Can a 40 year old wear...

(163 Posts)
Loonytoonie Sun 01-Dec-13 16:24:02

...denim shorts and thick tights? Possibly with chunky boots, maybe with ballerina shoes (black), and a fairly plainish long sleeve fitted top.

I have a fairly muscular build and decent legs. DH reckons I'm too old for that....

burnishedsilver Sun 01-Dec-13 16:30:41

Definitely not.

Middleagedmotheroftwo Sun 01-Dec-13 16:31:12

No. Too old.

Its a young person's look. Sorry OP

FlirtingFail Sun 01-Dec-13 16:32:11

Yes of course you can! I think this can look great on all ages.

OneHolyCow Sun 01-Dec-13 16:33:04

'course you can. What are you supposed to wear from now on? Granny dresses?

burnishedsilver Sun 01-Dec-13 16:34:16

I mean definitely cannot wear them as opposed to definitely not too old!

I think 25 is probably the upper limit.

HoHolepew Sun 01-Dec-13 16:34:22

Yes. Of course.

feelinlucky Sun 01-Dec-13 16:34:29

I don't like it but you can wear whatever you like and feel good in.

Marylou2 Sun 01-Dec-13 16:35:41

Of course you can.It's a look I think looks great on Caitlin Moran and she's maybe late 30s?

FlirtingFail Sun 01-Dec-13 16:36:14

Yes I was thinking of Caitlin Moran too.

annieorangutan Sun 01-Dec-13 16:37:17

Im 30 and I do it. I dont think I will be stopping any time soon.

annieorangutan Sun 01-Dec-13 16:38:28

Lots of celebs in their 30s/40s do it as well.

perplexedpirate Sun 01-Dec-13 16:38:33

No, you must now only wear shapeless smocks that disguise your shamefully old self.

Bollocks to that! Of course you can wear what you like!

Cutteduppumpkin Sun 01-Dec-13 16:38:46

I wouldn't, it's a teens and 20s look. There's plenty you can wear without resorting to granny dresses though wink

MrsPMT Sun 01-Dec-13 16:38:49

Yes, of course, agree with others, wear whatever you like.

I wouldn't, but I wouldn't have worn this at age 20, not my kind of thing (hate tights and only wear them when I absolutely have to!).

mammadiggingdeep Sun 01-Dec-13 16:51:21

I would if could and I'm 35...need to lose a stone first. Go for it

TondelayoSchwarzkopf Sun 01-Dec-13 17:05:07

No, you are 40 now and you must only wear things from Carr and Westley.

I mean what are you thinking? You're the same age as Victoria Beckham, Kate Moss and me and are younger than J-Lo, Tess Daley and Halle Berry. And you never see them without a tartan shopping trolley and a sensible cardie.

dexter73 Sun 01-Dec-13 17:14:22

I generally think that you can wear most things at any age but denim shorts and tights is a no from me. I think tweedy or wool shorts look nice but denim shorts and tights is such a teenager look to me.

satsumagirl Sun 01-Dec-13 17:20:10

Totally cool. Perhaps with a chunky ankle boot or flat boot?

I think that look is strange on anyone as for me shorts are meant to be worn in hot weather. Not a question of age. How about a short denim skirt and thick tints I stead?

FunInTheSunD Sun 01-Dec-13 17:25:45

yes of course you can. .. as long as the shorts don't come up to high so your arse cheeks are hanging out, as that look doesn't look good on anyone IMO...

Roshbegosh Sun 01-Dec-13 17:30:41

Well if you look like Kate Moss or Victoria Beckham then fine, but otherwise you will look a bit desperate and ridiculous. Sorry but it's true.

Octopus37 Sun 01-Dec-13 17:31:02

Yes, I am 38 and sometimes were shorts with opaque tights underneath, with either pump type shoes or boots

AdventColander Sun 01-Dec-13 17:43:14

Well I wouldnt (nearly 50) but it doesnt mean you have to dress like a frump either! Could you wear the boots & thick tights with a short denim skirt instead? Sorry but this is definitely a look for teens/early 20s and looks a bit mutton dressed as lamb on anyone older.

annieorangutan Sun 01-Dec-13 17:46:33

The same goes for young girls though roshbegosh if you havent got similar physiques to them at 18 its probably very unwise to wear shorts.

AdventColander Sun 01-Dec-13 17:47:36

Could you wear patterned or bright coloured skinny jeans? I have some, dont feel muttony in them as long as my bum is covered

I wouldn't, I must say (although I am 50 and not 40). I do however wear skinny jeans with brightly patterned tunic tops (maybe I should not do that either...). I agree with Advent, if my bum is covered I feel I can get away with it.

glowgirl Sun 01-Dec-13 17:57:14

If you are trendy and slim then yes, this look doesnt look good on anyone overweight of any age.

