How to make a bob look less mumsy?

(37 Posts)
gruffalosmile Wed 22-Jan-14 23:27:27

Have spent about 2 painful years growing out a short layered crop to a chin length bob, no layers as I found that the layers were going all sticky-outy and driving me mad. But now I have this smooth bob I feel it looks so mumsy. Looks okay when first washed but not for long. My hair is very thick with a slight wave, but it will blow dry smooth. I hate the stacked bob look short at the back. I;m worried if I have layers cut back in it will go all fly away and unmanageable again. I don't want to go short and choppy again either! Any ideas? Thanks!

burnishedsilver Wed 22-Jan-14 23:50:06

Is hard to do much with hair that's all the one length. I'd suggest getting a few layers and using a babyliss big hair. Without any layers do you find it goes a bit triangular? Ie thicker at the ends.

feckawwf Wed 22-Jan-14 23:55:04

Change your parting so it's on the side? Or make it shorter at the back and longer at the front with long layers at the front-not like a graduated bob, think more like the "pob" style Victoria beckham had a few years ago. Or a side sweeping fringe

hiphipreplacement Thu 23-Jan-14 00:43:34

One length is good. Layers are mumsy!

Dye it a really vivid colour - red, bright blonde, blue black. Whatever suits you. Can you have a fringe? Blow dry and straighten. It will look great.

LittleBabyPigsus Thu 23-Jan-14 03:27:30

Do you get the bigger ends? I have v thick hair and also struggle with bobs because of this. Visible layers do look mumsy BUT it's difficult to manage very thick hair without some layers - can you not get a few long layers so it doesn't look layered, it just doesn't go triangular? Sweeping fringes are also good.

Hopefully Thu 23-Jan-14 06:52:41

My hair is quite thick and I have always found single length bobs too unmanageable as I get a triangle look. I now have an undercut all the way round the back and it makes the whole thing 'sit' waaaay better. Looks a bit odd if I have to tie my hair up for exercise though! Also my bob is really angled, far longer at the front than the back. Think VB's Pob <cringe>

MissScatterbrain Thu 23-Jan-14 07:38:31

Try adding curls with a styling wand for special occasions.

Also it may help to remember that a bob is mumsy if you don't wear make up or wear stylish clothes - many stylish dressers have bobs but aren't frumpy because hair is just one element of their appearance and they make the most of their best features for example by wearing a strong lipstick.

Looking on pinterest is a good way of seeing how they do it.

higgle Thu 23-Jan-14 07:47:30

I've just grown out my layers too, and battle with my hairdresser not to cut it shorter at the back, there is something about that look I really don't like. I mess up the top section of mine by sort of pulling it out with my fingers as I dry it, so it looks a bit wild rather than flatter and shiney, Ibelieve( maybe delude myself) that makes it look a bit more edgey, especially if I wear more make up, especially eye-liner.

Hopefully Thu 23-Jan-14 07:55:46

Ooh, good idea from scatterbrain to look on Pinterest, there's loads of bob inspiration on there. I think it's impossible to say that 'a bob' is mummy or otherwise when is basically encompasses any hairstyle between shoulders and ears. Some lovely wavy hair bobs here

LittleBabyPigsus Thu 23-Jan-14 08:15:10

Y to makeup making a huge difference. Sharp black eyeliner and some bright lipstick will really help make it un-mumsy.

Dumpylump Thu 23-Jan-14 08:22:57

I have a bob, pretty sure it's not mumsy's possibly more of a "pob" since its longer at the front, with a full fringe that's almost in my eyes. It's also scarlet, with black chunks underneath that only show as hair moves. I reckon my hair is one of the things that fools pretty much everyone I meet into thinking I'm younger than I actually am!

BumgrapesofWrath Thu 23-Jan-14 08:45:07

I think definitely a "pob" to make it less mumsy, I used to have mine quite steep.

nilbyname Thu 23-Jan-14 08:48:51

I think a heavy blunt fringe would give it some edge, that and good makeup.

I have a sort of pob, though it's not hugely extreme, with a thick sweeping fringe. I don't look mumsy, to the best of my knowledge. I have a few long layers at the back for volume but none at the front.

MrsMarigold Thu 23-Jan-14 10:19:50

I have a bob with a heavy blunt fringe after I saw it in Vogue a few months ago - I try to get it looking sleek.

Hopefully Thu 23-Jan-14 11:57:51

Other thing with a bob is I think it needs reasonably regular maintenance. Used to get t cut twice a year when it was long! I get mine cut every 6-7 weeks and if I get to 7 weeks it is a bit of a pain to style for the last week or so. I am a fusspot about my hair though!

