Thought DS had changed :(

[tan3517]

I really don't know what to do now:( If you look back on some of my posts we have been through and emotional rollercoaster with my 14 DS.
He has been in lots of trouble at school, they are threatening to throw him off his gcse classes, he's walked away from a two year championship football academy, and caused nothing but problems at home. He told us he wanted to leave the academy because he was under too much pressure and his behavour had stemed from this becuase he was rebelling, so after long talks we excepted his decision. We had a redundancy in the family two weeks ago and are desperatly trying to set up a business to keep us going - he knows all of this and doesn't think twice about anybodys feelings especially mine.
We have grounded hiom for a week again and no phone for school because of his lies and behavour.
He is rude aggressive, got right in my face this morning. I told him that he wasn't taking his phone and he said "shut up". So I saw red and told him not to tell me to shut up, his reply was "I just did". I told him he was grounded for another week as he does not speak to me like that and has been warned previously. his reply was "whatever, no way- I'm not, I'll go out and shut the kitched door. I flew up of the settee and push the kitchen door (hard I will be honest) and he faced up to me. This is just not good enough behavour in my book. he stormed out the front door nearly taking it off his hinges, left his phone behind and went flying down the road on his bike.
I have tried to speak to his dad about this but he slaps him on the hand and says don't do it again. Its causing so many problems, it's like as soon as I open my mouth he thinks im on at him. Dont get me wrong if he talks to me like that i will not sit back and take it. we said some terrible things today, but my DS is pushing me away. :( I just don't know what to do anymore. we are meant to be going on a holiday next weekend, and I don't want to go just because hes there :( hate feeling like this.

[flow4]

Just wanted to say - you are not alone.

[50000feet]

I don't have much advice for you apart from i know how you feel having a nightmare teen, but go on face book or the Internet and look up 'empowering parents'. You don't have to buy it, it's some American thing. But it has really simple straight forward advice and tips! I have tried a couple of tips from it and they work, some don't but any help we can get is worth gold!

[gingeroots]

Just posting to sympathise ,very much .
Like they say - it's the hope that gets you .
I'm always hoping DS has changed ( tho problems not same as yours ) and it's such agony finding out yet again that he hasn't .
So ... look at these posts
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/teenagers/1460348-Ahhhhh-and-breathe-Letting-go

[nickseasterchick]

You are not alone .

[Ryma]

it will get better!! :)

[noddyholder]

It really will! It does take a few years of battles though. Ds was a nightmare and really turned a corner (although still has the odd moment) He is 18 tomorrow and is back to being lovely