TondelayoSchwarzkopf Sun 01-Dec-13 17:58:50

Well if you look like Kate Moss or Victoria Beckham then fine, but otherwise you will look a bit desperate and ridiculous.

The OP asked if she was too old to wear it - not if she was too thin / non-supermodel-ish. She has good legs and is in good shape.

Also your comment is ageist. biscuit

Twinklestein France Sun 01-Dec-13 18:04:22

Def not but you could wear black shorts.

noddyholder Sun 01-Dec-13 18:05:53

I agree it depends on your general look and figure.

Roshbegosh Sun 01-Dec-13 18:08:35

Yes true annie but older people should have learnt something about how to dress. Surely someone in early middle age should have a bit of dignity and self awareness by then. I agree it does not look good on a lot of young girls but I can make allowances for them when they show off fat thighs, bellies and even their labia. Isn't that even worse on older women? Even if slim there are still much better looks to choose when you hit 40. The body shape changes, fact. It looks desperate and ridiculous. Everyone can do it, no law against it, but they will look like the sad old fart hanging around with youngsters at a club deluded about how young they look.

noddyholder Sun 01-Dec-13 18:08:59

looks good and she is not tiny

noddyholder Sun 01-Dec-13 18:09:38

Rosh that is rubbish

Roshbegosh Sun 01-Dec-13 18:14:25

Isn't there an upper age limit then? Honestly.

annieorangutan Sun 01-Dec-13 18:21:35

Depends if you look old roshbegosh Im 30 and often get mistaken for 17-19. Doubt when Im 40 I will look over 30. 40 is young nowadays if you have good genes and look after yourself.

noddyholder Sun 01-Dec-13 18:21:58

You know when something doesn't suit YOU anymore I have mates my age 48 who still could wear it. I would wear shorts not denim and tights s its not my style.

duckyfuzz Sun 01-Dec-13 18:34:33

Rosh what unbelievable ageist sexist crap

AngryBuddha Sun 01-Dec-13 18:38:56

Yes you can.

I am nearly 40, I do I wear it with a tailored jacket and long necklace or scarf. You only live once, wear whatever you want!

50ShadesOfMaybe Sun 01-Dec-13 18:39:36

OP: of course you can.

Do you like it? Do you think you look good? Wear it.

(I wore similar yesterday and I have a couple of years on you.)

rainbowfeet Sun 01-Dec-13 18:39:47

No shock

MrsCampbellBlack Sun 01-Dec-13 18:41:20

I wouldn't but that's because I don't like denim shorts with tights at any age. However some nice wool/flannel ones with opaques would look great with perhaps a nice cashmere jumper.

I'd dress it down if showing a lot of leg.

It's nothing to do with age.and everything to do with personal style and body shape (shape, not size).

MarshaBrady Sun 01-Dec-13 18:49:27

As others have said, more to do with style.

Financeprincess Sun 01-Dec-13 18:49:43

I wouldn't because I don't want to look like a 42 year old woman who wishes she were a teenager. You can wear lovely, stylish stuff that's age appropriate; you don't have to shop at Eastex and Jacques Vert! I wore very short skirts and denim shorts a lot when I was younger because I had the figure for it. I still do, but I don't want to look like mutton!

Pinupgirl Sun 01-Dec-13 18:58:13

I wouldn't but only because its completely not my style. If you like it then by all means wear it.

Financeprincess Sun 01-Dec-13 19:04:44

I'm unconvinced by the 'wear it if it's your style' argument. What if a 70 year old decided that sequinned hot pants and a bra top was her style? It would still look bl**dy awful! wouldn't it?

annieorangutan Sun 01-Dec-13 19:07:16

Financeprincess - As has been mentioned people like jlo, vb, tess daly etc are around/above that age and look good in that kind of stuff.

Earningsthread Sun 01-Dec-13 19:08:09

It's hard to know what to wear in your forties. Because the denim shorts and black opaque tights are strictly for teenagers. They are really. But at the same time, no forty-something wants to wear something shapeless in polyester from M&S. I think Hobbs is brilliant for 40 somethings. Nice mini skirt, long boots, nice tights. fitted jumper or nice shirt.

lifesgreatquestions Sun 01-Dec-13 19:09:44

I think this is going to be about quality and style, as well as having a good body for it. As you've described it OP, with the plain sweater, I think it would be fine... so long as the shorts were adult shorts and not the ones to show off your unmentionables.

