What's your style & beauty "duh!" moment?

(62 Posts)
Poughle Mon 21-Apr-14 09:24:59

Everywhere I have lived, I've always been cold in the winter. I hate being cold!

It's finally clicked that LAYERS keep you warm. It's only taken me 3 and a half decades to figure this out. I am cold because I wear thin summer clothing with a jacket on top... Not going to cut it!!

I spent ages on pinterest and polyvore looking at how to layer, for some reason I just couldn't grasp it properly until I'd seen loads of examples. But I am proud to announce that I NOW GET IT and all the lovely basic long sleeve tshirts and loose fitting tops I ordered online arrived this afternoon! Several jumpers are on the way too!

This winter I will be warm for the fist time ever. And I will look good as well!!

Legologgo Mon 21-Apr-14 09:27:50

i think there is a BIG moment when you realise other people dont look at the size labels in your clothes.
So if a 14 looks better then buy a bloody 14!

saadia Mon 21-Apr-14 09:33:49

Mine was realising that when it comes to make-up, less looks better. In my twenties I used to wear foundation, powder, eye shadow, liner and mascara and lip pencil and lipstick. I must have looked so overdone. Now, in my forties it's just foundation mascara and lip gloss. Too much make- up does not suit anyone.

NinetyNinePercentTroll Mon 21-Apr-14 09:35:54

"Too much" doesn't, you're right, but some people look great with a full face (admittedly not me).

saadia Mon 21-Apr-14 09:42:20

That's true, I think 'too much' is when you notice the make-up before the face.

Poughle Mon 21-Apr-14 11:09:27

o true Lego! And clothes that fit well look a million dollars I think no matter the size of the person.

Floisme Mon 21-Apr-14 11:34:12

Mine was when I saw myself in a photo and realised I look like crap in black.

Understanding my body shape and realising that some retailers won't ever cut clothes that fit me so not bothering with them.

Finding tights I can wear after a mn recommendation (Falke cotton touch). Completely changed my winter wardrobe.

twoboots Mon 21-Apr-14 11:50:44

Spending slightly more time.......less of a half arsed job

Works for everything:
more than 2 minutes shaving means you won't cultivate knee pit or toe gardens
More than 3 minutes: applying make up means it may look half way decent and last
2 minutes Taking make up off helps my skin not look terrible
2 minutes of pelvic floor exercises 3 times a day saves money on tena pads.....always feel more stylish and beautiful without those!
30 seconds of Washing my skanky feet after work means my OH is more likely to give them a rub

Legologgo Mon 21-Apr-14 12:29:49

..that I will never suit full skirts

Yep a line/full/maxis look terrible on me.
Pencils/minis look much better depending on how much cake I've eaten.

BrianButterfield Mon 21-Apr-14 12:50:38

That you have to DO your hair for it to be done. You can't just dry it and brush it and hope for tge best (well, you can of course, but it'll look exactly like that's what you did).

Mumelie Mon 21-Apr-14 13:04:58

That my natural hair colour actually suits me a million times better than bleach blonde! I now enhance my medium Brown

FamiliesShareGerms Mon 21-Apr-14 13:20:02

Polo necks make my face look fat (I thought I was rocking the Sharon Stone at the Oscars in a Gap top...)

Ruprekt Mon 21-Apr-14 13:31:16

1. Accessories are everything....a scarf can make the outfit.

2. Round neck tshirts are a no no as are capped sleeves esp for those with big norks.

3. Mascara is important.

4. Comfy shoes are a must.

5. Shellac nails help them to grow.

ImATotJeSuisUneTot Mon 21-Apr-14 13:50:18

That I actually look good in colour - bright cobalt blue, and pastelly pinks - NOT JUST BLACK!

Cocolepew Mon 21-Apr-14 13:55:35

I wear a lot of grey, I thought black was too draining . After seeing photos I realise grey makes me look like I've just been dug up. Also I thought I suited blonde hair until I saw photos, going back to brown tomorrow.

helzapoppin2 Mon 21-Apr-14 15:39:11

I don't need to keep everything for best!

