Fashion 'no go' areas over 45?

(119 Posts)
purplegadget Sat 04-Jan-14 22:27:34

Even if you genuinely have the figure for it, are there still some things you really shouldn't wear if you're over 45? If so, what?

Greenmug Sat 04-Jan-14 22:32:01

Marking my place with this one!

Tanfastic Sat 04-Jan-14 22:33:27

A cropped top blush

ProphetOfDoom Sat 04-Jan-14 22:33:46

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TunipTheUnconquerable Sat 04-Jan-14 22:34:10

hair in bunches

ProphetOfDoom Sat 04-Jan-14 22:35:13

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GirlWithTheDirtyShirt Sat 04-Jan-14 22:35:58

I used to say leggings. Actually for anyone who could remember them first time round! I've come round to them as a winter alternative to tights but am not a fan otherwise. Especially not as evening wear.

cerealqueen Sat 04-Jan-14 22:37:03

Dungarees, unless you are in a Cbeebies scottish drama.

Thinking this myself as a very youthful looking 45 yr old. Contemplated some distressed ripped and repaired skinny jeans the other day but decided nay so would add them to the list.

nilbyname Sat 04-Jan-14 22:38:44

Pig tails, bunches, pink, fluffy jumpers, purple funky hair ala Sharon Osborne

alemci Sat 04-Jan-14 22:39:09

watching too.

Leggings No-No isn't just over the over 45s though blush

My DD is a trim size 6 (she's 11) and even she knows that leggings should only be worn if they are respectable, your pants don't show through, and no labels are on show. No thongs either.

500internalerror Sat 04-Jan-14 22:40:36

See through blouses, especially black one with a pale bra underneath.

Thants Sat 04-Jan-14 22:40:39

Nothing! Wear whatever you feel comfortable in.

LynetteScavo Sat 04-Jan-14 22:41:21

I think leggings with a dress and pumps look really good on older women.

I think mini-skirts. Even cord ones with opaque tights.

Bonsoir Sat 04-Jan-14 22:42:33

The rules are the same whatever your age: only expose or emphasise those bits of you which deserve admiration!

Bonsoir Sat 04-Jan-14 22:43:30

I love mini-skirts - very short ones blush. I will be 48 this year.

cerealqueen Sat 04-Jan-14 22:43:38

I still wear a denim mini with thick leggings, slouchy jumper and boots!

HoneyandRum Sat 04-Jan-14 22:44:19

Purple and red streaks in funky hair is a uniform for most women over here in Germany so strike that.

There're not many 45 years that look good with hair down to their bum however.

Sleeveless tops, unless your upper arms are like Michelle Obama's.
Frosted eyeshadow or lipstick.
Anything strapless.

burnishedsilver Sat 04-Jan-14 22:45:24


DrNick Sat 04-Jan-14 22:46:12

i used to think mini skirt ere ok regardless of age

Now I dont

No one should ever wear polyester.

cerealqueen Sat 04-Jan-14 22:46:59

I don't reveal too much skin these days so no scoop necks, more boat / slash necks. Nobody needs to see my knees either. I often think of SJP in Sex and the City 2... for me, too much flesh on show and the clothes were wearing her, not the other way round.

DrNick Sat 04-Jan-14 22:49:10

skirts that are too short just look desperate

and i have GREAT legs

purplegadget Sat 04-Jan-14 22:49:16

I'm with Bonsoir on the mini skirts (only with opaque tights though) and I'll be 48 this year too.

Ifancyashandy Sat 04-Jan-14 22:49:53

Bar your hair in bunches and tutus, wear what the feck you like, suits your shape & makes you feel good.

I have had strangers comment (positively) on my legs. I work hard in the gym. Damned if I'm not going to wear mini skirts, leather leggings and the like. I'm 45.

LynetteScavo Sat 04-Jan-14 22:50:37

OK, forget what I said about mini-skirts!