Earningsthread Sun 01-Dec-13 19:13:21

DD (15) went out in denim shorts and black opaques and her black leather jacket today and far too much make-up (the eyebrows looked as though they hailed from Liverpool). She asked for my approval (Do I look okay Mum). She looked beautiful in spite of the perfectly dreadful outfit and make up. What can you say?

But I will say that if someone tells you that the look isn't working for you, you should listen. Get your colours done, find some funky clothes that are age appropriate and never ever wear a scouse brow. My daughter's cheekbones and heart-shaped face are to die for, but atm, all anyone will look at is the slugs above her eyes.

Financeprincess Sun 01-Dec-13 19:18:04

You can be sure that JLo, Tess Daly etc will not be wearing sequinned hot pants at the age of 70, Annieorangutan.

Casmama Sun 01-Dec-13 19:24:02

Unless your dh frequently puts you down or criticises you then I would be inclined to take his work for it.
Perhaps try a different material for the shorts as denim shorts are pretty teenaged IMO.

out2lunch Sun 01-Dec-13 19:24:11

uh no def a look for teens

who would want to look like c moran?

annieorangutan Sun 01-Dec-13 19:25:17

I know but op isnt 70 shes only 40. At 20/30/40 as long as you are slim and great body you can wear whatever you want.

Selks Sun 01-Dec-13 19:26:42

I thought this style was well out of fashion now, unless you're 13? Rather ridiculous on anyone over the age of 19 IMO.

But I'm no fashionista. If you like it OP go for it.

I wear black or lace shorts for going out (with opaques and heels) but don't think I'd do denim ones tbh.

LatinForTelly Sun 01-Dec-13 19:36:39

<faints at Tess Daly being 44>

I know nothing about fashion but the woman in the link looks nice. Also Caitlin Moran rocks them and she's late 30s. If it's your style, go for it.

IamInvisible Sun 01-Dec-13 19:36:42

I'm 42, size 8 with good legs but would not wear it. I don't look 42, but I think I'd look a bit desperate tbh. I'd wear tweed, black or checked shorts and thick tights.

There are lots of things you can wear without looking like an old woman or trying to look like a teenager.

kerstina Sun 01-Dec-13 19:49:42

Yes you can but why would you want to wear the same thing as a load of sheep teenagers who have not developed their own style yet. Its just not a good look and am surprised its still in fashion.

perplexedpirate Sun 01-Dec-13 21:26:23

If a 70 year old woman wanted to wear sequinned shorts and a bra top, more power to her.
Fashion is supposed to be fun, not just following a bunch of arbitrary rules.

TondelayoSchwarzkopf Sun 01-Dec-13 21:29:43

I'd rather be a 70 year old in sequinned hotpants than a 40 year old in Hobbs.

Not every woman wants to stop trying different things and looks because 'she knows her style and what suits her' ---- zzzzzzz

Karbea Sun 01-Dec-13 21:32:38

Depends, if you want to look like a women trying to dress like a child/teenager go for it. If you aspire to be a stylish women then definitely not.

southeastastra Sun 01-Dec-13 21:38:18

fashion is fun, go for it. or be a bore and wear per una or white stuff wink

why does every 40 something woman i see have a gilet?

MrsYoungSalvoMontalbano Sun 01-Dec-13 21:44:35

I would not want tot look like Caitlin Moran, but if you want to - why not? The great thing is that herw, and now, we women can do whatever the hell we like. So do it! And be grateful, and do it as well for those women the world over who can't.

Financeprincess Sun 01-Dec-13 21:56:53

Yeah, you CAN wear whatever you want. It's entirely your prerogative if you want to look ridiculous. The OP may or may not look like mutton in her denim shorts, who knows? But to say that anyone can wear anything "if they like it and it is their style" overlooks the fact that doing so risks looking absurd, or at the very least not as nice as they could look.

southeastastra Sun 01-Dec-13 22:00:00

yes don't risk not looking 'nice' grin

Heathcliff27 Sun 01-Dec-13 22:06:08

I wouldn't and i'm 40, I also wouldn't wear shapeless tunics.

Belize Sun 01-Dec-13 22:06:36

Noddy the lady in that link looks fantastic but it does help that she is beautiful and def not the wrong side of 50! grin.

I have great legs (without the face to match sadly) and wear woolly tights and fairly short skirts but would draw the line at shorts esp denim (in my late 40's).

KateCroydon Sun 01-Dec-13 22:07:32

Yes, of course you can. Caveat - I'm assuming 'shorts' is not 'hotpants'.

Belize Sun 01-Dec-13 22:08:09

MrsYoung, I like your point about us being so lucky that we can wear pretty much whatever we like in this country without fear of reprisals smile.

