Help!! Have booked beach holiday with two women 15 years younger than me!

(45 Posts)
janmoomoo Mon 10-Feb-14 12:12:12

I was really happy when I booked it but about two weeks later woke up in the night in a cold sweat. They are both beautiful and skinny, I am middle aged and a bit soft around the middle.

What can I do now to make sure I look my best. I have three months to transform myself into a beach goddess.

QueenBoudicea Mon 10-Feb-14 12:14:59

Shred. Religiously.

AnyFucker Mon 10-Feb-14 12:16:06

Stop stressing and enjoy yourself ?

30 day shred. It's awful, it hurts but it has good results if you can stick it out. Three months is plenty of time to use it and get the results. If you simply don't want/don't have time to exercise, look for flattering clothes/swim stuff that flatters what you want to hide and shows off your best bits, be that cleavage/legs whichever. Body brushing will make your skin glow combined with lots of moisturiser. Best advice though is to work from the inside and drink plenty of water, cut down on white carbs and eat lots of fruit and veg. I'm sure you look great anyway and are panicking over nothing smile

NigellasDealer Mon 10-Feb-14 12:17:02

buy a black one piece and a big hat and a sarong?

princessalbert Mon 10-Feb-14 12:20:04

Ripped in 30 and 30 Day Shred.

It works - alongside a good eating plan.

Cut the sugar and crap. Good carbs and good protein. Lots of veg.

You'll be surprised.

Floisme Mon 10-Feb-14 12:23:30

Of course you want to be in as good a shape as you can and yes to one-piece swimsuits and sarongs. But don't get sucked into a competition with women who are 15 years younger. You are never going to win.

janmoomoo Mon 10-Feb-14 12:36:54

Yes I have come round to the idea that I can't really compete. Best to develop and exude an air of confidence.

But.... I do have the shred somewhere, I have never managed to stick at it for more than two weeks, but might dig it out. Also interested in the body brushing.

PottedPlant Mon 10-Feb-14 13:05:27

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

BitOutOfPractice Mon 10-Feb-14 13:07:34

OP I just clicked on your profile to see what you look like and all I can say is I liked what I saw but I don't think that worktop will work with a sarong! wink

WholeNewProblem Mon 10-Feb-14 13:24:56

Buy a really big stunning beach hat, to make you look smaller.
Buy some really big glasses, to make you look smaller.
Buy a really huge beach bag,...you get the picture.

Oh, if you buy a tunic, make it flat-fronted and a sort of slight A-line shape over the hips.

I bought a Togz swimsuit last year that was quite good at sucking me in round the middle. Alternatively, some of the M&S ones have tummy control. A poster last week was really happy with something she had bought from Debenhams.

Or, just dive into the water and spend all of your time in there.

There was once an article about how to get a flattering holiday photo and the conclusion was to get someone to take the shot from above your shoulder with you lying down on your back on a sunlounger, smiling back at the camera. This will help wrt Facebook etc.

janmoomoo Mon 10-Feb-14 13:34:59

I am loving these answers! Feeling better already.

I did smile inside a little bit when one of the friends who is thirty, beautiful and skinny as a rake was telling me she is worried about how her bum will look in her bikini. Guess we all have body issues regardless of our size.

specialsubject Mon 10-Feb-14 13:36:47

why on earth is this an issue? you should be well past the comparing looks stage by now.

what competition? What 'winning'? What 'body issues' that we are all supposed to have? I'm not perfect, no-one is.

it's a holiday. Enjoy.

janmoomoo Mon 10-Feb-14 13:41:46

I didn't mention competition or winning. They are my friends, I love them! Its just that I have got three months to make the best of myself so I might as well use them constructively! And I definitely will enjoy myself.

Floisme Mon 10-Feb-14 13:45:11

I was the one who mentioned 'competition', sorry op! I think you've got the right idea - look the best you can but don't stress about it.

janmoomoo Mon 10-Feb-14 13:53:49

Bitoutofpractice Glad you liked my profile pics. I guess I should stay out of the sea and rub danish oil into myself grin

Floisme Mon 10-Feb-14 13:57:17

Op, if you look half as good as your worktop, you've got nothing to worry about grin

Creamycoolerwithcream Mon 10-Feb-14 14:02:38

Good sun glasses, lovely bikinis ( try on loads of styles and sizes. Big M&S stores are good), nice assecories and sandals. Don't do the one piece/sarong thing. It look likes you are trying to hide.

splashingingumboots Mon 10-Feb-14 15:03:19

Ooooo pottedplant slight tangent but callanetics....I did it religiously.pre kids uusing my mum's book from the 80s with amazing results. ..d'ya reckon I can do it after 2 c sections? The crunches were pretty burn-y I remember. ..don't want to rupture my scar!!!!!!

Creamycoolerwithcream Mon 10-Feb-14 15:05:03

If you can, ditch bread a few week before. I think that's really good for the middle area.

BitOutOfPractice Mon 10-Feb-14 15:10:48

It seems that one piece swim suits are a no no for anyone under 70 sad

janmoomoo Mon 10-Feb-14 15:57:34

Have been googling callenatics now. 80s flashback! People who like it really seem to love it.

WholeNewProblem Mon 10-Feb-14 15:59:04

Why on earth is it a 'no no' to wear a one-piece? Who says?