If you've got the legs for them, go ahead.

cerealqueen Sat 04-Jan-14 22:50:46

What with Polyester???

Granted, if it is cheap, (off the market) it looks cheap but I bought 100% polyester drop waist dress 20s style the other day, looks lush, like a chiffon type effect.

It all depends.

bunnymother Sat 04-Jan-14 22:52:39

Disney stuff. They had some Disney tops in Uniqlo a few months ago, and the poor, nice salesman asked if I wanted to look at one for myself. What? No, thank you.

Ifancyashandy Sat 04-Jan-14 22:54:01

I'm on a roll (and a rant). I get really fucked off with the whole 'what you should / shouldn't wear over 45' debate.

Says who exactly?

I wouldn't be seen dead in a tunic with leggings and ballet pumps. Or a jumper dress worn with the same (unless it were beautifully cut and probably made from cashmere) as I think it looks shapeless and boring. But I would defend any woman's right to wear it if she felt good in it.

I have my taste / she has hers. And that's what makes fashion fun.

And breathe...

purplegadget Sat 04-Jan-14 22:54:28

DrNick - interesting that you've changed your view on mini skirts. I currently think it depends on what you wear them with - can certainly look desperate. Actually thinking about it, that can be true at any age.

brandyandsummergloves Sat 04-Jan-14 22:54:52

I'd say crop tops and very low cut neckline.

Disclaimer: I have a pink fluffy jumper, wear short skirts on holiday and have long hair. I'm 52.

Bonsoir Sat 04-Jan-14 22:55:56

Yes, mini skirts with thick ribbed tights and flat winter boots are a good look. I shall wear them for as long as my inner thighs let me.

alemci Sat 04-Jan-14 23:01:03

depends on definition of mini skirt. I feel comfortable in above the knee skirts but not ultra short but that's on me.

purplegadget Sat 04-Jan-14 23:02:12

Ifancyashandy - I generally agree with you.

This thread was triggered by a friend commenting that another mum at school was too old to be wearing a tartan mini skirt however good her legs were.

I wondered whether it was a commonly held view that you could be 'too old' to wear something.

I was contemplating leather leggings the other day and wondered if it was a sign I was having a mid-life crisis :-)

ITCouldBeWorse Sat 04-Jan-14 23:04:24

I don't think there are any real rules. As soon as I think of one, I remember a friend or sleb breaking that rule and looking great.

Perhaps there could be policies, or general,guidance?

Meringue wedding gowns
'Cute' clothes
Crop tops (other than at beach or gym for anyone regardless of age)
Camel hooves for anyone, so inc the over 45s

Otherwise, I think the rule breakers often look fab
I'm still rocking my pseudo vintage stylee, just a bit worried I look as if I wore it first time around!

Diamondcassis Sat 04-Jan-14 23:08:22

I contemplated for an hour, then bought a leather (v v naice leather, much £, mid-thigh) mini-ish skirt in sales. Wore it twice this week, with flat boots and jumper. Felt Fantastic. Who else matters in that respect?

thenightsky Sat 04-Jan-14 23:08:27

tunic and leggings thing always makes me think of Boy George in his Church of the Poisoned Mind phase.

<same age as Bonsoir>

Bonsoir Sat 04-Jan-14 23:08:55

I don't think my DD's tweeny look (skinny jeans, Uggs, long-sleeved branded t-shirt, cardi-hoody) is a good look on over 35s. Though there are plenty around!

Ifancyashandy Sat 04-Jan-14 23:09:33

I've just worked with a bunch of 20-somethings. They constantly complimented me on my style and they adore fashion. Not bragging - just saying it in the context of this thread.

I do tend to buy good quality stuff - ASOS White Label is good. Also Joseph, Jaeger, Massimo Duti, Whistles etc. But I also shop in Zara, RI, Top Shop - wherever. Bought a Chinese style kimono jacket in Primark the other week.

