I'm a regular but have name changed because I never talk about family on here.
DH and I are having an issue with DSD and would benefit from some different perspectives.
She's 16, lives with us full-time. Doesn't have a great relationship with her mother, visits her only when she feels she really has to even though she's about 2 minutes walk away.
She has real hygiene issues and we're at a loss as to how to deal with it anymore. Her room is a tip, which I know is par for the course with a teenager, but the real issue is cleanliness. All her clothes are thrown on the floor, clean mixed with dirty (which really pisses me off when I've cleaned and ironed them). She hardly ever puts washing to be cleaned, which means that her clothes smell (and hence she smells at times). I don't know how many times I have discussed with her the need to put dirty clothes straight in the wash basket when you take them off, it just isn't happening. Rubbish never gets taken out of her room (including sanitary towels). It absolutely stinks in there and I do not exaggerate when I say you cannot see the carpet.
About 4 months ago I decided to take the bull by the horns and I started going in her room each morning to remove clothes that needed to be washed and to take out the rubbish and mouldy cups/plates. She had a melt down about me going in her room, so DH and I backed off and said we would stop doing it if she took responsibility for her own washing.
Guess what, 3 months on and we're back where we were.
What would you do? She doesn't get shamed into keeping it straight by her friends because she never invites any over, they always go out. No boyfriend and no signs of being interested. She doesn't seem to be concerned that people might be judging her because she's a bit whiffy at times. Should we take control again? I just don't want her to be the smelly kid because teenagers can be so cruel.
Going out now for a few hours, will check in again when I get back.
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Nickname100 · 04/05/2012 10:15
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