Hi
Looking for views on facebook monitoring. DD is 13yrs and has been on FB for 18mths...yes I know she went on at 12 which meant lying about her age. Maybe our first mistake!! But she had changed school and wanted to keep in touch with her old friends/classmates....most of whom seemed to be on FB already! Which is pretty much what it was for the first year...she was very sensible about it and didn't use it much anyway. We went through the whole "internet safety" issues, privacy settings etc etc and also the fact that myself and DH would also have access to her password and be her friends. So we were able to sporadically check her wall, messages etc. And I admit we compulsively did that in the beginning!!
But time goes on, and you learn that she's sensible and is using it fairly appropriately. So we eased off on the checks...still done but intermittently! However, since she turned 13 her usage has increased HUGELY!! I know it's an age thing, but we have had to set time limits on FB which seems to be ok. Now she has removed us as friends, and changed password! Her postings have deteriorated recently in content and language........which might explain this change in tactic.
Can't decide whether to respect her privacy and recognise yet another leap in independence, or insist that we remain her "friends" for at least another year or so. I'm under no illusions however, that if we ban FB completely, she could set up another account unbeknown to us!!
I generally have a very good relationship with DD so I guess I'm a bit sad not to be considered her "friend" any more!!!!
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Monitoring facebook usage...how much is too much?
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nicknamehaha · 28/02/2012 15:16
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