Style is an attitude, not an age and to feck with people who don't get it. I don't get their lack of experimentation but would never comment on it.

Wear your leather leggings (and jeans & skirts - I have all three!) with pride!

bunnymother Sat 04-Jan-14 23:10:55

"This thread was triggered by a friend commenting that another mum at school was too old to be wearing a tartan mini skirt however good her legs were." - sorry, but the person making the comment just sounds a bit jealous / judgmental. She might not be, overall, but that's how she sounds in this context. Ignore.

ITCouldBeWorse Sat 04-Jan-14 23:12:22

I decided against a furry leopard print pencil skirt today - not cos I'm too old, but co I already have one!

1944girl Sat 04-Jan-14 23:12:47

I will be 70 this year.

I wear mini skirts and leggings and don't care what others think of me.I refuse to wear ''old lady'' clothes.
I only wear mini skirts with opaque tights and leggings with long tops though.
I refuse to grow my hair long as it ages me and makes me look like an old witch.

bunnymother Sat 04-Jan-14 23:14:54

1944girl - I like the sound of your approach!!

ggirl Sat 04-Jan-14 23:16:13

Trouble with mini skirts on older women is it makes you look at her and think about her age and quietly judge the skirt versus face etc. Sort of negates the good legs look iykwim .

thenightsky Sat 04-Jan-14 23:22:51

1944girl you rock it!

Robfordscrack Sat 04-Jan-14 23:24:35

Anything from abercrombie and fitch, hollister or jack wills - actually not if you're over 30.

I'm 43. I still wear mini skirts, but no shorter than mid thigh. I still wear shorts too, and sometimes have bright red or purple hair.

I wouldn't wear crop tops (but I didn't when I was 18 and a size 8 either tbh).

burnishedsilver Sat 04-Jan-14 23:37:03

I'm 42 and I a like a mini skirt but only with opaque tights and simple, classic boots and accessories.

Floisme Sat 04-Jan-14 23:47:53

Why oh why do people talk about older women as if they're a single, amorphous group? We are all different shapes and sizes and suit different things - just like younger women smile. The number one rule? Wear whatever makes you feel good. I'm 57.

1944girl Sun 05-Jan-14 00:05:32

bunnymother and nightsky

Thankyou both very much.
My grandmother must be turning in her urn though.She thought mini skirts were disgusting when I wore them first time round!

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge Sun 05-Jan-14 01:46:41

I'm younger (31) and have no real opinion on this but I just wanted to post to say 1944girl you rock!!! smile

NoComet Sun 05-Jan-14 01:55:26

Yes to the all shapes and sizes.
I'm 46 and a big bummed 16, my size 8 66y old aunt looks stunning in fitted dresses I couldn't have worn as a size 10 18 year old.

I've always had hips.

MrsCampbellBlack Sun 05-Jan-14 06:59:19

I'd rather see a mini skirt with opaques than loads of crepey cleavage personally.

For me, at 41 I do show a lot less boob than I used to as it makes me feel as though I'm on Loose Women.

Everything else really depends on your shape and figure and overall style.

A friend does a lot of work with ASOS and laughs if I order anything from there as apparently I'm 20 years older than their target market.

LittleBabyPigsus Sun 05-Jan-14 07:54:25

No such thing, wear what you love and fuck anyone else.

Bonsoir - all of me deserves admiration! I love my body.

kaizen Sun 05-Jan-14 08:03:01

I'm 44 and wear plaits (pig tails) but only when I do triathlons or swim - I hope that's ok grin

Thumbnutstwitchingonanopenfire Sun 05-Jan-14 09:16:56

I think that the basic rule of "if youwere old enough to wear it the first time around, then you're probably too old to wear it next time around" is a good rule of thumb; that and wear what suits you.

I do have clothes that would still fit me but would no longer suit me.

MrsDavidBowie Sun 05-Jan-14 09:23:36

I wore a bikini on holiday and I am 53.


