Ok, thought this would be best place to post this. I apologise for bad typing as on phone and hard impossible to edit well.
My sister has 3 girls 14(A), 13(C) and almost 12 (F). Background is that my dsis was with her exh from age 18 to about age 38. She was having an affair and their relationship had been in trouble for around 8 years (prob more). Their parenting wasn't always great and including horrible shouting, force feeding and physical punishments at times. SS were called by the school on at least 2 occasions I know of. My dsis has the girls and leaves them home alone often. this includes night time and the elder daughter and her 17 year old bf are in charge. We've have texts from F at 2 in morning saying she's hungry and waiting for her mum :-( As a family we keep trying to help but as soon as we do the shutters come down. A got extremely drunk in October last year and police were involved. It later transpired she became sexually active aged 13 (I believe she still is). This was unprotected sex so risky. She's also disruptive at school and literally out till al hours. She was self harming :( I don't know if that has stopped. I found out yesterday that C was found by paramedics completely out of it drunk on gin and appears to be following her sisters lead. My sister feels like a failure and is extremely defensive and has threatened to cut her and girls off from family as feels so judged. Her eldest has told me she wants a baby (I have a new baby) and her mum heard and said no. Her dd said she is going to at 16 and her mum said not till 18. I just found out sea back with her 17 /18 year old bf on fb. I am so worried about the girls and love them all. Their parents have fucked up and wen we try to help we are pushed out. My sister puts her social life and work ahead of the girls. They have no other interests except boys. No clubs, sports, hobbies nothing :((
Has anyone here dealt with this situation?
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MamaMaiasaura · 18/02/2012 20:33
I don't think there is much you can do apart from be a loving aunt. You can offer to babysit/have them over to stay. Get them to help with the hard bits of your baby to try and put them off early sole parenthood.
My eldest sister has considered this but she's said the eldest 2 are already beyond help! she said she would have the 12 year old and I do believe she'd be able to help her, but what about A and C.
I know I can't live their lives for them. I Iove them all and sad as I think things could and should have been so different for them
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