Hiya I am new here and this is my first post. Really need some advice.
I am mum to a 14 year old girl, She is a really good girl most of the time, gets a bit lippy when her friends come round. She never goes out anywhere and we always have to take her everywhere we go, We rarely get anytime on our own. She is a very polite child and caring to a certain extent
The problems we have with her is pure laziness, I am totally sick and tired of it.
She never puts anything away, she does nothing in the house, she leaves EVERYTHING around for me to move. wet towels, etc, she borrows all my stuff and never brings it back, she never brongs her washing down and drops food on the kitchen floor for me to move.
She isn't doing too well at school because she just cannot be bothered. My husband and I help her so much, we sit and do homework with her, we try to teach her what she can't understand. I laise with the school all the time to try and get her to do better. To no avail. She brought home her pre gcse science results yesterday and wouldn't tell me what she got, she said she didn't do well and ripped up the letter so small I couldn't possibly read it.
Her bedroom looks like a bomb has hit it, clothes everywhere, dvds, videos, papers, glasses, plates.
She lies around watching tv leaving a mess everywhere she goes, she pays no attention to what my husband says.
Now I have taken her TV away and her computer, I have told her I do not want to speak to her and last night I actually burst into tears in front of her and told her how depresed she was making me.
I am partialy disabled after an accident some years back and I have serious back problems, I have to go to the hospital every month and live in pain every day. So picking up after a teenager is not something that makes me feel better. Also we live in a rented house at present as we have moved across the country. I try to explain to her that this is not our house and I worry in case the landlord will come round and kick us out. even though our landlord is brilliant and certain he wouldn't.
I just do not know what to do with her. apart from take all her priveldges away. I have tried to be a really good mum to her and I love her so much, I tell her I love her all the time, I hug and kiss her everyday and pay attention to what is going on in her life, I feel she can really talk to me about anything, So what have I done wrong?
Feel like a failure!
Michele
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Shellybobs33 · 13/01/2006 09:20
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