Fat woman in bikini

(136 Posts)
Changebagsandgladrags Sun 06-Jul-14 20:25:06

I think Im going to get one.

Years ago, I went on holiday by myself to Corfu. I was slim but didn't think it. Anyway, the beach was full of German women, big women. All in bikinis.

Did they care that they had belly fat? Did they care their boobs were skimming their knees? Did they fuck?

Did they have fun? Oh yes.

Did I have fun in my sports cut one piece? Nope.

So I plan to be a German woman this summer. Yes I'm fat (size 16) but I plan to wear a two piece.

Anyone have any ideas? I've seen a big knicker one in Next.

Rosa Sun 06-Jul-14 20:30:35

M&S with roll top bottoms ,also good mix and match. Where i go loads of.Germans and the ones standing out are those in tankinis and costumes!
matalan have some cheap ones but don't really like the bottoms.

jetSTAR Sun 06-Jul-14 20:30:37

No actual ideas but YAY grin go you!!!!

Wish I was as brave (although I don't tan!)

<don't really care if that is an unmumsnetty reaction>

micah Sun 06-Jul-14 20:34:13

Why do you need to wear a bikini to have fun?

Good for you for finding your self confidence. Personally I don't like bikini's for many reasons- mainly they're not practical rather than anything to do with being fat.

But wearing a one piece doesn't make me boring smile.

Good for you! (Size 16 isn't fat, IMO)
Reckon 50's style, polka dots & halter neck top would look good. But then, ceasing to give a fuck improves any outfit!

GretchenWiener Sun 06-Jul-14 20:39:08

Hooray. No one cares abroad.

Changebagsandgladrags Sun 06-Jul-14 20:48:02

Ok, so I won't actually be abroad abroad. I'll be in Clare, Ireland.

I don't need a bikini to have fun. But it would be fun to wear one. If the weather allows.

lifehasafunnywayofhelpinguout Sun 06-Jul-14 21:04:34

O.p si

lifehasafunnywayofhelpinguout Sun 06-Jul-14 21:08:19

O.P. Size 16 isn't fat. Me thinks you're on here fishing for compliaments. Grow up please. Small wonder young girls turn anorexic when we have alledged adults with healthy womenly figures refering to themselves as fat. X

lifehasafunnywayofhelpinguout Sun 06-Jul-14 21:09:13

O.P. Size 16 isn't fat. Me thinks you're on here fishing for compliaments. Grow up please. Small wonder young girls turn anorexic when we have alledged adults with healthy womenly figures refering to themselves as fat. X

TheBuskersDog Sun 06-Jul-14 21:15:04

If I was a size 16 I would definitely be fat, you don't know the OP's height and build so you cannot say a size 16 is not fat.

Eve Sun 06-Jul-14 21:18:02

That's me! I used to think I was fat as a size 8/10..... Now I am a 14 and have 'love handles' and a few rolls and a tum. Am thinking bikini for when we are in Florida as it will be so hot.

SinglePringle Sun 06-Jul-14 21:18:26

I was a size 16 and weighed 13.5st. I was most definitely fat.

But I still wore a bikini! Do it!

purplemurple1 Sun 06-Jul-14 21:18:31

How can you know if size 16 is fat when the OP hasn't told us how tall she is.

I'm a 16 and 5ft which puts me well into the obese category, I like halter neck and high cut legs btw love topping up my tan!

Enjoy your holiday

lifehasafunnywayofhelpinguout Sun 06-Jul-14 21:18:51

I can say what I please. The buskers dog. It's a public forum.

ForTheBants Sun 06-Jul-14 21:21:13

I admire fat women in bikinis that don't give a shit.

RiojaHaze Sun 06-Jul-14 21:23:04

Fair play OP! It's all about confidence, fuck all to do with size! Enjoy!

TallyGrenshall Sun 06-Jul-14 21:24:04

I'm a 16 and just spent a week in the sun, in bikinis and not a shit did I give.

No big knickers/tankini/tummy control for me. Nobody ran shrieking, small children didn't cower.

Just pick one you like

lifehasafunnywayofhelpinguout Sun 06-Jul-14 21:24:14

So many shallow people on here. If you have teenager/pre teens please try not o let your negativity about your bodies rub off on them

TheBuskersDog Sun 06-Jul-14 21:25:33

Well yes obviously you can say it, it may be untrue though.

lifehasafunnywayofhelpinguout Sun 06-Jul-14 21:25:45

So many shallow people on here. If you have teenager/pre teens please try not o let your negativity about your bodies rub off on them

lifehasafunnywayofhelpinguout Sun 06-Jul-14 21:26:37

I can say what I please. The buskers dog. It's a public forum.

lifehasafunnywayofhelpinguout Sun 06-Jul-14 21:26:55

I can say what I please. The buskers dog. It's a public forum.

Mintyy Sun 06-Jul-14 21:27:59

I'm a size 16 and hugely overweight. Not just a bit chubby, I honestly am stones and stones overweight.

I prefer one pieces and always have, but other women who are bigger than you wear bikinis op and if you want to venture forth into bikini-wearing then good luck to you.

RiojaHaze Sun 06-Jul-14 21:28:24

This seems to be more of a positive body thread than a negative one life!

EhricLovesTheBhrothers Sun 06-Jul-14 21:28:56

You certainly can say what you want. Several times apparently.