50ShadesOfMaybe Sun 05-Jan-14 09:34:23

Mid forties here and refuse to start dressing in certain ways just because I've reached a certain number. Wear mini skirts and shorts (with tights), disco pants, leather leggings, and generally whatever I like.

So there.

marleebrodie Sun 05-Jan-14 09:48:02

And there are so many stylish under 45s out there.......NOT!

RockMummy Sun 05-Jan-14 09:53:07

51 this year and believe you should wear what you feel good in. I don't believe that anything should be restricted to age. I've dumped black in the last year as I feel that it ages me.This has made my life-long rock chick a bit difficult but I'm up for a challenge!

Bonsoir Sun 05-Jan-14 09:56:42

I agree, black is very draining when you get older and your natural skin and hair colours tend to lessen. Navy is a better dark basic.

Deathwatchbeetle Sun 05-Jan-14 09:59:03

True - women over 45 do not all look the same - imagine Goldie hawn and Mother Teresa - hardly lookalikes! Jo Wood (Ronnie's ex) also looks good - her and Goldie could and probably do wear mini skirts. I never could being overweight and at 53 not about to start. However I also will never wear 'a twinset and pearls'. There is a teenager inside me trying to get out!!!!

lurkingaround Sun 05-Jan-14 09:59:50

I wear short skirts and bikinis.
What would I not wear. Cropped tops def, but I think they are awful on everyone. Those cocoon coats, cos I look like a sack of spuds in them. Anything oversized, again, sack of spuds. Leopard print (except if it's grey) cos I look like Bet Lynch in it. Shorts, (except in far-flung destinations where the chances of knowing anyone or ever meeting them again are minuscule, perish the thought), awful on me fat ass.

So it seems my rules aren't age related.

But then, hey, what do I know, I might look like a heap.

MorrisZapp Sun 05-Jan-14 10:00:31

I agree that basically, yiu should wear what you want regardless of age. It's a bit crap to have to adhere to rules.

That said, there is no doubt for me that as I get older I do have to take more care if I want to look good. I feel that I can't get away with rough hair, third day jeans, bargain rail tshirt etc like I could in the past.

My style hasn't really changed, but I have better versions of the same stuff. I will wear hoodies until I die, literally. I can't wait to rock my branded sports gear in the old folks home smile

But the branding has to be very subtle these days, and the quality as high as I can afford.

My mum still tries to do the rock chick thing and it doesn't always work. Sorry mum, but scruffy just doesn't look cute or cool at your age. It looks seedy. Oh god, I hate being judgemental about this. But I want my mum to look her best.

lurkingaround Sun 05-Jan-14 10:02:49

And yes black is getting harder and harder to wear.

MorrisZapp Sun 05-Jan-14 10:04:50

I think also less make up rather than more. I only wear moisturiser and blusher. I feel like foundation etc will sink into any lines and make them look worse.

Bonsoir Sun 05-Jan-14 10:07:47

I stopped wearing foundation years ago but I like BB cream for times I need a more made-up look, and Benefit Porfection plus Guerlain Terracotta for every day.

MrsCampbellBlack Sun 05-Jan-14 10:20:41

I don't wear a great deal of black unless its fur or has a nice texture which somehow makes it less draining. Navy better on me but that's down to colouring I think more than age.

purplegadget Sun 05-Jan-14 10:26:31

Thanks for all the great replies.

1944girl - I hope to still be wearing my mini skirts at 70.

I do agree though that sometimes the contrast between the great legs (or hair) and the face makes the face look worse! And the effect is greater the more fab the legs unfortunately. Not sure it's enough to make me to give them up though.

And, re. the friend's comment - yes, I think the judgemental and envious tag is correct :-)

I ditched black near my face a while ago and my preferred alternative is charcoal grey. Not always possible to find the shape of top I want in that colour though so I did buy two black jersey tops in the autumn to go with a particular skirt. Not sure that I feel I look my best in them though.