LumpySpacePrincessOhMyGlob Sun 01-Dec-13 22:09:50

Wear what you like. We only have one pop at this life.

MrsDeVere Sun 01-Dec-13 22:14:48

Of course you can bloody wear them.

Why the hell would you ask if you are allowed to wear something.

The main advantage of NOT being a sodding teenager is that you don't have to ask anyone or give a flying feck what they think about what you wear.

HavantGuard Sun 01-Dec-13 22:15:05

No. It would look tragic - like you're desperate to be 15 again.

MrsDeVere Sun 01-Dec-13 22:17:37

Best order that Joules gilet then OP
And perhaps a nice scarf to add a pop of colour next to your face.
And remember never wear white before May Day.

DumSpiroSpero Sun 01-Dec-13 22:18:14

If you will feel comfortable (physically and not self conscious) in it, then wear it.

I think it would probably work better with boots than ballet flats personally though.

NoComet Sun 01-Dec-13 22:20:38

I think a short skirt or non denim shorts might be safer, but only because my 12y lives in denim shorts over leggings (assorted colours) and my 15y wouldn't put on her shorts except in hot weather.

southeastastra Sun 01-Dec-13 22:28:17

ooh and don't forget to get your colours done grin

HavantGuard Sun 01-Dec-13 22:33:50

You don't have to dress old to avoid dressing like a teenager. Nothing makes women look older than appropriating teenage style because we're all so used to seeing them wear that the contrast is deeply unflattering, especially that jaw dropping moment when the person turns round and you see an 36 year old face on what you assumed was a 16 year old. There are styles that 25 year olds wouldn't touch because they are too young.

noddyholder Sun 01-Dec-13 22:58:07

Mrsdevere grin

Lottapianos Sun 01-Dec-13 23:15:11

Wear what you want. If you genuinely feel good in it, then go for it. Why the hell not? I'm 34 and I wear denim shorts and tights and have no intention of stopping any time soon. I don't know what's supposed to magically happen at 40 that makes certain looks NOT OK ANYMORE

Financeprincess Sun 01-Dec-13 23:28:12

Nothing magically happens at 40. Don't be facile. You can be too old for some styles when you are 34 (to pick a random number). The point is, sometimes you have to accept that certain items of clothing will make you look like mutton, or silly, and you have to take that into account.

I'd live to still be wearing micro mini skirts, as I did up until my early 30s, but I had to accept that it didn't look as good when I was a bit older and that different styles suited me better.

The OP quite reasonably asked whether, at her age, she could get away with denim shorts. She's not asking for permission; she wants to gather impartial opinions.

By all means live according to the "I'll wear what I like!" principle, but if you do, don't complain when people are critical of your appearance.

Financeprincess Sun 01-Dec-13 23:29:14

I'd LOVE, not I'd LIVE. I don't miss pelmet skirts that much.

Belize Sun 01-Dec-13 23:29:23

Lotta, it isn't that it's not ok it just looks daft and a bit tragic. Not a look I strive for if I'm honest grin!

SlicedLemon Sun 01-Dec-13 23:44:29

As someone over 40 a huge part of me thinks wear what you feel happy in and sod anyone else but I have become aware of tge jaw drop scenario lately. Thankfully not at myself but 2 of my trendy mates.
What I mean by the jaw drop is when some sees you from z dustance or ftom behind. You look young and fab by your clothes, even have a great figure and good legs etc. but then you turn around with your 40yo face and your admirer automatically drops their jaw in shock or surprise.
Not a nice experiencesad .

SlicedLemon Sun 01-Dec-13 23:46:56

But actually I do strongly believe wear what you like znd enjoy it. Chances are you will never look this fab again. In 10 years time you will think "wow I was quite good for 40. what was i so worried about? "smile smile

ProphetOfDoom Sun 01-Dec-13 23:55:25

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

LondonNinja Sun 01-Dec-13 23:58:44

Wear what you feel good in! Sod everyone else. As long as you feel confident in it, you'll wear the outfit (rather than it wearing you)...

Sod dressing at Hobbs - I'm in my mid-40s and would hate to feel that I had to wear some of their frumpy stuff. Some is nice, but, er, not as a 'look'.

southeastastra Sun 01-Dec-13 23:58:59

sliced lemon that is just such a depressing way to look at things

so you care what some random stranger would think if they saw your shock horror over 40 face???

what does it matter what strangers think? blimey life is too short to not take advantage of the fun we have in the UK with fashion

HavantGuard Mon 02-Dec-13 00:00:43

You can wear all sorts of stuff without touching on a style that's the preserve of tweenies/teens.

sparklysilversequins Mon 02-Dec-13 00:01:26

Yes of course you can OP. I am 42 and do. My last boyfriend who was gorgeous and 30 certainly seemed to like it smile.

eden263 Mon 02-Dec-13 00:07:34

Wear what you feel happy in, sod what anyone else thinks.

treaclesoda Mon 02-Dec-13 00:07:41

can I hijack slightly to tell you all how I fell in love with this look 25 years ago as a 13 year old, after I saw it in a fashion magazine.