OP that's great. As a fellow slightly fat size 16 I just wouldn't so I applaud you. There are some great looking high waisted/fifties style bikinis around that look awesome on bigger women.

lifehasafunnywayofhelpinguout Sun 06-Jul-14 21:29:03

Aplogies didn't mean to postbso many times Damn tablet.

Changebagsandgladrags Sun 06-Jul-14 21:29:25

Oh sorry I am 5 ft 4. I have fabulous legs and my boobs are pretty great. I have a very large middle part.

This is nice:

www.next.co.uk/x53222s7#660961x53?i=16

But I'd like more generous bottoms.

lifehasafunnywayofhelpinguout Sun 06-Jul-14 21:29:56

I can say what I please. The buskers dog. It's a public forum.

peachesandpickles Sun 06-Jul-14 21:31:17

Enjoy your bikini but to be on the safe side pack a raincoat, a fleece, waterproof trousers and parka wink . Can you tell I am familiar with your holiday destination?

ForTheBants Sun 06-Jul-14 21:31:31

I would be huge at a size 16.

I feel self conscious in a bikini at a gym bunny size 12.

I'd love to be a 'let it all hang out' type.

RiverTam Sun 06-Jul-14 21:32:35

I got this one from Bravissimo, it's my first bikini in years, all my wobbly bits are now out and proud!

Bunbaker Sun 06-Jul-14 21:34:15

"Personally I don't like bikini's for many reasons- mainly they're not practical"

I don't think one piece swimsuits are more practical than a bikini.

beccajoh Sun 06-Jul-14 21:35:58

I had a similar don't-give-a-fuck moment last summer when I went to Florida. It was liberating. There were 100s of other women on the beach all with their various wobbly bits, all shapes and sizes, similarly not giving a fuck what they looked like.

Changebagsandgladrags Sun 06-Jul-14 21:36:32

I also have a quite high c section scar which causes an over hang at about the height of that lovely blue one.

But I might take a closer look when I'm there for bras.

I'm not after practical. I'm after fun.

Lj8893 Sun 06-Jul-14 21:38:14

Im a size 16-18. I weigh 15st. Im obese.

op, go you!!!

LucyStafford Sun 06-Jul-14 21:39:39

Do it.

Swimming costumes are too hot.

sleepdodger Sun 06-Jul-14 21:39:57

I feel v fat as a 10; it's all to do with how you look/ feel vs where you know you could be if you stopped eating junk...
And at 5'4 and just shy of 9.5st I'm hefty hmm

naicesex Sun 06-Jul-14 21:41:33

I'm personally loving the passive-aggressive 'x'

Good for you OP!

Branleuse Sun 06-Jul-14 21:43:04

i love my fatkini. I think i look hot

ColdCottage Sun 06-Jul-14 21:45:52

16 doesn't always mean fat and is the national average.
Work it and have fun!

Changebagsandgladrags Sun 06-Jul-14 21:47:08

I've always felt fat, but now am fat. I look back on photos where I felt fat and I look so bloody slim.

So OK I'm fat now, I'll look as fat in a swim suit as a bikini. A swim suit doesn't possess amazing slimming powers and I refuse to wear a holder in type thing.

BuggersMuddle Sun 06-Jul-14 21:47:38

Go for it. I'm overweight OP but as I'm fairly in proportion, I actually thing I look nicer in a bikini. Plus so much easier for going to the loo etc.

Panache do some nice ones. I also got a lovely one from Figleaves own brand recently that's very flattering (I'm big of boob, so I like a fairly structured top part for comfort).

GiniCooper Sun 06-Jul-14 21:51:36

You'll be the only one in a bikini, don't do it.

And you'll be blue too...

Clare, CLARE. Bikini and Clare in the same sentence has me tickled!

Branleuse Sun 06-Jul-14 21:51:47

i got my bikini from here
https://www.etsy.com/uk/shop/RedDollySwimwear?ref=shop_sugg

i got the red polka dot high waisted bikini

Its lined, so holds wobbly bits in place

Awks Sun 06-Jul-14 21:54:57

River Tam that bikini is it true to size? Did you buy the same top as your bra size? its lovely and I'm going to order it too.

AnnabelleDarling Sun 06-Jul-14 21:57:54

If you were going to the Med, I'd say go for it, but in Clare you are risking hypothermia!

LEMmingaround Sun 06-Jul-14 21:58:48

Im a size 18/20 I don't own a bikini as I prefer to stay covered on the beach to protect from the sun but I will quite happily go with bra and knickers if I fancy a swim and don't have a costume on.

Sleepyfergus Sun 06-Jul-14 21:58:50

I spent £50 on a swimsuit from Boden for my hols this year. Ridiculous amount but just couldn't find anything I liked or suited me and this was my first year not wearing a bikini as an feeling fat and old(!)

Anyway, it was amazing. Looked lovely on, held me in round the tum, supported my boobs and was stylishly cut and very flattering. It was also very comfy. So worth it in my experience.

They also sell 2 pieces if you're keen on a bikini. Size up 1 size though, they're cut on the wee side.

lettertoherms Sun 06-Jul-14 21:59:21

I bought a bikini last week. I hate my stomach. I don't know if I'm ready to wear it without a cover-up. But I bought it, which I have never done, it's the only bikini I've owned.

It's part of my new philosophy of not giving a fuck and getting what I want out of life instead.

