My 16yrold ds has just started college and is worrying me loads. He seems to have started smoking has recently bought cannabis and lies all of the time !! he is very bright 10 A* gsces and I am finding it really tricky to know what to do without alienating him. I know he is just fitting in with new friends etc but feel like he is a totally different boy in just 3 weeks. I know about the cannabis because I looked at his phone - something I am not proud of - invasion of privacy etc but he is so non communicative I felt I had no choice... He gets ema and we have been giving him a monthly £40 which we can ill afford and quite frankly it is annoying to think we are scrimping and scraping to get by and he has spent money on booze fags and dope !!!! I have along with husband brought up the subject of the dope and cigs and lies and his reply was he lies because we are overbearing and he just decided to try some dope and the cigs werent his !! facebook shows - he is smoking (pics + comments courtesy of eldest ds 22yrs)and is not the boy we know. Am I unreasonable - just asked if he could stay at a friends next sat night with some others - not local about 30 miles away and we said no due to being worried about the dope thing and also the fact that parents are away and we dont know these friends..... Help I am at a loss and getting upset and worried...
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