Any oldies gone from long to short hair and not regretted it?

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IslaValargeone Wed 26-Mar-14 18:56:08

I'm in my 40's and have long straight hair with fringe.
I'm loathe to have it cut as I feel I'd be saying goodbye to my youth, fertility and sex goddessness.
That being said, my style is really doing me no favours as it's dragging down my increasingly sagging fizzog.
I feel I should liberate myself and go very short, I can't shake the urge, but after having long hair forever, I'm a scaredy cat.
Convince me, mature beauties.

Perplexing Wed 26-Mar-14 19:06:09

Yup I count as an oldie by that yardstick. Am 42. Went from below shoulder length (sometimes well below) to just above, sometimes a bit higher and never looked back. I have very thick wavy hair and was scared of layering after several rats tails disasters in the 1990s, but I am so so happy with just above shoulder length layered flicky out style.

I feel the time and age is right for me to have shorter hair, besides, just above shoulder length still counts as a bit long, and can still be tied back if you want- thereby leaving all options open. If you have wavy hair, I urge you to embrace the layers, try it. I wish I had years ago. I look so much better, and all the people who said it will grow back if you don't like it, they were right :-). Try it, you'll never know what you might be missing otherwise.

I am 40 and got my long, below the shoulders, hair cut to a shortish layered bob style. I am now considering going even shorter.

before and after pictures

IslaValargeone Wed 26-Mar-14 19:21:41

Ok, get a pixie cut tomorrow and let me know how it goes grin
You have lovely skin, with no wrinkles envy I have to have a fringe to hide my forehead lines and chronic 11 lines.
You look really nice, the shorter style certainly suits you.

I think it's fine to cut your hair shorter so long as you do to go for a mammy cut.
This might be an Irish thing but basically all women aged 50+ have identical hair: short, set with rollers under a hood by the hairdressers on a Saturday and sprayed within an inch of its life.

It is soooo ageing. I love a sleek bob, pixie cut, or a layered cut just above the shoulders. Fringes also work wonders for hiding rogue forehead wrinkles and softening the face on general.

I'm 46 I went from mid back length last October, to chin length bob, to choppy bob and tomorrow I'm going even shorter... I'm aiming pixie with eventual hope of Pink grin Ok not QUITE Pink's colour but the really cropped but long on top look.

Hair always grows again! I kept mine long because I thought dh liked it... but turns out he thinks shorter hair is really sexy!!

I'm busy looking at styles on Pinterest ready for tomorrow!

is this what you are aiming for?

IslaValargeone Wed 26-Mar-14 19:32:32

Medusa you must do pixie tomorrow and report back.

go for this one and post a pic afterwards grin

MrsDavidBowie Wed 26-Mar-14 19:34:47

I am 54 and have just had 3 inches off my hair into a very short bob...sort of Mary Portas with side parting. I am also 6 feet tall. My hair was jaw length, dead straight and just dragged my face down.....feel much more contemporary.

MistyB Wed 26-Mar-14 20:21:20

I hacked mine off myself then tidied it up with feathering scissors and it looks great. I did go to the hairdressers a few weeks later to have it more layered at the back as it is hard to do the back myself. I used to think I pulled off the sexy long hair look once in a while but mostly looked bedraggled. Now, I look more groomed with less effort. I have also stopped dying my hair.

Orangeanddemons Wed 26-Mar-14 20:26:35

I'm 50. I do not have hair as described above. What on earth do you think we look like?

I'm sat here in a shocking pink Whistles jumper, boyfriend jeans, and thick straight below shoulder length hair! I have never used bloody curlers or a shampoo and set in my life!

Best1sWest Wed 26-Mar-14 20:49:20

I have similar to this here though differ colour.

LOL you lot are mean ..looking at YOU Ilovepowerhoop!

Actually I am planning on going there in stages. I currently have a bob.. tomorrow I am thinking of going to this pic, and then next cut..Pink! The only reason for going in stages is a) my DS1 will have this face shock because he adores long hair (he's 21 and his g'friend has amazing hair and he just looked sad when I cut mine) and b) I can't face the 'ooooh you've had it cut' (well DOH!) at work.. so the drastic cut can be done in the summer holidays when I'm off work for the school hols!