Good job OP.

ThrowAChickenInTheAir Sun 06-Jul-14 22:01:04

Yes go for it weather permitting. But do it right. Get a nice supportive one that fits. I've bought cheaply ones that make me look awful.

I made the effort last years and spent a few quid on a couple of decent ones and looked and felt so much better.

Changebagsandgladrags Sun 06-Jul-14 22:01:19

Well maybe Clare my own garden. But you never know there might be an unseasonable hot day in July.

Or I could wear it on the camping trip to Sussex.

Blue, well I'm blue anyway. Only one? I don't need the fat Germans anymore...

5madthings Sun 06-Jul-14 22:03:03

Go for it op, I just bought a bikini, two actually one tankini from bravissimo and another one a proper bikini I saw linked to on mnet. It's fab!

I am a size 12, in the process of losing weight/toning up after stopping running, I have started running again but I just thought fuck it, yes I am wobbly and not 'media body perfect' but I am me and have had five kids and I will wear a bikini, even if it's just on the beaches in Norfolk and Wales!

Fuck it feeling brave, me in my bikini, not a great pic.

Changebagsandgladrags Sun 06-Jul-14 22:06:21

You look fab!

AnyFucker Sun 06-Jul-14 22:12:01

Get yourself a bikini, OP

I am not fat but I am nearer 50 than 40.

Chewbecca Sun 06-Jul-14 22:14:36

I'm a 16 and I am definitely fat. I don't have good legs either - lucky you. I like to draw the eye upwards if possible!

I do wish you could see what the bikinis look like on flabby bellies etc, all the models are so slender it is difficult to imagine what they look like on my lumpy, wobbly body, if the belly will overhang etc.

TheBogQueen Sun 06-Jul-14 22:17:26

Wear that bikini!

I am 40 and have had 3cs. Size10/12, Boobs in good nick but tummy is wobbly, convex, lined and scarred with stretch marks , loose skin. It's like a lovely soft blancmange.

Fuck it.

I wear my bikini with pride.

Chewbecca Sun 06-Jul-14 22:17:55

Anyway, not in stock in JL, but I wonder if this sea folly bikini might be quite sturdy yet attractive?

sunny67 Sun 06-Jul-14 22:18:36

Go for it lady!! :-))

RiverTam Sun 06-Jul-14 22:19:58

Awks - you can buy the top and bottom separately.

5madthings Sun 06-Jul-14 22:20:56

m.figleaves.com/uk/product/PM-3302/Ahoy-Spotty-Underwired-Halter-Bikini-Top/?productColourId=731452. This is the bikini top, figleaves, they are lovely. I got plain bottoms from h&m but figleaves do nice bottoms as well.

Bunbaker Sun 06-Jul-14 22:23:58

"16 doesn't always mean fat and is the national average."

This gets trotted out frequently. 16 is the national average because we are an overweight nation. Just because it is the norm, doesn't mean anything.

VanGogh Sun 06-Jul-14 22:25:12

YAY FOR YOU!!!

I got my bikini body out in Friday. Meaning that I put a bikini on my overweight, wobbly body and that was it whilst I baked cakes and drunk wine!!! grin

I have epic (read enormous) boobs, my best bikinis are from bravissimo and (I kid you not!) sainsburys!!!

Choose something you think is pretty. I ignore my black bikinis and prefer my bright ones despite the fact that my body is FAR from perfect! grin

PinkSquash Sun 06-Jul-14 22:29:52

I am in my 20s, a 14/16 and at 5'10 I am fat. I have always wanted to wear a bikini (or tbh anything above the knee) but I've always been afraid to.

Go and wear a bikini with pride. I'm going to wear an above-knee dress tomorrow in solidarity grin

MorrisZapp Sun 06-Jul-14 22:31:15

I am so gutted that I spent my size 12 years in a fucking swimsuit. Why oh why?

I'm now a size 14 with major muffin top etc and will wear a bikini come hell or high water because they just feel so ace.

I was never going to be a 'two triangles on a string' woman, so I bought a stunning bikini in my bra size from Freya. It was truly revelatory. The swimwear equivalent of a lovely, flattering bra.

My top tip is buy bigger bottoms than you think you need, even if they look laughably massive. When you put them on and they don't dig in anywhere you'll thank me.

To the person who said that a one peice is more practical, can I ask why? I can't think of any way in which it's more practical.

AnyFucker Sun 06-Jul-14 22:31:49

I wore my bikini today in the UK smile

Justinepants Sun 06-Jul-14 22:31:54

Go for it Changebags. I did last year (size 14/16) and was very happy that I had. No one batted an eyelid and I stood out much less than my much slimmer friend in her one piece.

ColdCottage Sun 06-Jul-14 22:33:38

Bunbaker my sister is 6' tall and a size 12 but you'd think she was an

ColdCottage Sun 06-Jul-14 22:37:44

Oops, seeing to ds and that went before I'd finished.
She looks an 8/10 another friend is 5'11 and is a size 16 but looks a size 12.
I'm a 16 but people always think I a 14 at most because I'm 5'8
Build and height make a difference.
The most important thing is how you feel IMO.
I've always been bigger than my sister and friends but happy and confidant which I think shines through the most.

Bunbaker Sun 06-Jul-14 22:42:42

"Build and height make a difference."

