Decided to have a rare treat and have time off to myself, so I went to the next town for some browsing. DD was going there as well with her friend who has been on a sleepover with us. So DH took us to the train station and I paid for all 3 of us. Made a point of not sitting with them on the train and off they went, not half an hour went past when I get a call to ask whether I could sub her some money (£15.00) and she would give it back to me when she had her bank card on her, so I said No,(reason being, is that I'm not entirely sure that she has money in the bank account as she can not save money at all, had £140.00 in xmas money, £125.00 in cheques and she spent a lot in between xmas and new yr)We have decided that she needs to learn to budget money, so now we will pay pocket money 1 month in arrears, so she needed that money in the bank for the next 3 weeks to fund her weekly trips by train into the next town. So sticking to my guns, came a load of phone calls, tried to ignore these and when I did answer, a load of verbal abuse namely the c word and dickhead, idot etc. So text her saying that she has completely blown it and will get nothing now. DD has a boyfriend and I am sure she is giving some money to him to buy ciggies and booze, have advised her not to do this, partly because he is using her and partly that he is too young. Anyway, she text me later in the afternoon not of an apology but could I buy her some new jeans and a couple of strappy tops from Primark. So being soft (Yeah I know, can hear you all now, saying why did you do that! DH said the same when I got home) .DD was still in town and rang me to meet up, she wanted some new boots and when I said No again, abusive behaviour came out. So I walked off and left her to it. Her friend on the other hand started having a go at her for being rude, abusive etc. Moral of the story do not go into same town as stroppy, ungrateful teenager. It ruined my afternoon out and now I have posted feel slightly better, although still cross with myself for buying her some stuff, but these are going in the lockable cupboard until she can be civil. Rant over.
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