To be fair the kids in my class would probably love Miley's hair grin

LoveVintage Wed 26-Mar-14 21:50:25

Love that Medusa
I am 50, have quite short hair, sliced in long layers, shorter on top, quite messy and funky, and very red. Before that had a bob of varying lengths. I didn't get it cut because of my age, just fancied a change, but everyone said it took years off me when got it cut short, and it feels much sharper and funkier. Also it is amazing what different things you can do with short hair.

JohnCusacksWife Wed 26-Mar-14 22:21:07

I'm 43 and have recently grown my hair from a chin length bob to shoulder length with a full fringe. For me the longer hair/heavy fringe combo is much more youthful looking and I can't see me cutting it again soon.
I do love a really short crop or short bob but it just doesn't look as good on me as it used to. I feel it makes me look very middle aged (which of course I am!)

Blueuggboots Wed 26-Mar-14 22:29:55

I'm 38 and had REALLY short hair for years....have grown it into a bob just above my shoulders but can't shake the thoughts that I look like a bell and would love it short again!!
Am planning a trip to the hairdressers to discuss potential hair styles.

Blueuggboots Wed 26-Mar-14 22:30:52

And I agree - I don't know ANY 50 year olds who have a shampoo and set every week - my grandma used to do that and had she still be alive would have been 96!!!

HauntedNoddyCar Wed 26-Mar-14 22:37:24

I had mine chopped a couple of years ago. Was shoulder blade length and went to a short bob. Haven't regretted it at all.

You all need to go to Ireland. The weekly shampoo and set is an Irish mammy phenomenon

Freewheelin Thu 27-Mar-14 07:38:23

I'm 50 and just growing out my crop. As the lines increased a crop seemed too harsh. Maybe just my face though.
Be warned, yes hair grows but those months before you can do anything with it are a nightmare!
I've got a very short bob with full fringe and I love it. Got lots of compliments.

ChablisChic Thu 27-Mar-14 08:23:36

I had my hair cut really short when I was about 54 and received positive comments from everyone. My hairs quite unruly, and this makes life so easy, a quick rough dry and then a bit of matte putty stuff to give it a bit of movement.

Then ... I moved to Ireland. I have to support what tak1ngchances says - it has taken me two years to, finally, find a hairdresser who will cut my hair the way I want it. I went to one trendy-looking place where the hairdresser refused to cut any more off the top because 'then it'll be really short' - um, yes, that's the way I like it. I wouldn't mind, but he then cut the sides really short and I ended up looking like a 1950's schoolboy.

If lovely Darren, who I now trust with my hair, leaves I'm going to have to go back to England every 6 weeks!

2BFree Thu 27-Mar-14 08:26:15

I had very long hennaed hair and cut it to a bob to get rid of some dye which was awful and ageing . Now I have it cropped one side and swept over to cheekbones the other. Looks fab. Do it!

cressetmama Thu 27-Mar-14 08:36:50

My mum is 79 and she has not had a shampoo and set, or a perm, or anything except the best damn haircut she can find since the 1970s!! It's only some old people (like my MIL) who think a shampoo and set is desirable, and even that's more about the outing and the opportunity to chat with the hairdresser than the do.

polyhymnia Thu 27-Mar-14 09:57:49

Yes must agree that, in England anyway, blow drying replaced shampoo and set in the 70s.
Only women I ever see now with set are most certainly not 50 ish but high 80s and 90s - and I'm sure there are plenty in that age group who just have good cuts and blow dries.

Millyblods Thu 27-Mar-14 10:24:32

I'm definitely no "oldie" and I am in my 50s. I'm growing my hair and it has gone from a pixie to a flicky layered bob. I look young for ny age. So do whatever you need to do to stop feeling like an "oldie"., You are still a woman in the prime of her life. grin

tigerdriverII Thu 27-Mar-14 10:43:30

Really interested to see this thread. I'm 52 and have wavy shoulder length layered hair, long layers at the front which I have to blow dry carefully otherwise I look like Crystal Tips (for those old enough to remember her).

