I really don't know what to do on this one.
I have a 15 year old and a 12 year old. The 12 year old can be quite challenging, but has improved a lot from being 10 and 11.
Both girls have a monthly allowance and both ice skate. This is a very expensive hobby and we are not rich. 15yo has needed new skates for ages, we've all been saving like mad. She saved £100, I saved £100 and my mum gave me £100. The skates she needed are £500 with blades (she's on double axels and stuff and you need very expensive and supportive skates or you break ankles). We managed to get away with buying the boots only for £300 and put the old blades on as they have a small amount of life left in them. That was Monday. Dd1 was so proud of them.
Today, they come back from skate club (DH took them) and 15yo obviously very upset. She showed me her skates. 12yo fell out with her over something and kicked her hard and repeatedly with her skates on. Has scored great big grooves in the new skates.
I am beyond furious but mostly just very upset, gutted, and 15yo has cried and cried; it took us all so long to save. 12yo has cried too and said she is very sorry and doesn't know what came over her - but this doesn't undo the damage.
I've taken 12yo's December allowance off her and another £40 she had saved, originally in case DD1 needs the skates replaced. But it is going to take DD2 a whole year if she has to save £300 and she knows it. She has gone to bed sobbing and sobbing and saying Christmas is ruined (she was saving for something to go with her present). I feel making her pay the whole thing and having no money for a year is a bit too harsh, but I also feel DD1 should be compensated in some way. Plus, I cannot afford to replace them, not even remotely. But I'm mainly just really upset and have no idea how else to handle it.
Please can someone tell me what they would do?
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musicposy · 15/12/2011 23:44
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