I think a nice one-piece is often more flattering than a bikini, especially if someone's stomach reflects a bit of the life they've lived.

Cristiane Mon 10-Feb-14 16:09:09

I think bikinis are way more flattering than a one piece.
Big, suck you in swimsuits are just weird and don't exude holiday fun, they look a bit like armour plating.
Confidence is a much better cover up than a sarong too.
I have never seen a single European woman wearing a swimsuit on the beach - it is all bikinis, it looks more relaxed.

BitOutOfPractice Mon 10-Feb-14 16:16:05

"they" do whole - you know, society! wink

Though I shall keep mine for the water slides!

WholeNewProblem Mon 10-Feb-14 16:33:11

Well, the OP can wear a tee-shirt and shorts or a beach dress if necessary. Who gives a monkeys what everyone else does?

I am a European woman and if you saw me on the beach this summer it would have been wearing a one piece. If I was about to go into the rather chilly sea in the surfer's paradise we were staying, then it would have been in a lightweight wetsuit. And I had a great time!

janmoomoo Mon 10-Feb-14 16:47:15

I have always been a fan of the one piece to hide the old tummy, but on a yoga holiday last year there was a lady who was a size 18 and had a fabulous range of bikinis from Bravissimo and she did look really great.

Alcohol, insouciance, a raised eyebrow.

And a sarong.

Floisme Mon 10-Feb-14 16:57:54

Not 70 yet but much prefer one-pieces. There's way too much adjusting to be done with a bikini.

Creamycoolerwithcream Mon 10-Feb-14 17:19:10

I don't think one pieces are a no no but I'm a real bikini fan. I probably shouldn't be as not young or slim, I have cellulite and stretch marks but I just love the feel of the sun on my body and hate getting white bits. If I go on a weeks holiday I take a bikini for everyday in all different designs , some triangle, halter, straight across so I don't get tan marks. I always buy a size bigger than I am in bikinis so I don't get any digging in of material. Rather than sarong I like beach dresses that are strapless and just above the knee with nice blingy matching flip-flops. If I did want to try and look better as I said up thread I would ditch bread or even better still low carb.

AnyFucker Mon 10-Feb-14 17:36:02

I wear bikinis too and I am nearer 50 than 40.

I don't find costumes at all flattering. There isn't enough support for the ole boobs and I am very long in the body so they usually cut me in two and drag my chest down further

Like above, I wear a size bigger in the bottoms and a bra type top

princessalbert Mon 10-Feb-14 18:04:49

I am 45 and have both bikinis and one pieces.

The trick is to spend a little more than you might want - in order to get a well fitting, supportive top part. Cup sizes!

Floisme Mon 10-Feb-14 18:36:04

Maybe I've never had a bikini that fitted me properly but I just can't be bothered with all that furtive tugging and pulling. With a one-piece I just put it on and that's it - job done. Plus I burn easily so unfortunately, I really don't want to feel the sun on my body. But I'm not suggesting there should be an age or size limit, oh no grin

PottedPlant Tue 11-Feb-14 11:31:11

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

splashingingumboots Tue 11-Feb-14 15:35:58

potted last section April last year. Will ask doc but embarrassed to say am doing callanetics ha ha. Def need it though, used to be so toned with it but now i am like a melting candle - noice smile

itsbetterthanabox Tue 11-Feb-14 20:37:52

It's a holiday. Relax!

GeorginaWorsley Tue 11-Feb-14 20:42:24

Bikinis here too at 47.
One pieces squash my boobs too.

AndIFeedEmGunpowder Tue 11-Feb-14 20:46:26

I think anyone over the age of 25 will be too busy stressing about their own figure to judge yours!

That said, I have had huge improvements in 2 weeks from cutting out alcohol and refined sugar, no carbs after 5pm and doing 50 crunches a day.

Spray tan and huge sunglasses help if you go for that sort of thing.

AndIFeedEmGunpowder Tue 11-Feb-14 20:47:45

DM still wears a bikini and she is in her 60s. Think it's great.

PottedPlant Fri 14-Feb-14 15:24:50

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

HelloBoys Fri 14-Feb-14 16:21:07

The shred is supposed to be good but:-

every day as a top up:- walk at least an hour so you're just out of breath.

cut out sugar and fat or reduce them. eg replace cake/biscuits with fruit.

reduce sizes in portions or reduce carbs (don't cut out completely).

TartyMcTart Sat 15-Feb-14 09:07:24

Just seen this and had to add that I've seen results after a month of no booze (at all), 4-5 gym sessions a week and doing the 5:2 (but trying to aim for 4:3)

Sounds llike not much fun but when a woman at the gym came up to me and told me she thought I'd lost weight and was looking toned it definitely made it all worth it!

RalphRecklessCardew Sat 15-Feb-14 09:09:14

Esther Williams swimming costume.

naturelover Sat 15-Feb-14 10:18:06

Helloboys I disagree re cutting out fat.

Your body, brain and skin need good fats to be healthy: nuts, fish, olives etc. Yes reduce processed food and saturated or trans fats, but don't demonise the good fats!

HelloBoys Sat 15-Feb-14 13:48:36

nature - actually I agree with you there - have good fats like you say and include avocados etc.

I suppose I mean reduce it. I've been sort of doing ok with the lighter (70% less) cheese from Pilgrims Choice.

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