I agree, which is why stating that size 16 is the average is meaningless. I am 5'7" and would look fat if I was a 16, and skeletal if I was a size 6.

BuggersMuddle Mon 07-Jul-14 00:32:45

YY I am a size 12, but I am a overweight. According to BMI borderline obese, but I do a lot of training and carry a lot of muscle, so I'm smaller than my scale weight of 69 kgs would suggest.

None of this means I'm slim though and I bloody hate it when people say 'size 12 isn't fat' or 69kgs isn't heavy. It can be fat and is heavy if you're barely 5' tall as I am...

Anyway, I go by the thinking that while I wouldn't wear something that is obviously for the very young / skinny (that's my thing, if someone else wants to, go to it and I won't judge), with certain items you're fooling no-one. By which I mean, a fat woman in a bikini does not suddenly become a thin woman when she puts on a swimsuit as there's not much material in either. So wear what you like and feel comfortable in. If you want to wear swimsuit because you feel more comfortable then fair enough.

I think part of this might be because my worst body area for years was legs (now I cycle, not so much but they're not great). Obviously barring a wetsuit there's not much option to cover them on the beach, so the whole ' stomach baring / not stomach baring' thing just didn't register.

TOADfan Mon 07-Jul-14 01:11:25

I never give a fuck I'm a size 24 and I always wear a bikini. I get too warm in a swimsuit plus it's so hard to go to the toilet. Fuck it if you don't like how I look then don't.

KoalaDownUnder Mon 07-Jul-14 04:52:26

I'm nearly 6' and a size 10 and have never worn a bikini in my life, because I don't like my stomach. I know this is pathetic, and wish I'd just got over it when I was younger.

Although I'm paranoid about my own body, I've never, ever seen another woman in a bikini and thought she shouldn't be wearing it.

Rock that bikini, OP!

PrincessPotsie Mon 07-Jul-14 05:36:35

Going away in a couple of weeks and have been debating wether to buy bikinis or tankinis as I'm overweight and v wobbly! You lot have persuaded me that bikinis it will be.

I have big boobs to match my big tummy and bikini shopping is always traumatic. Don't really want to spend a lot as I'm determined to lose weight so will not need this bikini next year. Any ideas where to buy reasonably priced, good fitting ones?

OP we need to work on not giving a shit!!

KoalaDownUnder Mon 07-Jul-14 05:45:34

Re: good quality bikinis, I have been wearing Seafolly swimsuits and tankinis for years, because their fit and quality is amazing. Friends also swear by the bikinis. Not what I'd call cheap, though!

PedantMarina Mon 07-Jul-14 05:56:39

I saw a really cute one in Sainsburys: Hawaiian print on a pale blue background, very retro styling, forgot what options for top but the bottoms could come in full-length and controlly.

I don't think I'll be joining you on this exercise (just don't have the courage! admire you though) but if I wore a bikini this year that would be the one.

PedantMarina Mon 07-Jul-14 06:01:57
WildBillfemale Mon 07-Jul-14 06:15:57

I prefer one pieces simply because I'm very active in the water. I haven't worn a bikini for years, mostly because of this but for figure reasons too.

Got to agree though when I go on holiday and see very very overweight women wearing bikinis and still looking great I wander why I worry about it.

MrsDavidBowie Mon 07-Jul-14 06:31:38

I wore a bikini for the first time a couple of years ago at the age of 52.
I am six feet tall and size 14.
Nobody ran away screaming.
H raised an eyebrow but he's an arse.

I am a 32E and got a couple from Fantasie.
Great support.

mathanxiety Mon 07-Jul-14 06:40:05

All I remember from Irish beaches is women of all shapes and sizes in bikinis. I don't think they were all German or French or whatever.

Go for it!

(I have a few nice tankini tops myself. I like boyshort bottoms in black and they go with pretty much anything on top).

TheBookofRuth Mon 07-Jul-14 07:04:15

Good grief, it shouldn't take "courage" to wear a bikini - walking into a war zone to provide medical aid takes courage (I'd imagine), not wearing a certain type of clothing.

I remember my grandad, upon overhearing me venting my teenage self-consciousness, roaring "what on earth makes you think anyone's that interested in you?!" and it think there's a lot of truth in that. Most people are far too hung up on their own stuff to pay too much attention to yours.

KoalaDownUnder Mon 07-Jul-14 07:23:05

Well, there are different levels of courage, to be fair - obviously walking into a war-zone takes a lot more than wearing a bikini, but that doesn't mean the fear of baring your body in public isn't real!

Most of us who are daunted by the idea of wearing a bikini know that we're being silly, but fear isn't any less real for being irrational.

Eastwickwitch Mon 07-Jul-14 07:28:27

I'm nearly 50 & still wear a bikini and I'm far from Kate Moss.
I do wear decent sized bottoms which are often hard to find. Why are they always so low cut?

Floisme Mon 07-Jul-14 07:49:29

Please wear whatever you like but personally, I can't be bothered with a bikini. It's nothing to do with my age or size - I switched to a one piece in my late 20s when I was barely a size 6. I was fed up with pulling and tugging and checking it was all still in place and found that, with a swimsuit, I could just put it on and then forget about it. I don't sunbathe anyway so that was never an issue. I still manage to have fun, thank you.