We've covered mini skirts, but what about shorts and opaque tights?

ShotgunNotDoingThePans Sun 05-Jan-14 10:29:33

I'm 50 and still wear minis, although no longer the short short ones. Not looking forward to the summer this year as I've realised my upper arms, although reasonably muscular, have acquired that fleshy look and wobble when they move.

I have pretty young-looking skin, but I've also become aware that my cleavage is starting to crepe up, as well as no longer being where I'd expect it to be - a pain as I have big-ish boobs so can't exactly wear polo necks. Damn.

But anyone without those ishoos (or even with, if they're comfortable) - go ahead!

I think stiff-looking, 'helmet' hair ages anyone.

GrumpyOldHorsewoman Sun 05-Jan-14 10:36:07

We will always be judged for something - we need to get over that because you can't control other people's thoughts.

Rules for over 45s:

Wear what you like
Wear what suits you
Wear whatever makes you feel good
Don't just wear something because you feel it's what other people expect

I am 43 and have no 'rules', My Mum is 66, less than 2 years younger than MIL - may as well be 15 years. My mum is young, stylish and vibrant, lives life well. MIL has always 'conformed' and nothing is more sure you hold you down. Life does not end with middle age.

PiratePanda Sun 05-Jan-14 10:39:23

I've got a friend who is 50, has fabulous legs and still wears minis with opaque stockings. She looks amazing. I would look terrible.

AramintaDeWinter Sun 05-Jan-14 10:41:49

I grew up thinking that if you wore a fashion the first ime round then you're too old to wear it the second time round. I also remember the phrase "mutton dressed as lamb" being uttered a lot. .I'm 50-something. However that approach may have worked a few decades ago but not now when 40 is the new 30 and 60 is the new 40 etc.
I like 1944girl's approach, I also like the way Carol Klein dresses

GeorginaWorsley Sun 05-Jan-14 10:43:53

Am 47 soon and have started to look more groomed,ie no third day hair,always wear make up but discreetly applied and 'better' brands,usually more expensive or at least give impression of being more expensive,clothes,manicure and pedicure,eyebrows waxed ,etc.

don't do minis but more because if footballer legs than age!
I wear dresses just above or on knee,anything lower ages me.
I can't do high necks as have
DD chest,but don't expose loads of crepey cleavage!
I have skinnies and coated leather look jeans though!

Am typing this in bed with no make up and scruffy hair ,am epitome of laziness!

50ShadesOfMaybe Sun 05-Jan-14 10:44:30

purplegadget - didn't we do the shorts and tights thing to death a while back? Here

I prefer this in many ways to mini-skirts - shorts look as funky as mini-skirts but won't ride up and flash your gusset!

purplegadget Sun 05-Jan-14 10:58:06

Thanks 50ShadesOfMaybe - I'm very new here so hadn't seen that. Will have a read...

lurkingaround Sun 05-Jan-14 11:13:05

A recent no-go area for me is eyebrows. In that they have to be groomed. Before I hardly noticed, but now I think when they're not threaded and untidy I look about 100 yrs old. Bitching painful threading every month is a must.

AliceinWinterWonderland Sun 05-Jan-14 11:21:37

The only fashion "questionable" I've seen recently has been the grandmotherly 60+yo woman that does the school run in either leggings or a mini skirt and her "batgirl" black boots. grin

Floisme Sun 05-Jan-14 11:25:09

Oh no, not shorts and opaque tights again grin Whilst I get cross with the 'mutton' threads (and I see a new one has just started up) I do agree that your body and skin change as you get older and that different things often suit you. I don't wear the same kind of clothes that I wore in my 30s or 40s but that's because I'm not the same shape. I'm only a few pounds heavier but the difference is startling and I have curves for the very first time (Hurray for the menopause - nature's very own boob job!). I think sometimes you don't see the change so carry on wearing the same things without noticing they don't suit you any more.