I do think that women's hair is generally quite boring at the moment, it seems to be uniform long but not styled, sassy bobs (nice on others a total disaster on me), or mum hair - not the mammy look so much as that short unisex cut that looks as bad on men as women.

I'd sort of like to go for a shorter cut as my face seems heavy and dragged down (by age, rather than hair) but I don't want to go near mum hair or also look even older

Any thoughts?

Housemum Thu 27-Mar-14 12:10:52

What do you do if you are a) crap at styling hair and b) can't afford to go to hairdressers every 6 weeks? There are cheap places (Supercuts etc) but you have to have a 30 - 60 minute wait (and unlike the no-appointment kids' hairdressers you can't nip out for 20 mins and come back, if you set foot outside the door you count as starting again when you come back in!) and the quality of the stylists varies so much.

I'm 46 with shoulder length hair - I grew out a short cut because I couldn't afford the upkeep of the haircuts and the hair dye, so now it is coloured to hide the grey but only cut every 2-3 months. Thing is, when I was younger and first had my hair short, it used to look a bit Kirstie/Nigella-ish. All long and wavy. Now it's finer/dryer/frizzier sad Too scared to have it chopped though as I feel this is my last chance to have it this length.

2BFree Thu 27-Mar-14 14:37:12

OP - just looked at your photos - I think you need it just below your cheekbones, side parting, slight asymmetric look just like mine

Eliza22 Thu 27-Mar-14 14:43:36

Just posted on the "Clair Underwood" thread as thinking of having the chop again. This is me (short) but, had it like this for do keys years. Am now growing (for the last ever time) but am fed up with having to "do" more with it.

OP, what I will say is, that if your hair is poker straight, like mine, with a good cut, you won't need to do anything with it. When my hair was this short, I washed it, combed in a parting and left it to its own devises.

Am seriously tempted by the "Clair Underwood" (House of Cards) smile

Millyblods Thu 27-Mar-14 14:46:08

That's a beautiful cut Eliza. Really lovely. Suits you.

Eliza22 Thu 27-Mar-14 14:46:32

Bloody hell! That should have said DONKEYS YEARS!

I forgot to say, I like the bob on you. It's a good length and you have a firm looking jawline to carry it off!

GemmaTeller Thu 27-Mar-14 14:48:51

I'm 55 and this is my hair, I know I'm going to have to short at some stage but I keep putting it off.

GemmaTeller Thu 27-Mar-14 14:50:59

tigerdriver I look like Crystal Tips when its windy and raining grin

Eliza22 Thu 27-Mar-14 14:54:19

Thanks Milly. I'm like you. Went shorter than that pic, (proper pixie) this time last year then decided "I'm growing to grow it" as I'd had a lot of stress, aged overnight and needed something to hide behind. It's just touching my shoulders now so, should persevere as I'm early 50's and spent a decade with a crop. If I don't have it longer now, I probably never will. But...... It was soooo easy!

OP, I realise now, that the lady with the 2 pics is NOT you! Apologies! You could do it in stages....long bob, shorter bob, crop. That way, if you get to shorter bob and feel "older" with it, you can just grow again. Simples smile

flipchart Thu 27-Mar-14 14:57:42

I'm 49 and have gone the other way and grown mine. It's between my shoulder blades now and I love it.

I make sure it stays in great condition and is cut, coloured and styled in a way that suits my face, style and colouring. I feel and look loads better than when it was short.

Shosha1 Thu 27-Mar-14 14:59:21

I had a Annie Lennox crop for years and year shut 50 and decided to grow it out. Now have it bra strap length smile

Suits me much better

BillyBanter Thu 27-Mar-14 14:59:29

Doesn't matter how old you are, have your hair long or short whatever you like. Regardless of your age if your current style isn't working for you, change it.

Plenty of short cuts aren't mumsy. Get an undercut!

