone... Rubbish on kitchen floor binned... Kettle righted...
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alistron1 ·
12/05/2012 23:41
Good, at least he's clearing it up now!! Sometimes texting is good. it removes emotion/anger - I know I've done it with my DD's 
Teenagers, can't live with them, can't kill 'em!!
flow4 ·
14/05/2012 04:07
More venting required Just been woken at 3:20 am by noises and the smell of smoke Son and girlfriend smoking in bedroom. Now, (a) smoking not allowed in house, (b) son supposed to be on sofa, (c) it's Sunday night/Monday morning and I need my sleep, and (d) son supposed to be up at 8am for job hunting. Grrrrrrrrrr! Now I am too cross to sleep! Does anyone else get that??
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flow4 ·
14/05/2012 06:11
I really don't deal well with being woken and disturbed in the night. I. Have. Been. Shouting.
Further attempts at creeping up and down stairs to be together and/or have a cig ("Well you told us we couldn't smoke in my room so we're going outside"- aaaargh!! The only reason they can stay up all night is cos they doss all day don't have enough/anything else to occupy them and use up their energy. 
Tho actually son tells me (at 4am) he's working tomorrow (newish casual gardening/odd job work)...
Cue More Shouting - how did he expect to get up in morn and be fit for work etc... Son's response was to take dog for walk at 4:45am: "Well you told me I wasn't going to able to get up, so I thought I'd stay up" > tears hair <
I can see he's not trying to infuriate me... I can see he's on new ground and just desperate to be with her... I remember being 16/17 and how important it all was... But seriously, does he need to be pushing new boundaries in the small hours of Monday f*cking morning?!
Oh btw, I insisted on the son-on-sofa thing cos I haven't been properly introduced to girlfriend yet (tho I met her half-dressed in my bathroom a couple of months ago when they though I was out ) I have told my son I'm sure I'll be happy to welcome her when she's sat down and had a meal and a conversation with us...
I hate being too cross to sleep. And now I'll have to deal with tomorrow after just 3.5 hours of it :( ... Final word from son: "It's not my fault you can't sleep"... Final word from me: aaaaaaaargh!!
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flow4 ·
15/05/2012 23:57
Oh Brightspark. I'm really glad your daughter seems to have turned a corner :) but it must be very hard for you to have her elsewhere when you want her home :(
You do know her improvements are not evidence of your failure, don't you?! Her behaviour was bad because she was locked in a furious battle with you - a natural part of growing up and 'breaking away' for many kids - and now, she has no need to fight anyone at the unit because she doesn't need to break away from them - they're just not important enough I think I said before that it seems sometimes kids who are closest to their parents seem to fight the hardest... And of course that hurts all the more, because that closeness means your loss is greater. > hugs <
Ironically, I've spent a lot of time (especially during sleepless nights) racking my brain for some way to get my son to leave home without/before a further crisis. He tells me I'd miss him if he wasn't here, and of course I would; but not enough to stop me wanting him to go!
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