HappyAsEyeAm Mon 21-Apr-14 15:57:52

That the time will come for everyone when they realise that they will prioritise comfort over glamour. This moment came for me, in relation to shoes, in my early 20s. My feet have never been uncomfortable since.

I look so much better in proper pigmented lipsticks than I ever did in a sweep of lipgloss.

Detail around the neckline suits me whether that is a collar or a scarf or whatever.

I am best off buying complete outfits, or knowing that I already have a complete outfit to go with a separate I am thinking of buying. Otherwise i end up with lots of clothes but nothing to wear!

Best1sWest Mon 21-Apr-14 16:02:55

That blonde doesn't actually suit that many people, especially me, after 20 years of bright blonde highlights. I've now gone much darker with just a few highlights and it looks miles better.

moonshine Mon 21-Apr-14 16:17:22

That I don't want to wear any sort of control underwear anymore (apart from control tights which I find strangely comfy) - I'm just going to to buy things that fit, or not worry that everything isn't smooth and flat.

singaporeswing Mon 21-Apr-14 16:21:13

That I should always wear bright lipsticks. Bright pink, berry and red have become my signature look.

That I should have a fringe. Although doesn't work currently in the tropics.

That I should always fill my eyebrows in - Bobbi Brown eyeshadow in Grey is perfect for my dark, dark eyebrows.

That concealer is amazing, God-like product and means that I don't need to slather on the foundation.

That I need to moisturiser - Grandma taught me that one at 11 and she had fabulous skin.

That I'm pretty lucky to find out what suits me and learning to be comfortable in my skin in my mid 20s.

helzapoppin2 Mon 21-Apr-14 16:30:41

singaporeswing I agree on eyebrows. They make a huge difference to my face, which needs make up or it doesn't exist. Every day is like drawing on my features!

Nocomet Mon 21-Apr-14 16:31:38

I still can't break the keeping things for best habit.

I'm a SAHM as is the really stylish School gate Mum. Why do I feel daft doing the school run in a nice coat and she doesn't. (No she isn't especially well off)

CookieMonsterIsHot Mon 21-Apr-14 16:33:45

That most high street clothing is not suitable for me. It is either the wrong color or the wrong shape or I don't like it. I must trawl for hours to find one good item.

This is normal. My shopping improved when I accepted it.

Glossy mags convinced me that my supposedly "ideal" body shape should be easy to dress (taller than average, hour glass, flat belly, big norks, long legs, size 10-12). Yes, I I'd look good in everything. Bollocks. I'd go shopping and come home crying because so much made me look like a sack of potatoes or that troll princess from Shrek.

CookieMonsterIsHot Mon 21-Apr-14 16:36:09

Good skin comes from within.

Sod the creams: drink water, sleep, eat right, exercise.

A horrible horrible truth hmm. I love bacon sarnies and late night wine drinking.

squoosh Mon 21-Apr-14 17:23:16

- tanned skin isn't the be all and end all. Better to enhance pale skin than to spend hours painting it orange

- polo necks do not flatter big boobs

- venture beyond black. red looks amazing on me.

- better to use cheap skin care products consistently than to use expensive products every so often

- a vegetable heavy diet is better than any face cream

- high heels, no matter how gorgeous, look crap if you're hobbling and moaning with the pain

- facial oil is amazing stuff. don't be scared of oil

- it doesn't matter if you don't have a natural eye for what goes with what, lots of people on pinterest do

- the pale of skin and pale of lip look much better with some lipstick on

MarshaBrady Mon 21-Apr-14 17:26:38

No layers in my hair, I'm going to mess it up anyway.

Buy stuff for the places I go to - top rule.

Check fabric before pressing buy.

Don't do the things I can't do - burgundy / wine looks gorgeous but not for a blonde.

Which face oils do you like, Squoosh? I want to up-grade from my Superdrug one but not spend a fortune.