5madthings Mon 07-Jul-14 08:03:57

I wear a one piece for swimming at the pool as I do distance swimming and prefer my sports costume for that, but on the beach a bikini it will be and with a well fitting bikini there is no fiddling and adjusting. Plus my new bikini top or tankini top look great with a pair of shorts or denim skirt and can easily chuck a little shirt on if we head into town etc.

Bunbaker Mon 07-Jul-14 08:13:53

I agree with 5madthings. Bikinis these days don't need constant fiddling with.

MabelSideswipe Mon 07-Jul-14 08:19:06

I went on holiday to Ireland last year. I don't think I saw anyone on the beach in a bikini. It was nice weather too (some of the time).

CuthbertDibble Mon 07-Jul-14 08:25:22

Try New Look and M&Co for reasonably priced bikinis that aren't too skimpy, both have a fairly decent selection.

CelticPromise Mon 07-Jul-14 08:29:38

Brastop have discount bra sized bikinis. Mine is from Bravissimo.

Deathraystare Mon 07-Jul-14 08:41:59

Germans seem to be very at home with their bodies. Very confident. I remember on holiday in Egypt I was in the showers at a camp site, with other Brits and the Germans were entirely naked. We shuffled in with our towels!!!

I prefer Tankinis as I feel they are more practical than a swinsuit (for visiting the loo I mean!!). I prefer then to bikinis. However, if you like yourself in a bikini - go for it! The beaches are not just for the young and slim (except that one in Italy).

Bunbaker Mon 07-Jul-14 08:51:03

"The beaches are not just for the young and slim"

Exactly. They are for all to enjoy regardless of age and shape. We tend not to holiday in places where only the young and beautiful go anyway.

kaykayblue Mon 07-Jul-14 09:32:42

To the people asking why one piece swim suits are more practical than bikinis - I don't think anyone was trying to start an argument about one looking better than the other, but one piece's are undoubtedly more practical from a wearer's perspective! You don't have to worry about the bottom's sagging down (or even falling off in some cases!) when you come out of the sea and have an arse full of sand, if you jump/dive into a pool you don't have to worry about the top flying up/down and exposing your boobs (this has happened to me....three times, each time in a different bikini!), if you're swimming then there is much less drag on the swim suit from the water, so you don't need to keep pulling it up.

The only thing bikini's are actually better for is going to the loo and tanning!

I used to swim all year round when I was younger, so can speak from experience smile

I don't mind bikini's providing I can wear shorts with them. My figure is okay, but I have the WORST cellulite on the backs of my legs. Like, really bad. I'm 5 foot 9 and only just 9 stone (at my heaviest) so not even remotely overweight. Does the cellulite seem to care? No.

lainiekazan Mon 07-Jul-14 10:04:41

A bikini in Ireland?! How about spending your money on a parka instead?!

I would say that those bikinis with the big pants are worse than the small-bottomed ones. All the big pants ones do is draw attention to a less than svelt bottom and leg area. Especially those 50s-type sets - they look most unflattering on anyone who is larger than a stick insect. Like kaykayblue, I wear shorts with a bikini top, which is ok for being more active on beach etc.

It's all very well for people to profess that it's bad to have body hang-ups, but all the same one wants to feel confident. With a teenage son and a critical tweenage dd, I think the only beach attire that would pass muster is a wind break wrapped round me.

carrie74 Mon 07-Jul-14 11:02:35

Can only echo what most are saying, wear whatever you like, people are only worried about how they look, and won't give a moment's thought to how you look. I think bikinis on curvy women look great (I've got a boyish figure, and I wear bikinis as I like how they look, but long for some curves to fill them out a bit. A waist would be nice too).

mimiasovitch Mon 07-Jul-14 11:57:51

I say go for it. Most people are too worried about themselves to care about how a stranger looks anyway. Have you seen this? I especially liked the bit about a fat woman being unable to operate the complicated strappage of a bikini! I wholeheartedly recommend the Pour Moi azure bottoms, but if you have boobs don't get the halterneck top. It ties at the neck and back and provides no support at all. There is a balconette version with a clip back which is meant to be much better.

Bobbybaby Mon 07-Jul-14 13:04:08

I agree with the buy bigger bottoms thing - all the way.
I got a great pair of bottoms from Debenhams, the John Rocha range - sooooo flattering. I got the top from Kelly Brooks New look range, really good for us busty ladies! I am a size 32 E and its the only pretty one I could find!

ExitPursuedByAKoalaBear Mon 07-Jul-14 13:07:14

Are you completely mad?

You are planning on wearing a bikini? In Ireland?

Hah!

AnyFucker Mon 07-Jul-14 13:17:56

I wear the tie at the side bottoms, like this

You can tie them just right so they don't cut into fleshy hips like fixed bottoms often do.

Katiepoes Mon 07-Jul-14 13:29:45

So long as you put something on when you leave the beach wear what you want. I have unpleasant memories of red skinned swimwear clad people in the supermarket in Lahinch...yack.

I have a wobbly pot belly, rest of me is a 12...I have a lovely biking from Seafolly with a poper bra top and bottoms that cut across the fattest ppimt in a straight line, it's pretty flattering. If I am really swimming or diving I have a one piece from Prima Donna. Both were expensive but are years old now and still in great shape.

Well fair play op, but your going to freeze to death in Clare without a nice pullover, never mind a bikini!