I also agree that black puts years on you and no, I don't care what season you are.

specialsubject Sun 05-Jan-14 11:26:10

there are no rules beyond the ones that apply to everyone who isn't a teenager --or Lady GaGa--; no hair in bunches, no glittery makeup, multi-coloured nails.

and no-one should have their knickers on show. Except if it is a bikini on a beach, which anyone can wear if they want regardless of age.

Bankholidaybaby Sun 05-Jan-14 11:32:47

I don't think there's a universal age limit, but there's definitely a point in every woman's life beyond which nobody wants to see her knees. I also think most older women look younger/better with shorter hair.

Bonsoir Sun 05-Jan-14 11:50:02

Shorter hair or else very good quality extensions. Not that I have the time or inclination for extensions!

Floisme Sun 05-Jan-14 11:54:23

If your face and particularly your jawline start to droop then short hair can look better as it has a kind of cheek bone lifting effect. It doesn't happen to everyone though - sorry to bang on but we all age differently!

MrsCampbellBlack Sun 05-Jan-14 11:57:46

I have boobs but still wear high necks but with necklaces or scarves to create the illusion of a 'v'.

I blame gok and his 'bangers' for making some women think they need to hoik their boobs up to their chins in order to look attractive. And don't get me started on those vile belts he puts with everything too.

lurkingaround Sun 05-Jan-14 12:10:03

Oh god the belts, the belts. I use to feel sorry for some of the made-overs. Trussed up like a turkey.

Roussette Sun 05-Jan-14 12:15:02

I am truly ancient and farrrrr older than 45 but I still wear sleeveless dresses/tops (my arms aren't that bad honest) and bikinis in hot countries. Good lord, huge mediterranean women still do, so why can't I?!

I think you start to just know when you should pull back. For instance, I have good legs but wouldn't wear anything mini anymore because of my knees. Knees age you know! I will wear something on the knee, but not above (unless I am wearing a sarong on the beach). Apart from that, I just spend a bit more time thinking hard about what to wear.

alemci Sun 05-Jan-14 12:18:23

also I don't like to tuck any tops in. never have. I am slim but my waist isn't my best feature..

if skirt is too long I feel it looks frumpy on me.

I agree grooming becomes paramount and subtle makeup.

ShoeWhore Sun 05-Jan-14 12:30:53

I'd steer clear of head to toe neon, bunches and tiny shorts if you are over about 16 grin Those highwaisted 80s cut stonewash jeans look like a difficult one to pull off as well.

Otherwise I'd say maximise your assets, minimise the bits you're less fond of, be true to yourself and find your own style.

I don't like my upper arms much either but I'm torn between thinking I should cover them up and thinking my view of what arms looks like has been rather distorted by media images. This is what middle aged arms look like people - I'd rather say who cares?!

MrsCampbellBlack Sun 05-Jan-14 12:46:59

I think all bets are off when on holiday in the sun. I'd happily wear a bikini and a denim mini with bare legs. But here, I wouldn't wear a mini skirt unless with opaques.

higgle Sun 05-Jan-14 13:28:16

I'm 57 too. Apart from crop tops I don't think there is anything I'd say a very big NO to. My arms are very nice, thank you. the only bit that I'm not very happy with is my neck and you can't wear Polos and chokers all the time. If you are not very tall you tend to look better in shortish skirts, though I'd never wear a pelmet type skirt.

If I shop in Top Shop or that sort of place I do sometimes say I'm looking for something for my niece ( though I don't have one)

higgle Sun 05-Jan-14 13:29:35

and another thing ... I have to be a bit careful with my vintage clothes, and wear them in a way that makes it very clear I wasn't wearing them 50 years ago.