My 'duh' moments -

It IS possible to wear lipstick without looking too made up

My hair looks better short

lavenderhoney Mon 21-Apr-14 17:42:35

Hands and feet always done, even if not painted nails.

Hair always nice and never look scruffy with horrible clothes! Throw them out! Its allowed to look ok to do anything.. Apart from painting.

That way, I always feel ready for anything. A dash of lipgloss and I can go anywheresmile

ginorwine Mon 21-Apr-14 18:06:30

Fab bra !

TheEmpress Mon 21-Apr-14 18:44:20

That the difference between people whose clothes look great and good quality compared to those whose clothes look cheap is probably down to ironing...

Doesn't make me want to iron, though...

balenciaga Mon 21-Apr-14 18:58:52

That my skin and hair has never looked better since using raw coconut oil

I cleanse with it, I moisturise (face AND body) with it, I put it in my baths, I use it as a hair treatment, I also eat it (a teaspoon a day)

I'm 34 and I just wish i'd discovered it earlier, esp as I've just had dc3 and did not get one stretchmark which I'm convinced is cos of the oil as I got loads with the other dcs.

QueenCadbury Mon 21-Apr-14 20:35:45

That I look better with bright pink lips rather than a natural coloured lipstick.

Buy clothes for the lifestyle I have.

Hopefully Mon 21-Apr-14 21:14:11

That anything too 'pretty' (full skirts, cleavage, floral prints, sparkle) looks shit on me - I am far better in 'edgy' (crap word, but ykwim) clothes like leather leggings, asymmetric dresses etc.

That there are many many colours that make me look slimmer, healthier, younger and more attractive, and black is very definitely not one of them.

Oh, and that thermals are your friend if you want to wear stylish clothes in winter.

TheJumped Mon 21-Apr-14 21:58:14

That buying repeated variations of the same thing is a good idea - not copying stylish people who have a totally different style to me. Takes discipline though.

Remus - Nuxe face oil is lovely and I think reduced at M and S atm.

Sicaq Mon 21-Apr-14 22:48:15

That long hair made me look older, not younger!

That fabric matters hugely. The polyamide jumper will stay in the drawer while the cashmere one gets worn and worn. The polyester scarf will always look not-quite-right compared to the silk one, and it's worth paying more for good tights.

Dilligufdarling Mon 21-Apr-14 23:01:00

Wear skin coloured underwear under white so it doesn't show up - not white!

Legologgo Tue 22-Apr-14 07:01:25

God yes. Why did we ever do white?

JingletsJangletsYellowBanglets Tue 22-Apr-14 07:14:12

1/ tailoring makes all the difference. Factor in hemming as part of the "can I afford it" question when buying trousers. If I ever see a 80-90% off ridiculous bargain in a large size, mentally try to calculate how much it would cost to tailor it. I own a beautiful linen coat that was once an xxl and a tenner, originally over 200 quid!)

2/ when buying shoes, factor in cost of putting on rubber soles. Makes the shoes last years and stops you buying "bargains" that aren't.

3/ observing women in high heels on the street- when you can't walk in them properly, it's not sexy/empowering/attractive. No matter how great the shoe might look.

PollyWhittaker Tue 22-Apr-14 07:27:02

That I am an inherently messy looking person with messy wavy hair and that since I accepted this and stopped trying to look well-groomed and sophisticated I have started getting lots of compliments.

Fedupnagging Tue 22-Apr-14 08:17:25

As Brian said up thread you actually have to 'do' your hair to make it look 'done'. Ghd's are my friend.

Also, just because it's fashionable, doesn't mean it looks good. I learnt that one years ago thank goodness!

Nocomet Tue 22-Apr-14 16:25:54

Lego we did white because tops were made of decent. White t-shirts weren't today's transparent tat.

Also nude underwear only works if it's seamless and a decent colour. In times gone by it was lumpy and a funny shade of peach.

squoosh Tue 22-Apr-14 16:33:46

Remus my favourite facial oil is Clarin's Blue Orchid Oil, not the cheapest but lasts for ages. Next I want to try is Kiehls Midnight Recovery Concentrate, even more expensive though.