I am fat - about 3 stone over a healthy weight, and I was sooo bloody hot last year in a one piece, so I have bought some really nice bikinis this year and I'm going to let it all hang out with all the Greek grannies!

murphys Mon 07-Jul-14 13:40:13

I really do think that generally British women do have a self-esteem issue when it comes to their bodies.

Bearleigh Mon 07-Jul-14 13:43:48

O.P. Size 16 isn't fat. Me thinks you're on here fishing for compliaments. Grow up please. Small wonder young girls turn anorexic when we have alledged adults with healthy womenly figures refering to themselves as fat. X

Come off it - there has been so much vanity sizing recently that size 16 is no longer a healthy womanly figure. It may not be obese but please don't kid yourself. I am sure to be flamed - there is far too much tiptoeing around the fact that people are getting fatter and fatter. And anorexia isn't caused by saying someone who's size 16 is fat - it's far more complex, and should not be used as an excuse.

I'm a size 18-20 and have been wearing a 1950's high waisted bikini (from asos curve) this summer in the privacy of my garden and might just put it on when we next spend a day at the beach.

KoalaDownUnder Mon 07-Jul-14 14:05:17

Bearleigh, agreed. I'm almost 6 foot tall, and I'd still most definitely be overweight at size 14, let alone 16!

micah Mon 07-Jul-14 14:16:42

For those asking why I don't find bikinis practical;

Jumping/diving in a swimming pool- less chance of boobs popping out/bottoms falling down

Same for going on slides. Swimming generally- if you're doing a couple of lengths front crawl your boobs will work their way out smile

Jumping up and down and chasing after children in general- again I struggle to find a properly supportive, comfortable bikini top.

I find underwiring very uncomfortable- don't even have underwired bra's.

I am very pale and burn easily, even with sunblock. The more I cover up the less suncream I have to bother about. Sunburned cleavage is not a good look!

I am/was a swimmer. I have worn bikini's in the past, just don't find them as comfortable as a costume (speedo/adidas athletic type).

I already have a few nice costumes I like and feel comfy in. I'm too tight to spend money on a bikini I'd wear on holiday once every couple of years...

Also, I think I look better in a one-piece smile.

MabelBee Mon 07-Jul-14 14:16:45

It's not about size. I saw one of the most beautiful women I have ever seen on holiday in Cape Verde. She was in a string bikini and must have been at least a size 20, possibly bigger. Proper voluptuous and very glam... I did a double take. She was a real Marilyn Monroe. I often think about her and wonder what it is that she posessed that I don't, but it must just be confidence and style.

Stressing Mon 07-Jul-14 14:26:49

It's far worse, apparently, to have hairy armpits - or any body hair. One facebook friend posted a pic of a poor woman minding her own business on the beach saying 'there are some things you should not have to see on the beach'. I defriended that person immediately but he had hundreds of supporters men and women saying how disgusting she was. It's terrible - over a bit of hair. Some thought he was getting at her size as she was a bit older and about a size 16 - they were all telling him off when they thought he was attacking her for being fat, but as soon as he said 'look at the hamsters' everyone were like 'oh yeah, how disgusting'. Suddenly they were all agreeing with him. So you'll be fine so long as you shave, by the seems of it.

ugh, size,shape, body hair whatever, wear what you like. It shouldn't be of any concern to anyone else what someone else is wearing. It has no impact on anyone else so I don't understand what makes others think they have any right to judge or make fun of someone because of what they choose to wear. There's fair more important things to worry about in life than if someone who happens to be a bit wobbly has decided to wear a bikini!

micah Mon 07-Jul-14 14:37:19

Stressing- I saw a group of 10-12 yo's at a park following a wee 4/5 yo around saying she was "nasty" for being hairy. Kid was asian heritage and had that fine dark hair on her arms and back.

They were discussing how their mums take them to wax or they shave….

Stressing Mon 07-Jul-14 14:51:38

micah - that is dreadful. People seem more sensitive to people's feelings when they are overweight than they have been in the past. It is deemed as unacceptable to talk about weight. But body hair has gone to the extreme. This is one attitude I'd love to see rebuked as it's bordering obsessive. I don't see why hair-free skin is deemed so attractive or necessary. I think body-hairless people are a bit creepy.

BecauseIsaidS0 Mon 07-Jul-14 15:12:28

This.

dexter73 Mon 07-Jul-14 15:14:01

Ha ha great article mimiasovitch!!

Bunbaker Mon 07-Jul-14 15:47:49

Micah all your reasons for finding bikinis impractical don't apply to me. my boobs never pop out, I don't jump or dive into swimming pools, I don't go to waterparks where there are slides and I don't have small children to run after. I do wear a one piece when I do aqua aerobics though because I do a lot of jumping around.

Rainydayblues Mon 07-Jul-14 15:55:33

I'd be buying a woolly bikini if I was going to Clare - it's bloody freezing there, buy a bikini wear it - people will be tempted to throw blanket over your blue flesh but at least you'll feel like you've been liberated from the wretched swimsuit.

middlethird Mon 07-Jul-14 16:05:30

I saw something on FB the other week... the end was:

How To Get That Bikini Body: put a bikini on your body.

I loved it a lot. I'm partial to a tankini personally, same same but different. Allows for whipping the top bit up and down my incredibly baby scared middle!