My dad refused to let me out of the house, not on the groubds of decency, but on the grounds that it was 'disrespectful to my family' to 'dress so strangely'. grin

treaclesoda Mon 02-Dec-13 00:08:51

I haven't worn this look since I was about 18, but I say if you want to, go for it, why not?

JollyGolightly Mon 02-Dec-13 00:16:01

Are your legs fabulous? If so, go for it.

FlirtingFail Mon 02-Dec-13 05:50:11

"I'd rather be a 70 year old in sequinned hotpants than a 40 year old in Hobbs." - yes to this! Also yes to looking back and thinking "I looked good for 40, why didn't I wear it."

IMO, it is far far more aging to wear frumpier age-appropriate stuff. Surely the point of wearing this kind of thing at 40 is not that you think you look 17, but that it's fun?

annieorangutan Mon 02-Dec-13 06:07:26

God thay hobbs stuff is frumpy. I have not ever seen it before it looks like stuff my 60 year old mum would like.

Ifancyashandy Mon 02-Dec-13 06:43:50

No to Hobbs, Phase 8, White Stuff, Joules et al. Boring and frumpy.

I'm 44. In the last week I've worn short tweed shorts with black opaques and pointed brogues as well as a leather skater skirt with ankle boots, pleather leggings and leather jeans. I'm often complimented on my style & have bloody great legs. Damned if I'm keeping all my light under a bushel! I work bloody hard at keeping fit and intend to dress to please myself for the rest of my life.

Wear whatever you feel comfortable in / suits you.

ithaka Mon 02-Dec-13 06:51:41

Not denim - but then, I would say 'no' to a denim skirt as well, too Pamela Anderson.

It is not a look I like on anyone over teenage years, but as long as the shorts aren't denim, you could probably get away with it. I am not sure why you would want to.

Ifancyashandy Mon 02-Dec-13 06:53:49

'Im not sure why you would want to'

Presumably because the OP likes the look.

SlicedLemon Mon 02-Dec-13 08:38:42

southeastastra - whats so depressing? And no I am not worried what people actually think but my friend certainly was upset - she said so. We did "laugh" about it later but all can think of times its happend before times people have told me about (and laughed about in my youth) and even when we have seen people ourselves from behind etc and been quite surprised when they turn around that they are nearer 40 than 20. Its a sad fact of life that if you have a certain look and even if it suits you and you look fab - people dont automatically expect you to be over a certain age in that look.

And yes - I think hell of a lot of women look back at their 20yo selves and wish they hadn't been so insecure in their appearrance back then and think "what was I worried about, I would die for that figure now/tits to be in the right place now etc". Its a life lesson and wisdom that grows with you as a person that now I am 40 - yeah I dont look a pert maybe as I did at 20 but I will look back at how I look now in 10/20 years time and think "bloodyhell woman, you looked damn good, what were you worried about". Wear it now.

I reallly try not to judge people on how they look but I am only human yep sometimes it happens but I would never be so rude to say anything.

50ShadesOfMaybe Mon 02-Dec-13 08:50:27

Presumably because the OP likes the look <-- This

That should be the criteria. Do I like the look? Does it suit me? Not: what age can I wear this.

What did you do, OP?

noddyholder Mon 02-Dec-13 09:38:40

Agree southeast the 'she turned round and aaah the 40 yr old face" is always churned out on these threads. I have never seen it happen irl. If you feel good wear what you like. Some people also have a young vibe I can't but its just there

MrsDeVere Mon 02-Dec-13 11:27:18

So we have to dress for everyone else do we?

Sod that.

One of the advantages of being middle aged is that I am lucky enough to remember punk and the fabulous women who said 'fuck you' and dressed in what they liked, not to flatter and seduce.

If you care about what others think, dressing the way you think you should etc that is if fine by me.

I shall wear what I want to.

Floisme Mon 02-Dec-13 11:35:30

Op, do you like this look still? Does it make you feel good? If the answer is yes, then stuff what anyone says or thinks. The first rule of fashion is that it should make you happy.

But if you're starting to feel uncomfortable then you could tweak that look quite easily. As other posters have said, just swap the denim for tailored shorts and you're good to go for years to come!

Heathcliff27 Mon 02-Dec-13 12:18:22

Wear what you want!