MrsSchadenfreude Sun 05-Jan-14 13:42:32

I think bare knees/legs over a certain age are very ageing. You may have a very youthful and fabulous face and figure, but the knees always give it away - they seem to go wrinkly and saggy, and there is often a bit of cellulite just above them on the back of the legs where you can't see it.

But really, wear what you want!

perplexedpirate Sun 05-Jan-14 13:46:28

Watch Fab Fashionistas.
Then wear the bejesus out of whatever the hell you like!

TyrannosaurusBex Sun 05-Jan-14 14:05:24

Fab Fashionistas was amazing! That a 60+ supply teacher who has long white hair in a chignon and wears fitted black leather dresses over polo necks (and the most amazing diamonds I've ever seen when I saw her out one evening) have got me interested in style again. I was quite cutting edge until my mid 30s when I started my family, but I've been quite boring since then. I'm going to be 45 this year but have recently started wearing short skirts again.

LittleBabyPigsus Sun 05-Jan-14 14:16:22

You need a lot of contrast in your face to wear black near your face - so for example, I am pale with dark hair and eyes, so can pull it off. Best friend is also pale but red-haired and has blue eyes, and struggles to wear black. As hair greys, obviously that contrast lessens and so black can indeed be very ageing. Navy and charcoal for cool colouring and dark brown for warm colouring are better neutrals.

alemci Sun 05-Jan-14 14:17:46

yes I'm 46 and most of my skirts are shorter than I used to wear. l feel more confident in some ways.

I get fed up with trousers.

I think as long as no one is going down the polyester slacks route or dressing like Hayley from Corrie, we should be oksmile

Floisme Sun 05-Jan-14 17:29:57

Personally I think wearing clothes that flatter your shape - even if they do reveal crinkly knees and elbows - looks a damn sight better than shrouding yourself in things that don't suit or even fit you properly. And that, in my opinion, is by far the more common sight: older women trying to hide themselves away.

RockMummy Sun 05-Jan-14 17:35:06

I think that is true Floisme. I see lots of older women hiding themselves away. I think it's in response to society's attitude to aging. In our youth obsessed culture it's quite hard not to be effected by people's views. I believe that we should celebrate our experience and enjoy ourselves wearing what the heck we like! It is hard to find clothes which are not black though.

Floisme Sun 05-Jan-14 17:56:14

I know Rock, it's why some of the 'mutton' threads make me so cross. I'm not daft - I realise some things don't look as good on me as they used to and I do think quite carefully about what I wear. But I hate that 'cover up your horrible sagging flesh' attitude that creeps in sometimes. I should add though that I know the op wasn't being like that. Plus we've all managed to have quite a sensible discussion this time which makes a nice change smile.

PottedPlant Sun 05-Jan-14 17:56:32

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ShotgunNotDoingThePans Sun 05-Jan-14 18:04:17

Agree with the above, and the sense of being judged as an 'older' woman - especially as I've gone back to being a student and am surrounded by 18yos.
I've never felt more conscious of my crinkly elbows etc.
However, I feel the potential for disapproval more from (male) staff than from any of the youngsters. Might be reading too much into things and hopefully will be proved wrong - we'll see when I rock up in the gold hotpants!

Pollywallywinkles Sun 05-Jan-14 18:07:40

I wear what I feel like wearing and more importantly what suits me in terms of body shape and size rather than age.

purplegadget Sat 11-Jan-14 12:05:26

Wearing denim shorts today - didn't think I'd ever say that again aged 47 and 11/12ths!

They are dark blue (wanted black but they were out of stock), tailored style with a turn up with black opaques, black knee length flat boots, teal long sleeved t-shirt and grey poncho. Feel fab!

Feel like this is an outfit I would wear at pretty much any age - provided I stay roughly the same shape of course. smile

50ShadesOfMaybe Sat 11-Jan-14 12:19:07

Good for you! Sounds great!