Have fun OP! OOOOH nice one because that was exactly the very thing!!!

alemci Mon 07-Jul-14 16:11:23

i am going to be wearing a bikini some of the time. I have aimed to buy them with high pants or shorts and I have tankini tops. I may wear a sarong etc and use my judgement.

I am reasonably slim but I've got baby tummy and middle age spread these days.

i have found a slimming belt thing (a relative gave me as they didn't use it) so I may try that out.

Yes people shouldn't be horrible about personal appearance . Live and let live for goodness sake

JuneFromBethesda Mon 07-Jul-14 17:27:52

Really timely thread for me. I'm going on a fabulous far-flung beach holiday at the end of the month, I've been looking forward to it for months and I promised myself that I would wear a bikini. Of course I also promised myself I would lose a stone before I went - which I haven't done, ho ho.

I'm 5'8", size 14, big boobs, very good legs and a flabby middle. My sister, who is also going, is a similar size to me, possibly a bit bigger and more of a pear shape to my apple. So bigger hips but a smaller waist. She is going to be wearing bikinis and has encouraged me to do the same.

I did lots of research online and found various bikinis I liked the look of. And then I looked in the mirror and thought, who am I kidding? I just don't feel comfortable with my belly hanging out. I wish I did. It's not about what other people think, I honestly don't think I'd feel comfortable in a bikini even if I was the only person on the beach.

I did buy a fab, very flattering (and midriff-slimming) one-piece from M&S which I am looking forward to wearing. But I really would love to be able to fling my inhibitions to the wind and embrace bikini-wearing. I'm still debating the issue in my head!

dexter73 Mon 07-Jul-14 17:35:49

JuneFromBethesda - order a bikini and take it with you but keep the labels on, so if you decide once you get there to wear it you can and if you don't you can return it when you get home. I bet you will wear it once you see all the other bellies and wobbly bits on display!

kaykayblue Mon 07-Jul-14 17:58:16

JunefromBethesda - I think it's all well and good to not give a fuck and whack on a bikini, but I think the attitude has to be genuine, otherwise I guarantee that you will spend the whole time feeling hyper self conscious and paranoid that everyone is staring at whatever bit of you that you hate the most!

I just wanted to point out that going to gung ho attitude isn't worth it if you are going to spend the whole time feeling stressed out about it!

This is personally why I love snorkelling so mcuh!!. It's accepted - nay - encouraged to wear a t shirt and shorts over your bikini so you don't burn as much in the water.

It's basically my idea of heaven.

LynetteScavo Mon 07-Jul-14 18:10:09

Feel free to go all German with the bikini, but please remember you are British and we shave our arm pits. -- apart from my DSis--
Thank you.

ArcheryAnnie Mon 07-Jul-14 18:19:07

Feel free to go all German with the bikini, OP - you sound absolutely brilliant. Also feel free to keep or remove as much or as little body hair as you bloody well feel like.

gymboywalton Mon 07-Jul-14 18:24:25

I am nearly six foot and a size 20/22 and I wear a bikini on holiday abroad. So much more comfortable and I don't give a fuck quite frankly. My stomach is mess of wobble, stretch marks and surgery scars but so what?

I wear big pantsa nd an underwired top.

Bearleigh Mon 07-Jul-14 18:24:52

What is it about bikinis? I wore one in my early twenties, which slipped and exposed a boob -all I'd done was dive in (badly), so I haven't worn one since. I find them faintly creepy in a way - exposing all flesh except the naughty bits.

Men aren't concerned about exposing their stomachs on a beach so I don't see why women should be either, but I find full swim suits more flattering on almost all women, me included.

dannychampionoftheworld Mon 07-Jul-14 18:31:24

As others have said, wear whatever catches your fancy. But, honestly, is it safe to wear a bikini in Clare? Will you not freeze?

Whenever I see the media taking the piss out of a woman for something she's wearing, I always think of that Miranda Hart sketch:

Miranda: Hello - do you like that outfit you're wearing?
Woman: Yes.
Miranda: Are you comfortable in it?
Woman: Yes.
Miranda: Do you care that others may not like it?
Woman: Not really, no.
Miranda: Great, wear that then.

lifehasafunnywayofhelpinguout Mon 07-Jul-14 18:43:33

Bear. Iam size 24. I feel sexy healthy and attractive. I have a satisfying love life. Big women are entitled to be happy with their size not just skinny women x

Bearleigh Mon 07-Jul-14 22:16:44

Life I am glad you feel sexy healthy and attractive. Long may it continue. I don't think you are not entitled to be happy with your size, and I am pleased for you that you are. But it cannot be denied that what is average size has increased over the past few years, and as a result people have a skewed view of what is normal (safe) size. You are at a dangerous size, and saying you are 'big' disguises it.

My sister is size 20, aged 56 and was very ill recently. They were really concerned about operating because of the increased risks posed by her weight. She nearly died as a result. I am 55 and can, and do, run upstairs: she can only walk really slowly even on the flat, and has a variety of health conditions due to her weight. I really hope that doesn't happen to you but the chances are high that it will if you stay the size that you are.my sister & I used to be same weight and had the same level of activity, when we were young. As soon as she left home and could eat what she wanted she put on weight and it's got worse over the years. Her weight is the elephant in the room: never mentioned but everyone knows it is an issue.