My rules for myself and myself only is not to wear anything remotely similar to what my sons 19 year old girlfriend would wear. I'm 40, quite stylish (40 year old word for trendy) and proud to be my age. I don't want to look like i'm trying to be 20 again, been there done that.

Lottapianos Mon 02-Dec-13 12:34:03

'Lotta, it isn't that it's not ok it just looks daft and a bit tragic'

off to get 'daft and a bit tragic' printed on a t-shirt to wear with my denim shorts and tights grin Shall we put in a bulk order?

'I shall wear what I want to'

Well you go ahead and do that MrsDeVere but don't come crying to me when FinancePrincess is 'critical of your appearance' as you will only have yourself to blame wink Or maybe you won't give a finger of fudge

I love that I've been called 'facile' on a thread about denim shorts and tights grin

BanoffeeSplitz Mon 02-Dec-13 13:01:31

Surely your reaction to the jaw drop scenario is just down to whether you are a glass half full or a glass half empty person.

I would think either an excuse for a laugh with the person who's inadvertently done it - or if their response is bad-mannered, then an excuse to think they are a twat.

Belize Mon 02-Dec-13 13:14:59

Lotta, in theory I love the idea of wearing what ever you like at whatever age but in practice in can look a bit sad though.

Saying that I do wear short skirts and woolly tights, just can't quite take it to the denim shorts!

cloudskitchen Mon 02-Dec-13 14:44:41

I don't think so. that's my 11 year old dd's go to uniform but cant imagine wearing it myself

AgeingFop Mon 02-Dec-13 15:06:46

Banoffee, noddy, Sliced: I'm definitely a glass half-full person.

If I ever walk up behind someone and, when they turn around, seem older than I assumed, I think Wow! Great figure for 40+. If you've got it, flaunt it or some such - rather than How dare she dress from Top Shop? Doesn't she know it's time for Hobbs the terrible disgrace to womankind?

I have stuff from both Hobbs and Topshop - so what does that say about me?! I still wear shorts. I have (gasp) an over 40 face. Some of the comments on here are ridiculous - I've got a nice pair of legs and a half decent arse - what the hell does it matter if I turn round and reveal my 40 something face?

I actually WANT to wear denim shorts and DMs now! smile

TondelayoSchwarzkopf Mon 02-Dec-13 22:06:35

There is definitely a problem if someone's jaw drops when they see a forty something face.

But the problem is with them

MummyofIsla Mon 02-Dec-13 22:10:28

Oh dear goodness no! But then its a look that baffles me on people of any age over about 10 confused

Floisme Tue 03-Dec-13 08:18:53

You can argue that some more revealing styles look better on tauter/smoother aka younger bodies. I subscribe to that myself, mostly (although I would still defend anyone's right to wear whatever they want). For example, I now avoid anything sleeveless because my arms don't cut it any more. But the look the op describes covers you from your neck to your toes. You would have thought that all it required was a pair of shapely legs. But no, apparently you have to have an under-40 face as well. Well I know which attitude I think is 'sad'.

And while I'm at it, there are some strange things being said about said about Hobbs, Phase 8 etc as well. Lighten up people, they're only clothes!

Anyway I'm way over 40 and I'm off to work, wearing H&M, Boden, Me & Em and Top Shop. Quick, someone call the police.

DorisHerod Tue 03-Dec-13 10:11:16

I read this thread yesterday and in honour of it, dug out my denim shorts and wore them with thick tights and suede boots on the school run this morning.

I am 45 and quite a chubster.

I really couldn't give the tiniest hoot what anyone thinks. Like mrs dv I remember punk and I can dig my outfits from that era out of the loft and wear those if you want something to really look at.

OneHolyCow Tue 03-Dec-13 13:28:28

Hear hear for Doris! Now where is my tartan mini skirt .....

itwillgetbettersoon Tue 03-Dec-13 18:22:25

This thread has made me feel old!

If you have the figure for it and it makes you feel good wear what you want. I hate Hobbs, monsoon, Mary porter stuff and a lot of m&s just so frumpy. And guess what I'm nearly 49 - quick hide my over 40s face.

It isn't men that are ageist it is women against other women!!

The Mary Porter stuff is mostly really, really horrible.

itwillgetbettersoon Tue 03-Dec-13 18:50:01

I agree Remus. It is advertised for the over 40s but I think it is a lot older - or perhaps I'm just not sophisticated enough.

MummyofIsla Tue 03-Dec-13 19:11:07

Have to agree with Floisme, don't get the issue with clothing stores like Phase 8 and certainly not White Stuff (more akin to Fat Face I would say rather than Hobbs) It isn't about what you wear so much as how you wear it IMO.