At the cheaper end I quite liked the Boots Botanic's one and I've heard that the N-spa available in Asda is great for the price.

Thanks for the face oil recs. I can't justify Clarins right now, so will save that for my Christmas list and look at some of the cheaper ones.

Skinny jeans make my legs look like parsnips

A little bit of make up is pretty much essential if you want to feel good

Nobody else cares if you have a bit of a sticky out tummy or slightly wobbly arms - they really don't, they're too busy obsessing about their own 'faults'.

Legologgo Tue 22-Apr-14 18:38:03

I like face oil too. Have the ? Loreal one. Extraordinary or something

Best1sWest Tue 22-Apr-14 18:43:47

Another who has had the short hair looks better on me realisation.

Legologgo Tue 22-Apr-14 19:02:39

Me: hair never shorter than shoulders. Plus a fringe = murderer

Don't EVER buy anything with acrylic in it, even if I adore the style, it will look hideous after 2 wears.

Tailored clothes suit me better.

Lip gloss makes me look ill.

I'm not edgy and never will be.

Black near my face makes me look haggard.

Don't waste money on cheaper concealers....just invest in Touch Éclat.

Uniqlo hi tech vests are the best garment ever invented....mine go on in October and come off in May feel the cold too OP

Legologgo Tue 22-Apr-14 20:04:53

I can't do kooky chic. Or boyish. Or androgynous. Or gamine

ApocalypseNowt Tue 22-Apr-14 20:12:14

Someone on mn posted that things like long cardies, etc only cover up your bum or your tum to you ie you think they're hidden. What they actually do is add a thick layer of material to a part of your body that is already thick enough!

I caught sight of myself in my fave cardie and i just looked so big! Took it off braving a wobbly tum and bingo wings and i looked so much smaller in just my top. Wonderous advice!

I probably haven't explained that very well but i hope you understand!

Lipstick! Can't believe I never bothered until this year.

I worry about the blonde hair thing. I've dyed my hair blonde for 10 years from my natural mousey colour. I think it's better blonde but read all the time that people suddenly realise it's better dark.

Wearing the things I want to wear, even if they're not sedate and chic (which they never are)

Fedupnagging Tue 22-Apr-14 20:29:55

I get what you are saying Apocalypse. I was also told to not have a top that finishes at your widest point - wear iteither just above or below hips/ bum. It's minefield this style lark!

Legologgo Tue 22-Apr-14 20:54:06

Think hair that's radically different from your natural colour normally drains you. Women who think they're blonde still. LOOK!

MollyBdenum Tue 22-Apr-14 20:57:02

My blonde is probably ok as I go from dull mousy with grey to dark blonde. Anything darker than light brown makes me look like a vampire.

BikeRunSki Tue 22-Apr-14 21:14:46

Sorting washing really helps. I used to ing everything in together and put it on a mixed wash. Now I do:
- Whites (pretty much all cotton)
- heavy darks (jeans, dark towels)
- DH's work stuff (building sites)
- sports stuff (swimming kit, running kit, cycling kit) and other synthetics
- other stuff (t shirts, socks, pants etc)

Wool jumpers and bras are washed by hand

Poughle Tue 22-Apr-14 22:09:05

Forgot to come back to this thread blush Have been on very strong painkillers that's my excuse!!

Great ideas here, am going to steal some. Lipstick you say. Hmmmm

that I don't do classic dressing. Quirky things just work for me, much to my sister's distress grin we are very different dressers.

Lipstick looks great on me when I wear the right colours

Coral, despite me loving it, does not work for me and never has. Same with browns

cjbk1 Wed 23-Apr-14 12:42:55

different to some posters; my 'natural' hair is a frizzy mess and doesn't look like all those lovely 'natural hair' pictures on Pinterest but fighting with it to smooth (notice not straighten) it just makes me feel useless so extenso plus no styling leaves it smooth, slightly wavy and healthy looking & makes me feel a lot better FWIW wink

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