DS seems very lazy but may be Aspergers (waiting for NHS diagnosis). He uses his behaviour as a tactic to get out of helping around the house and doing homework/schoolwork.
I am at the end of my tether and have just really shouted at him.
He was promised swimming today if he got his paperwork for his Duke of Edinburgh Award together. It's important that he tries to get this as he is failing in his work for all of GCSEs. If he can get the DoE then it will be a qualification based on doing things he is capable of (swimming, bushcraft, electronics) without any essays etc.
DS manipulates the situation so that I spoonfeed him every action; telling me he doesn't know how to do things (as simple as emptying and changing a bin). Obviously it us easier to do it myself but I try not to do this too much. However spoonfeeding him through every action - which I know he's capable of - is exhausting me.
I've told him that he has blown his chance of going swimming today now, but I still need him to complete the paperwork. Of course now I have no carrot.
I feel ashamed for just shouting at him so much but tbh he shouts at me more.
I'm on my own and my boyfriend of 4 yrs doesn't want to take a role with step parenting DS, although I really feel that DS needs a role model.
Incidentally I have a 19yo who was no trouble at all.
Posted this in parenting earlier but now have cut and pasted to here. Meanwhile, DS and I have reached some sort of an entente cordiale where he has emailed some possibles for volunteering. I breathed a big sigh of relief to see him using his own iniative, but feel it was such a huge upset to bring us to here; and how do I motivate him next time?
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