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we just made a written contract with out 13yo ds

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irishtas · 16/02/2011 18:33

after weeks of having running battles with ds
we grounded him over something really serious.

anyway, hes been as good as gold...but looked pretty fed up with life.

so i had a chat with him and he told me what was wrong.

then he asked to give him a chance, one more chance...of course my immidate reply was NO

so he came up with a plan, i write down the rules we want him to follow and if he brakes one rule within that week, then we can revert back to the rules of the last week

so i wrote a list of things and let him read them and asked what he thinks

he said he was cool with them and signed it

i'm in shock here.

  1. at him being so agreeable

2.at us making a contract with him
he has a week to turn it around and follow these rules from now on...do you think he will suceed?
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IsItMeOr · 16/02/2011 18:57

Sounds like you have done a really good thing here. Well done!

Really hope it works out for you. Have you tried reading How to Talk so that Kids Listen etc? Might be worth a look if you haven't.

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KazBarTheFriendlyGhost · 16/02/2011 18:59

this is a great idea - i'll take this on board for when dd is older.

I think it gives them a sense of responsibility.

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Maryz · 16/02/2011 19:20

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irishtas · 16/02/2011 20:07

we actually spoke about the"contract" before he signed it and he asked for a half hour later lol

which i gave.

it was himself who came up with this idea, cause he knew there was going to be no budging me with shouting/annoying, believe me he tried !

i will give on small things....but not too many.

as he went out he walked back and kissed me and said "thanks mam" i almost burst into tears, for that moment he was my boy again.

i am praying that this is the end of all this arguing with him, as it makes me feel so awful to argue so much with someone i love so much.

isitmeor, i havent tried that book, but i will surely give it a read.

its not easy understanding them, when they dont even understand themselves :-)

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