Floisme Sat 11-Jan-14 13:21:27

Yay! Wish I still had the legs for shorts envy Enjoy!

purplegadget Sat 11-Jan-14 15:24:23

Only have the legs for it with my M&S Autograph velvet touch opaques. Shape is still good and they are long but I haven't knowingly revealed my naked knees/thighs in public, except in swimwear or on holiday abroad, since I was 23.

This is why I love autumn/winter/spring and not so keen on summer - maxi dresses, linen trousers and for work, knee length dresses with 'nude' stay ups are my staple then. Definitely no shorts or mini skirts with bare legs!

SirChenjin Sat 11-Jan-14 15:35:03

Anything with a Per Una label attached to it (that label is shit)

Anything that shows off bits of you which should be kept hidden (goes for any age)

Anything frosted/glittery/feathery/gelled which makes you look like you're heading to 1984

Other than that, anything goes imo - but own what you're wearing, rather than looking like you're slavishly copying the yoof in Top Shop - if that makes sense.

PurpleSprout Sat 11-Jan-14 15:55:28

I sometimes wonder if any of the people saying 'no Jack Wills on over 25 / 30 / whatever' have been in there recently.

It's not the same place it was a few years back (that age group are all in Hollister). I have some lovely fluffy knits from there that would pretty much suit any age confused

On the other hand, the last time I looked good in a twinset was when I was 16 and a size 8 (worn ironically, natch or whatever shite we used to say). I certainly wouldn't wear one now! I am 32.

Per una is strictly for those who want to look like a middle-aged schoolteacher. This will almost certainly be the effect whether the wearer is 25 or 55. God that waterfall cardigan was a mistake

TheFarSide Sat 11-Jan-14 16:08:17

This is one of my heroes - a 65 year old model who features in the Guardian magazine fashion pages most weeks. I think she's 65.

I am 51 and currently wearing leggings and a baggy see-through top with a black bra underneath (I am in the house though).

I also have grey hair which I am growing long.

SirChenjin Sat 11-Jan-14 16:30:03

Per una is strictly for those who want to look like a middle-aged schoolteacher

I think my middle aged school teacher friends would be very offended to hear that grin. Per Una just makes you look frumpy - and you find frumpy in many occupations!

Dear God - what is that woman wearing TheFarSide? Whether she was 17 or 65 that's a seriously awful outfit. I think the top might actually be a knock off of Per Una grin

RockMummy Sat 11-Jan-14 16:40:45

I work for a slightly older than middle aged school teacher. She looks great in skinny jeans, nice tops and heeled ankle boots, pencil skirts etc. Her favourite shop is Zara (she's seriously skinny too). She would be affronted at her profession being lumped in with the wearers of Per Una.

Lizzabadger Sat 11-Jan-14 16:43:07

I wear leggings and opaque tights (M&S Autograph velvet touch opaques) at 45 - so sue me. I think people should wear what suits them and they like. Body shape more important than age imho.

PurpleSprout Sat 11-Jan-14 19:26:44

Sorry SirChenjin I should have said like a caricature of a middle aged school teacher - it's a bit of a stereotype.

Or at least it was when I was growing up because my mum & her friends were / are middle-aged school teachers of varying vintage grin My god there was a lot of Per Una & floaty shit going on when they all got together.

SirChenjin Sat 11-Jan-14 19:39:02

Well fuck me - I've just been over to Per Una to link to some of their shittier shit for the purposes of this thread, and some of their dresses are <whispers> actually not too bad shock. What is going on?? Please, please tell me I've not gone over to the dark side without realising it sad

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Maeve789 Sat 11-Jan-14 19:40:19

Hair plus leopard print. Bet lynch

sunshinemmum Sat 11-Jan-14 20:16:40

I am 45, some of my friends look amazing in minis, but regret even wearing them when I was younger and slimmer, because I have very short legs. Over the last couple of years my necklines have been getting higher and scoop rather than a V neck, as I am getting crepey. I think it depends on the individual.

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