When to remove body hair - and which way is best?

[DelicateQ]

Dd is 11 and is developing fast.

She has pretty much flew through the 'buds' stage and has very definite breasts now. She has also started to develop 'fluffy' pubic hair.
I think periods are very imminent tbh.

The thing is, she swims and dances and needs to wear costumes/leotards, so not only does the under-arm hair need to go, she has to be very careful of 'spiders legs', when they start to become a problem.

What is the best way to encourage her to remove the hair? ...and when is the best time to start? (she's keen to remove it)

Also, when do spiders legs generally become a problem? Dd has asked and I really can't remember

(also posted this in the preteen section)

[Theas18]

Gave DD2 a ladyshave when she was 9 and very concious of armpit hair. Bit of talc and they can chop away as often as they like safely and without blockig the bathroom for hours!!

She did steal my wet razor this spring at 11 without asking, not only did I go balistic because sharing razors is just, well SKANKY!! (Dunno why but it makes me shudder!) but I also removed a strip of skin from her ankle from the blade and she had a plaster on it for ages!! I've suggested she go back to the ladyshave LOL

No idea re pubic hair - I'd hate my DD to be doing something where that matters but if that's what's needed I'd say ladyshave too but the "trimmer" not shaving short (the rash and itch!).

[hattymattie]

My eldest has shaved her legs and armpits since she was 11 and last week at 14 (15 in August) I took her for her first bikini wax. I did feel she was maybe young for this but she did want to look nice in her swimsuit. This would have been unheard of when I was young. I did talk to the beautician about this and she also thought girls now were much more developed than we were. She mentioned that she does have a couple of 11 year olds coming to her. She also reckons that regular waxing weakens the hair follicles so eventually it grows back less thickly.

[DelicateQ]

Thanks all

She's keen to try waxing on her underarms [braver than me emoticon] and wants to shave her legs.

I think both can wait for the time being, but when the time comes I think I will try to lead her towards a ladyshave on her legs rather than a wet razor. I think the stubble will drive her mad.

[valentia]

She could maybe try an epilator too? It looks like a shaver but it pulls out the hair from the root. They are very expensive though.