Cocolepew Thu 27-Mar-14 15:02:29

I cut mine pixie short in the summer, similar to this except I don't look like Charlize sad. it had been shoulder length. I love Claire Underwoods hair, I had mine similar for years and I'm going to grow it in again. .

PartTimePunk Thu 27-Mar-14 15:02:50

The Claire Underwood cut is gorgeous. I would love to chop my hair (currently below shoulder blade length) into this style. I'm really not sure a 5"3 curvy 12/14 could get away with it. But I'm very tempted!

Eliza22 Thu 27-Mar-14 15:07:04

Gemma, your colour is gorgeous and your hair is shiny and healthy looking. Leave it alone!

What I will say is that I've had to forgo my highlights pretty much as long hair, on and older face, when it's very highlighted can be ageing and knackers your hair so, I've returned to the blonde mouse of my youth and without exception (or they might be being kind) people have said that it suits my complexion better. Also, it matches my eye brows and is nice and shiny!

Still might go for the chop, though!

Jbck Thu 27-Mar-14 15:10:08

Ive recently gone from just below bra strap length to collar length. Front doesn't look very different full fringe graduating in layers to just below chin length, but the backs all layered and flicky. I've had lots of complements and people asking if Ive lost weight so it must be reasonable.

Will be keeping it like this or similar for a while, had always thought if I hate it it'll grow but no need.

ChablisChic Thu 27-Mar-14 15:11:56

Another advantage I've found of very short hair is that, as I'm going grey (gracefully) it blends in a lot better being short and choppy. If it was longer it would look a bit 'witchy' and I'd have to have it coloured.

I used to have highlights, which blended the grey quite well, but they got cut out so quickly it was a waste of money. Now I've more grey I'm just going with the flow, quite happily.

MoominMammasHandbag Thu 27-Mar-14 15:21:15

I'm 50 and decided to grow my fine wavy hair one last time. I ended up with completely unmanageable frizz. So I've gone for a sort of wavy pixie cut (think my mum had one in the sixties) coloured a rich red brown. I'm rather pleased with it.
I've also noticed my face had gone a lot thinner in recent years: I've lost my chubby cheeks. Suddenly I have the cheekbones I would have liked for when I was 18

Ludways Thu 27-Mar-14 15:27:11

I'm 46 and I spent the last few years thinking exactly that. I resisted as long as I could saying "but if I get it cut now I'll never have it long again", I thought it would be symbolic of the end of my youth. I got it chin length and I love it, I look years younger and it's so much easier to handle. In fact it's on better condition and I'm now not a slave to my straighteners.

ormirian Thu 27-Mar-14 15:28:28

Not a beauty by any means but I have had my hair shortish for a few years now. I began to worry when my long hair just made my face seem heavier. It's now a short bob - longer at the front than the back and with a graduated fringe that I am growing out.

Do sex goddesses always have long hair?

AngelaDaviesHair Thu 27-Mar-14 15:39:50

Do it in stages, I say. Try a sleek bob or something, then you can go shorter in a few months. Mine's been supershort for years, like this (not quite the same face though, sadly).

Cocolepew Thu 27-Mar-14 15:40:42

Im going to let my grey through as well chablis, thats the reason it's very short atm. I have very dark brown hair naturally and have been colouring it brown for years. I cut it because it was thinnning out too much and looked horrible. I have Lupus and have got very allergic to everything, and, for the first time ever, I'm wary of using a dark dye, in case I have a reaction.
It's dyed a dark blonde , so I'll see how it goes. I'm imagining lovely silver hair, thd reality will probly be brillo pad .

HSMMaCM Thu 27-Mar-14 16:18:06

I asked for this when I had my waist length hair cut last year. I do miss my long hair, but I like my short hair(which looks nothing like the picture).

ChablisChic Thu 27-Mar-14 16:30:12

I love Jamie Lee Curtis. My hair is a similar style, I'm just hoping my grey ends up like hers!

GemmaTeller Thu 27-Mar-14 16:35:06

I've got highlights and lowlights in mine while my grey comes though (DH despairs at my hairdressers bills!)