Very short vintage fringe - google Clara Bow. Grows out quick enough if you don't like it but it's great for leaping up in the morning with a 'done' do.

gruffalosmile Thu 23-Jan-14 20:35:35

Hi thanks yes I do get that triangular thicker at the ends look. I think what I was hoping for was the first picture but I ended up with more like the second

RiojaHaze Thu 23-Jan-14 20:41:16
Would this work? I have it and either Big Hair it or curl it with straighteners or tongs to jazz it up.

I've also had a halo of blonde dyed in to stop it looking like a plain brown bob.

MerylStrop Thu 23-Jan-14 21:17:50

Anything too "done" looks mumsy esp when there are any other mumsy factors (age/child/clothes) in play

Its a fine line though as artfully dishevelled can also just look dishevelled.

I'd go the Emilia Fox/Karlie Kloss/Alexa Chung route. E.F on telly now btw, rather than straightening very thick/wavy hair, cos it will go all wedgy/like playmobil dolly hair.

Flechas Thu 23-Jan-14 21:20:06

a fairly extreme side parting.

PuppyMonkey Thu 23-Jan-14 21:32:07

I don't think you're doing it right if your bob looks mumsy. confused

It's all about eye makeup and lipstick and wearing good clothes. And getting it cut often. And using Babyliss Big Hair to round it all out.

Also back comb the crown a bit like they did in the Sixties.

sleepdodger Thu 23-Jan-14 21:45:16

Blunt fringe
Fab colour
Sharp make up

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Fri 24-Jan-14 09:20:21

that's because the first picture has artfully cut layers, its the only way to get a shape really. Is your hair naturally straight? if not try scrunching it with a ciurl activator for a tousled look then the shape won't look so obviously triangular. Or use scarves etc to tie round and look funky.

Bodicea Fri 24-Jan-14 09:21:27

Lots of cute clips help. I find they are great for when I haven't had style to blow dry hair properly x

I have thick hair with a wave/kink to it and have this. It is the BEST hairstyle I have ever had. Easy to do - versatile and lots of people comment on how much they like it.

gruffalosmile Fri 24-Jan-14 11:02:47

Okay thanks ladies, some great ideas here. I will resist layers for the moment as I have not had good experiences with having it layered in the past, but I am due a trim in a couple of weeks so will go for longer/blunter fringe and a more angled shape, will also buy a babyliss (have been thinking about one for ages). The make up I do every day but as I work in childcare I don't like to put too much slap on for work, and the clothes...well I do my best! I do my own colour because I can't afford salon colour, but will look for something nice and rich and a bit more zingy instead of my usual mouse.

Colinbakergotfat Fri 24-Jan-14 20:02:44

I have a deep seated aversion to her, but I have to admit that dawn porter really rocks the short bob.

It is all in the fringe and shine.

MissScatterbrain Fri 24-Jan-14 20:11:39

But her bob can easily look frumpy on someone else - as I've said before, hair is just one element of your appearance, so as long as the rest of you is stylish, you should rock any of the bobs on here...

Colinbakergotfat Fri 24-Jan-14 23:24:05

Well that goes without saying, however as someone up thread said, blunt thick fringes add an edge. Similarly I would argue that some styles of bob are intrinsically more frumpy than others - such as angela

Embrace the wave! Mad hair can be cute: Clara Bow

PuppyMonkey Sat 25-Jan-14 10:30:00

But Colin, Angela's haircut there is not even a bob. confused

Spottybra Sat 25-Jan-14 10:33:50

Pop to a colourist and get some thick slices of colour put through. I was brown once with what my colourist called 'cheeky' slices of blonde, a chunky slice on my right that was unseen when my hair was down or I could pin the top back to reveal it, and three narrow slices on my left, again underneath the top layer of hair.

Or dye it pink. Or pillar box red.

That Angela Merkel haircut is not a bob.

I had mine re-cut into a bob just above the chin the other day. I have mumsy risk factors - toddler, bump, harried expression - but am trying to avoid the mumsyness winning over with makeup, clothes etc. An unstyled bob worn with a blotchy face (which would be me) and a fleece is not going to look brilliant.

Not sure about the fringe, I'm getting rid of mine and it looks less frumpy with a side parting and forehead on show. But it really depends on the wearer.

Try using mousse and blasting your hair upside down for a loose feel to it.

ExcuseTypos Sat 25-Jan-14 12:21:19

I have a bob without a fringe. I don't suit fringes- I look about 12grin

This is how I wear mine, but a bit shorter and I usually tuck it behind my ears. For nights out I do a bit of back combing on the crown. It gives it some height and looks really elegant.

ExcuseTypos Sat 25-Jan-14 12:22:16

Sorry that should be- this is how I get mine cut, I don't wear it like that as it would annoy me, being on my face.

Colinbakergotfat Sat 25-Jan-14 18:05:03

Ok not strictly speaking but I am trying to channel my sister in law's awful bob which is a jaw length version. You must know the frumpy bob I am trying to evoke - thin hair, fringe cut far too far round the face and bad colour. Frumpy bobs do exist.

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now