Just as an example example from Hobbs - IMO (at 22 not Frumpy at all and would look great on anyone!)

MummyofIsla Tue 03-Dec-13 19:12:25

Also LOOOOVE Monsoon!

burnishedsilver Tue 03-Dec-13 19:16:30

Well done to this if you who think there's no such thing as mutton dressed as lamb or who dont care if there is. Loonietoonie obviously doesnt feel the same though, or she wouldn't have asked the question.

Floisme Tue 03-Dec-13 19:40:41

My understanding was that Loonietoonie felt fine until her DH made a comment. That's not the same thing at all.

Anyway where is the op? I want to know what she's going to do grin

I think it is a bad look on most!

Regardless of age.

Though possibly worse on an 82 yr old than on a 12 yr okd.

To me this style is like dungarees, cute on kids only.

noddyholder Tue 03-Dec-13 20:46:42

Mary Portas knickers are AMAZING

DorisHerod Tue 03-Dec-13 21:21:44

I think 'mutton dressed as a lamb' is such an anti-women phrase. It's specifically used to put down older women who won't go quietly into middle age as society seems to require.

Well b*lls to that !

TondelayoSchwarzkopf Tue 03-Dec-13 21:41:18

Totally agree Doris. What a vile misogynist phrase that is.

I need to go and channel some Samantha Jones quotes after some of the ageism going on this thread.

Karbea Tue 03-Dec-13 21:41:32

I'd definitely like to know if I were mutton dressed as lamb, wouldn't care if it was a man or women or someone younger or older than me, as long as I was told if I was making an idiot of myself.

Doris - you made me think of, 'Do not go gentle' with that post. Indeed.

DorisHerod Tue 03-Dec-13 21:53:24

YY Remus that's what I was trying to think of but it wouldn't pop into my head!

I just looked it up and read it with tears in my eyes...what a great passion and fire he had.

'I will burn and rave at close of day', for sure.

Darna Tue 03-Dec-13 22:35:36

It think it depends if you look 40 in the face whether you can get away with it

kaumana Tue 03-Dec-13 22:47:44

Ah hell no to fitting fashion to your face! That is complete bollocks.

Karbea Tue 03-Dec-13 23:34:08

I actually don't understand why people would want to dress age Inappropriately. Younger girls clothes are often so tarty, whereas women's clothes are more classy, surely as you age you learn what looks good rather than trying to rebel, test things out, scream out for attention etc... All things young girls want to do.
I'm often bemused by some of the things people ask if they should wear...

Rojak Wed 04-Dec-13 00:31:41

I live in the tropics and often wear denim shorts (short, not mid-thigh, and no tights) with a t shirt - I wear this doing the school run too.

I have great legs and am in pretty good shape for mid-40s.

It would be a shame not to wear it while I can smile

Floisme Wed 04-Dec-13 06:54:25

Good point about 'mutton dressed as lamb', I have never once heard it said of a man. Some mumsnetters (not just on this thread) seem scared stiff of older women. Do they think wrinkles are catching??

Floisme Wed 04-Dec-13 07:36:41

Karbea, older women choose clothes for all kinds of reasons, bit like young people really smile Yes, it can be nice to look classy and wear what suits you but sometimes it's also fun to take a risk, rebel or just have a laugh. And isn't that what fashion's all about?

MrsDavidBowie Wed 04-Dec-13 07:43:51

I am 53, six feet tall with 34 inch long slim legs and am size 12.

I like fitted short (24inch) length skirts, thick tights, knee length flat boots.
But as dd 17 wears shorts and tights, I would feel strange wearing her uniform. If I didn't have a dd I might feel differently.

Classy? If I try to look classy I just look dowdy. I'd rather look a bit daft tbh.

intitgrand Wed 04-Dec-13 08:11:01

i think it just looks like a look put together on a teenagers allowance.a different fabric would be fine

Karbea Wed 04-Dec-13 08:19:49

Oh I think men can, an older man couldn't carry off some clothes younger men do. You can still have fun with fashion without trying to look like a child. It seems people think you can only either look like a teenager or Barbara woodhouse...

50ShadesOfMaybe Wed 04-Dec-13 08:50:12

Remus, Floisme, you've both summed me up. I can't carry off "classy" I always feel not me whenever I try. I choose clothes to have fun - at least out of work. And don't see why I should stop because I'm over 40.

Anyway, I still want to know what the OP did. Am hoping she's been strutting her stuff in shorts for the last two days!

Calling Loonie, calling Loonie

Freddiefrog Wed 04-Dec-13 09:56:07

The rule I follow for myself is that if my 12 year old DD is wearing it, I don't.