I'm hoping for this colour and this is as short as I'm prepared to go:

Cocolepew Thu 27-Mar-14 16:56:06

I would like this colour, I have dark eyebrows still and I'm worried I'll look like Alistair Darling. I might need to grow my fringe to cover them grin

PinkPantherWafer Thu 27-Mar-14 17:11:04

Yes yes!

I had mine all cut off last week. It was past my shoulders with a blunt fringe.

It's so very short and I love it. Seconds to dry, no more hair dryer, straightness or endless products. A bit of wax and I'm good to go grin

YNK Thu 27-Mar-14 17:29:02

I had waist length straight hair until 50 (only a very few strands of grey, hardly noticeable). I felt I was too old to have long hair.
I eventually had a pixie cut. The hairdresser cut it in 2 sittings because they said it would be too big a shock to take it very short in one go.
I found it hard to get into the habit of going to the hairdresser though so now Im 56 it is shoulder blade length again!
I did try, and I liked it, but it feels like too much hassle to keep cutting! Also I needed to use a hairdryer to get it to sit right when it was short. Pain in the arse if you ask me!

sunshinemmum Thu 27-Mar-14 17:32:59

I wore it short through my twenties, various bobbed cuts through my thirties and had my last asymmetric short cut on my 40th. It was a disaster, as I have a double chin and jowels. I now have it layered and shoulder length.

sunshinemmum Thu 27-Mar-14 17:34:55

Gemma once mine is completely white I'd like that style as it is as short as I'd dare go.

Jbck Thu 27-Mar-14 17:38:07

coco I'dlove to see the other side of that 'do'. DD1 has similar but not quite as cute but its hard to envisage the other side, she has v long side fringe would like to see if it's the same.

KnockMeDown Thu 27-Mar-14 17:56:05

I'm 44, and definitely NOT an oldie wink so not sure if I can post, but have been going progressively shorted for a while, and it really suits me. Have just had it cut as in these pictures.

Disclaimer - I am in no way as attractive as the model grin

Shimmyshimmy Thu 27-Mar-14 18:00:50

Medusa I love that cut, I had it in my early 30's. Love Claire Underwood's hair. I now have an above chin length bob....long hair makes me look old and haggered.

Cocolepew Thu 27-Mar-14 18:09:23

Jbck I have that cut on my pinterest board but its the same side, I thought I had one from a different angle

Cocolepew Thu 27-Mar-14 18:12:18

I think these are a good cut to have if you're going short for the first time

I like that cut, might try that for myself. Who is it again?

Cocolepew Thu 27-Mar-14 18:31:59

Mine? The black and white one is Ginnifer Godwin

is it Ginnifer Goodwin?


Beamur Thu 27-Mar-14 18:37:04

I've gone from long, to shoulder length to jaw length, it's easy to look after and looks fresher. I've had lots of compliments too.

Eliza22 Fri 28-Mar-14 09:21:14

LOVE that Ginnifer "do".

pixiegumboot Fri 28-Mar-14 10:04:27

I've gone from shoulder length to crop, and am growing back again. Shorter much harder to look after, I feel like I have a birds nest on my head. Oh, and I'm sure I look like Shirley from EastEnders. Not a good look.

jaffacakesallround Fri 28-Mar-14 15:03:30

I have gone the other way from a short Princess Diana style in my 40s to longer ( think Twiggy) in my 50s and everyone says it looks much younger and nicer smile

I took the plunge today and got my hair cut so have gone shorter in stages

flipchart Wed 02-Apr-14 12:45:42

Do you like it one though? ilove

yes I like my new shorter style, I just have to get used to it though - keep fiddling with it!

FrugalFashionista Wed 02-Apr-14 14:04:13

Am in my early forties so do I qualify? Just went from shoulder length to much shorter and feel fresher and yonger and edgier than I have in years. Also find shorter hair much easier to style and my fine hair has definitely more volume!
Can recommend!

FrugalFashionista Wed 02-Apr-14 14:08:55

Sorry about typos - the last time I had a pixie cut was when I was six so maybe my spelling and proofreading skills are regressing to that level... grin

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