ArcheryAnnie Tue 08-Jul-14 00:39:06

Bear, this is known as "concern trolling". I'm big too, and I can promise you that people being earnestly concerned about my weight, for my own good, and telling me so, has never helped me lose a pound. Ever. If it did, we'd all be thin as rakes. I know you clearly mean well, and are concerned for your sister, but it honestly doesn't help.

(Me, I wish I felt good enough for a bikini, and I salute those of my fellow Women Of Size who wear them. You are doing it for all of us! Go and be fabulous!)

LEMmingaround Tue 08-Jul-14 07:24:56

Bear -could you be any more patronising???

I am a size 20. Could probably beat you up the stairs, walk and cycle miles. I can't run but then I couldn't when I was a size ten.

I don't fool myself that my weight is optimal healthwise and am on a healthy eating kick. Your post highlights that what is fit for one person is not for another. I am very fit. Not very fit for my size. I am very fit. My dp seems to think im pretty sexy too

Changebagsandgladrags Thu 24-Jul-14 20:26:39

I did it.

I wore my bikini on Kilkee (Clare) beach today. It was great. I felt so....uninhibited. I enjoyed myself splashing in the waves with the kids instead of worrying about my belly in a swimsuit.

I looked at myself when I got home, all wobbly flesh and stretch marks. But hey, I didn't have to look at myself on the beach. Besides, I think people would have been blinded by my white flesh legs and not been able to focus on my size.

There were fatter women, there were thinner women. It was no big deal. DH did give me a funny look.

ExitPursuedByAKoalaBear Thu 24-Jul-14 20:29:19

Good for you.

I wore my bikini on holiday - size 20 bottoms and 36G top. Dont care what anyone thinks. I do exercise classes and am relatively fit so just because you are fat doesnt mean you cant be fit too

WillPenn Thu 24-Jul-14 20:47:18

I wore a bikini in Germany last week - I am a size 16 and was far from the largest lady in a bikini by the pool.

I should also say that I eat a healthy diet and go to the gym three times a week. I am 5' 6" and the weight is evenly distributed - this is my normal size. Also, the thinnest lady by the pool was eating a McDonalds takeaway. People just come in all shapes and sizes. Some people are fat and unhealthy, some are thin and unhealthy. Some are also fat and healthy - it is possible.

OP - I'm really pleased you went ahead and just did it. I also saw women in Italy of all shapes and sizes in bikinis and this is what prompted me to cast off the one piece!

noddyholder Thu 24-Jul-14 21:01:38

I am 9 stone 4 with dodgy heart and kidneys have had cancer and 2 transplants and you would all best name up any stairs but I look ok in a bikini. I know which id prefer. Wear the bloody thing life is too short

noddyholder Thu 24-Jul-14 21:03:25

Beat me

WhatsTheEffingPoint Fri 25-Jul-14 10:12:14

I am 5'2, 13st, size 16, i do exercise classes twice a week and long dog walks, cycling etc. I couldnt go for a run or run up the stairs without my leg and ankle hurting and puffing and panting or going bright red

So why does my leg hurt and i end up looking like a lobster ? Anyone? Wellllll its not be cause my leg is carring my lard arse about, its because i had a nasty accident and had to have lots of corrective surgery on my knee a few years back, and the puffing that will be down to me having asthma that i was diagnosed with when i was one.

I wear a Bravissimo bikini as i've found they are the best at controlling my big boobs (again not grown due to weight, always had them, 34G at 16 and a size 10). Not one person has ever said to me that i shouldnt be in a bikini due to my size, people are not that rude to people faces. They no doubt bitch and judge behind my back and online like this.

So OP all i can say is FAIR PLAYED TO YOU for doing what YOU wanted to do.

DoristheCamel Fri 25-Jul-14 10:24:38

I am a size 16 (sadly edging closer to an 18 on my bottoms at the mo) and I wore a bikini every single day of my holiday last week because like you I looked around and realised that lots of other women were of similar or larger size with different slightly imperfect saggy bits here and there and I thought sod it.

I am on a tight budget but was very impressed with TU at Sainsburys range of bikinis. They seem to be cut just a little bit better for the slightly more rounded female form compared to Tesco, Asda etc. Dont even look at Primarni bikinis - my size 6 13yo has just bought a size 10 in there!!!

I find the Sainsburys bikinis are just a little more generous with the fabric - so I am not in middle aged boring frump stylee but alos not in nubile gymnast cut. The bottoms cover my 3x Csection overhang nicely and when new the Bandeau tops are actually very supportive (the support does die after a few machine washes) but at £14 for a full bikini I am happy. They do come with a strap which I use for wandering about but easy and quick to remove to avoid tan marks.

Another place I like is Peacocks. They do nice pretty stuff cut a little better (but non frump). They do an ace underwirded top in a few different fabrics that can tie around the neck and also around the back like a bandeau. I have had so many compliments.

I strongly suggest when bikini shopping that you take in 2 sizes of every top and bottoms (I am a 14/16 on top and take in 14 and 16 tops to try and a 16 on the bottom - I take in 16 and 18 bottoms) This gives you a chance to see what looks best and sits best on her hips/cover tum - avoids muffin top etc. Same with the boobage - no over spill/best support etc. Also take in styles you think OMG no way - you may be surprised. I was taking in wiast high bottoms thinking it best for my jelly belly but actually shocked myself when trying on something that came a little lower and realising it looked better.

You need to go and play bikinis in the shops!!! enjoy!

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