She, and all her mates, are currently sporting shorts and tights at the moment, so I'm leaving that look to her

I don't normally subscribe to can't wear this/that/the other over a certain age, but there are some styles that do look rather silly on me, and I can't say I'm a fan of denim shorts over tights

I just remember seeing Nigella in this look when she did a clothes swap thing with Caitlin Moran and she looked grim- not because she doesn't have the figure to pull it off, because she does, but it just looked incredibly tacky.

Caitlin Moran could do with a refresh frankly and leave the 1990's behind.

PoshPaula Wed 04-Dec-13 12:57:22

It's so simple - wear what you want.

silverangel Wed 04-Dec-13 13:00:21

Nope. See Caitlin Moran in the Sunday Times. Too try hard.

Caitlin isstuck in the 90s fashionwise.

Somehow I don't think she gives a fuck though.

writingquestion Wed 04-Dec-13 19:57:51

I'm 40 and slim. generally told I look much younger than my age. I wouldn't.

MrsYoungSalvoMontalbano Wed 04-Dec-13 20:37:01

Denim shorts over tights on anyone looks ridiculous, difference is, 12 year old girls can look ridiculous and they don't know it - 40 year old woman oughta be able to see it.

TondelayoSchwarzkopf Wed 04-Dec-13 20:45:19

I don't think you should dress for your age. You should dress for your life, your interests and your character.

My mum is 67 and lives in ACDC t-shirts and jeans as she has done for most of my life. I can't imagine her in a tailored dress!

Same for me, I am nearly 40, work in a creative / media environment and spend the weekends chasing a 5 year old around the woods. I have spent most of my life in short skirts or jeans. It would look weird if I started wearing court shoes and LK Bennett just because of some arbitrary date on the calendar. Whereas nobody would bat an eyelid if I showed up at work in denim shorts and tights.

PoshPaula Wed 04-Dec-13 21:50:53

Tondelayo I couldn't agree more.

Floisme Wed 04-Dec-13 22:29:14

But so what if it looks ridiculous? Fashion is ridiculous - its grown women playing at dressing up FFS. It's silly and shallow and funny and fabulous. And that's the whole point.

PoshPaula Wed 04-Dec-13 22:37:33

Clothes shouldn't be too serious.

Floisme Wed 04-Dec-13 23:01:39


Do you think the op is ever coming back?

50ShadesOfMaybe Thu 05-Dec-13 09:44:23

I think the OP has been scared off - or at the very least confused. All the nay-sayers telling us its (a) tarty, (b) childish, or (c) ridiculous.

Whatever she decides, I hope she's having fun with what she wears.

DorisHerod Thu 05-Dec-13 09:58:38

Today I opted for my kilt, knee high socks (black) and biker boots. Rust coloured skinny fit jumper.

Did my hair and make up a la Bardot - flicky black lines and a long fringe with a messy up do.

Bear in mind I am 45 and a chubster. I shall wear what I jolly well like!!!

50ShadesOfMaybe Thu 05-Dec-13 10:11:12

Go for it, Doris, sounds great! I am at work today but fully intend to unleash my inner child/tart/clown on the world at the weekend!

TondelayoSchwarzkopf Thu 05-Dec-13 13:07:39

Also, and this is my last comment on this thread, I am much more judgmental about a 12 year old wearing tights and denim shorts than a 40 year old.

Roshbegosh Thu 05-Dec-13 20:42:29

No law against it Doris but why would you??? Oh dear.

DorisHerod Thu 05-Dec-13 22:13:09

Because I look fabulous in it, that's why.

PoshPaula Thu 05-Dec-13 23:27:44

Good for you, doris you go girl? I'm 44 and I love wearing biker boots, leggings, fake fur, skinnies, short(ish) skirts and coloured tights (not all at once).... I really enjoy clothes and fully intend to carry on doing so.

PoshPaula Thu 05-Dec-13 23:29:17

Meant you go girl! (Random question mark in there, sorry).

member Fri 06-Dec-13 23:18:18

Sounds perfectly fine to me & not strictly a young girls look: pre- teens tends to be reasonably modest denim shorts & leggings; teens the shorts revert to more of a hot pant length, usually no turn ups & revealing the "pantie" at the top of tight legs. In the case of teens, the tights quite often have snags / runs, aren't that thick & are teamed with whatever sneaker/clumsily style is prevalent at that time.

I think decent length shorts teamed with high denier tights & quality looking calf or below boots is absolutely fine on shapely legs on the more mature.

I really don't get the posts imploring that the OP wears a short skirt instead-mini skirts show off the equivalent amount of leg but can be far less flattering in the way they hang from any tummy.

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